the tone of the email tells me bro has zero respect for the girl. She should just leave now... if she gives in to the sex, he will chop and go. The likelihood that he sees her as wife-material is close to zero.

fyne_Ijay:

Ahn Ahn, Jidegirl, you too make mouth. Maybe your father has laid the foundation for you, cos I guess you are from a priviledged home.
It's okay to have integrity, but you Jide you try to insult anybody who tries to paint a contrary opinion when it comes to things that has to do with wealth.
Abegi, life is not the way you think it. The Rich sometimes cry oooh.

^^^ yup ... I take after ma papa.... go hug a transformer if it bothers you

davidylan: the tone of the email tells me bro has zero respect for the girl. She should just leave now... if she gives in to the sex, he will chop and go. The likelihood that he sees her as wife-material is close to zero.

Davidylan, I agree that the guy has zero respect for the lady; the lady too has zero respect for herself. If she has, the guy won't send such a mail to her with that kind of tone. The lady should give herself brain and set her priorities right.

As for me, no man can send such to me because I won't bring myself to the level that will make him talk to me that way or disrespect me. I respect you, you respect me; relationship matter is a two-way traffic for me. You do for me, I do for you. No one is being taken for granted.

Ladies should start valuing themselves and stop all these corporate begging from guys for things that don't add value to their lives and destinies.

I don't even understand how a grown man will be begging for se,x. The man should go and watch THE SPECIALIST... the part the don's son said, "whatever I want, I take".

IMO, I think the guy has blocked his chances of ever reaping from the punny. Naija girls will always be Naija girls. Begging is in their blood stream.

I have met a number of this "secondary virgins", so I have learnt not to listen to what they are saying. Agreed Se,x is not food, but what else can a 'low esteemed', 'corporate begger' offer moi. The simply answer is nothing.
I don't beg for s,ex, and will never beg for s,ex. If I must shoulder your responsibilty, financial and otherwise, I must enter that place. It is non-negotiable.
I had one like that, who withdrew her punny saying "it's becoming too much", I simply withdrew my wallet, sighting hard times. She moved on to another di.ck, I moved on to another p.unny.

Life is simple, if you understand human nature (humans are simply selfish).

salsera: Daniel Craig!!!

I was a DIE HARD NONFAN if there is such a word

until I saw that clip where he dropped down and adjusted that suit! I became a believer.

What about the clip where he ran after a train in that suit?

Or when he wore that butt hugging black jean in his parents house?

debrief08: Jenny that suit no get part 2, I don't remember much of that movie but I remember him in that suit, oh Lord have mercy

That suit can turn a NUN into a fornicator.


For all have sinned and come short............I am going to church for confession, see you, CC, and salsera there

@the Cabals, una don successfully derail this thread with talk about Brazilian hair and DC. Well done

eagle,eye:
@the Cabals, una don successfully derail this thread with talk about Brazilian hair and DC. Well done

Nor mind them jare

jennykadry:

That suit can turn a NUN into a fornicator.


For all have sinned and come short............I am going to church for confession, see you, CC, and salsera there

Lmao!!

By the time all of una done "confess" finish, that poor priest's not gonna know what hit him!

Interesting topic. As usual, the females here avoided the most important issues raised in the frustrated man's email. The two points highlighted below are extremely important, and females that are able to provide honest and sensible answers to them would realise the futility of trying this 'no sex' nonsense with any normal man.

“Look baby, you can’t date a 37yrs old man who has been se.xually active for the past 12 years and tell him you want to date him without se.x. POINT NO.1 What am I supposed to do when I want to have it- look for a LovePeddler? Yet you want me to be faithful to you? One of these pro-abstinence-yet-I-must-have-a-boyfriend girls here should kindly answer this question. What should the man do about his sexual NEEDS? The funny thing is that such girls NEVER want to marry a virgin boy, they prefer a sexually experienced/active man, who should somehow 'hibernate' his sexual urges until the wedding night. How is that possible?.

For your info, ladies who want to wait till they marry don’t shouldn't date [True]. They marry by ‘God’s will’ through prayers, prophesies, and miracles. If you can’t take care of me, I can’t do same for you either. You told me you are not a virgin. POINT NO.2 I am tired of girls like you who take advantage of good men who respect women, but when you meet a ‘bad boy’ who beats you, slaps you, treat you like an object, you cry for him, beg him, kneel down to lick his thing, and do anything he says. . .[True or false? After all, we have seen this happen countless times, so why should any sensible man put himself in the 'mugun' good man situation?]

pro01: Interesting topic. As usual, the females here avoided the most important issues raised in the frustrated man's email. The two points highlighted below are extremely important, and females that are able to provide honest and sensible answers to them would realise the futility of trying this 'no sex' nonsense with any normal man.

how can they answer bros...
the guy is a s.ex crazed maniac who has gotten what he derserves
More power to the women

Suprise! Suprise!! Suprise!!!. Suprised to hear this? Boyfriend and Girlfriend are still together. God knows what's keeping them together. Some things cannot be explained with words. I suspect there was a compromise btw 2 adults but not sure from whose side..the girl looks too serious to compromise on this. So this will remain a mystery. I heard there are other ways to get a man s.xually satiisfied, and squeeze stuff out without 'what you are thinking' !! Men, men, men!

Woged2005: Suprise! Suprise!! Suprise!!!. Suprised to hear this? Boyfriend and Girlfriend are still together. God knows what's keeping them together. Some things cannot be explained with words. I suspect there was a compromise btw 2 adults but not sure from whose side..the girl looks too serious to compromise on this. So this will remain a mystery. I heard there are other ways to get a man s.xually satiisfied, and squeeze stuff out without 'what you are thinking' !! Men, men, men!

Or perhaps they do genuinely love each other and were just showing that indeed there is no relationship that is not without its frustrations. Nobody is perfect... perhaps madam has scaled down her demands and bros realizes that sex aside, madam is the one for him. Or perhaps madam has decided it really isnt worth it losing oga over the congo?

Woged2005: Suprise! Suprise!! Suprise!!!. Suprised to hear this? Boyfriend and Girlfriend are still together. God knows what's keeping them together. Some things cannot be explained with words. I suspect there was a compromise btw 2 adults but not sure from whose side..the girl looks too serious to compromise on this. So this will remain a mystery. I heard there are other ways to get a man s.xually satiisfied, and squeeze stuff out without 'what you are thinking' !! Men, men, men!

we know wat it is.. keep guessing there

Woged2005: The lady in question is 28yrs, the man is about 35/37yrs. They’ve been dating without s,ex for the past one year..the man has a job but the lady only has a menial job and occasionally asks for his help as boyfriend. Suddenly the man exploded last week, and sent her this angry email below. The girl doesn’t want to end the relationship but want to negotiate a peaceful settlement- some suggested options by friends are:

1).Let him go
2).Allow him to see other girls, and don't be jealous
3).perform other types of s.ex for him (oral, with hand, coital with panties on, etc no penetration).
4).Let him do it (suggestion mostly by guy). etc.


She’s afraid he might do it and abandon her. Shocked, speechless and short of words. Any suggestion how to respond to this? Seriously, confusion galore!

Read his email below:

“Look baby, you can’t date a 37yrs old man who has been se.xually active for the past 12 years and tell him you want to date him without se.x. What am I supposed to do when I want to have it- look for a LovePeddler? Yet you want me to be faithful to you? You don’t want se.x but you want me to buy you gifts, hair weaves, give you money, take you to restaurants and concerts like other girls. What do I get - texts : ‘luv u’. ‘miss u’, ‘gotcha’, ‘lol’, ‘lmao’,etc when I am not sure you do?

For your info, ladies who want to wait till they marry don’t date. They marry by ‘God’s will’ through prayers, prophesies, and miracles. If you can’t take care of me, I can’t do same for you either. You told me you are not a virgin. I am tired of girls like you who take advantage of good men who respect women, but when you meet a ‘bad boy’ who beats you, slaps you, treat you like an object, you cry for him, beg him, kneel down to lick his thing, and do anything he says, and say “he beats me because he is jealous because he loves me..it’s my fault” . You’re a typical ‘smart’ naija girl! America hasn’t changed you. Please the rule is ‘if you don’t give, don’t ask’. Anyway I don’t blame you” (end)

So woged, what do u have to say? Relationship is abt mutual respect and consent. If they both sign an agreement and at this point one is uncomfortable with the agreement, then there is a need to review such agreement. But if they fail to come to a peaceful conclusion/compromise they should part way.

Its not about sex, its about the agreement that they both signed. Nobody has any right to put a fellow human under undue pressure.

chaircover:

LOL you have a bigheart now!

Seriously, instead of buying her shiploads of gifts, why dont you empower her. Let her make her own money and lets her spend it anyway she thinks wise. If she likes she can spend all her profit on Brazilian or if she wants she can spend it on re investing.

On a lighter note, I must be the only Naija lady who doesn't have Brazilian . . . Mr CC is really enjoying

CC, hi
I wonder how people cope with adding another human's hair to theirs.
nd
@OP: A man wanting to sleep with a woman doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love her. However, we avoid premartial sex b'cos it's a sin. The problem I have with the man is that he makes sex sound like an exchange for his gifts 'I buy you bb, you sleep with me' kind of stuff and not he loves her and want to express it. As for the lady, she cut her coat according to her size cloth and stop pulling things her hand can't reach. I don't think refusing his gifts would help the man change his feelings towards the lady. The man should sort out if he truly loves the girl and if he does, they could do a small wedding with the money he's using to buy brazillian abi na peruvian hair.

pro01: Interesting topic. As usual, the females here avoided the most important issues raised in the frustrated man's email. The two points highlighted below are extremely important, and females that are able to provide honest and sensible answers to them would realise the futility of trying this 'no sex' nonsense with any normal man.

@Pro1: You always sound like you have issues with women.
@ question 1: A woman can give her life to Christ and decide to abstain from sex till marriage. I would agree that a man demanding for sex doesn't mean he doesn't love her because I hear that bull a lot however, sex b/4 marriage is a sin that's why we should abstain.
Yes, the guy has been sexually active for 12yrs so it's not easy to abstain especially when he loves the woman so it's advisable they don't date for long or try to avoid lonely places or been too close b'cos even if they are in a crowded place and play funny, they can still reserve the desire till they get to a lonely place and continue what they started . The guy in this story is seeing sex as his reward for spending and not an expression of his love. The woman should also learn to be independent; the guy ain't her Money Making Machine M³.

@question 2: Any girl that prefers a man who treats her well to a man who doesn't needs to have her head checked. However, the fact that a man dosen't beat a woman or provide financial needs doesn't mean he treats her well.

she is 28, he is 37. cant they just get married.


what k8nd of relationship is that sef?

the girl has probably learnt that men dont commit when they keep getting what they want but a player will always be one.


At 37, he writes that way? he's kinda dumb to me..no offence

Brazillian hair for 100K? How much is the dowry of a brazillian lady? I can marry one and we open a sales shop every forthnight.
Na correct business sense be dat! Orisirisi......