chidyhels: Goodness me!
When did going out with a fam frnd to buy suya turn to cheating eh?
Shey na becos she tell u?

bendazum:

Girlfriend this is not the first time guys have lost their babes over such trivial matters. But speaking from experience I see the Pastor's woman slipping away.

chidyhels:

hehehehe,slipping away becos of hanging out with a family friend...abeegggg
If it happens,then the girl was never ment for you. Period...no tomtom or suya will make a girl give up on a man she truely want to be with.

chidyhels: Mr pastor,the truth is that you dont deserve this gal,wat u need is a pretender.

lola.luv:
^^
Mr Pastor. What happened to asking your marriage counsellors and mentors for advice? Rather than coming to romance section?

ITbomb:
What happened to keeping your mouth shut because you have nothing to say?

pastor prosper :
They ended up not going out yesterday,, they wld be going on the suya date today.I am yet to confront her I want to be properly informed, so I don't do what I will regret..guys pls I still need to hear frm u. I thought once a lady is getting married certain male friendship shld be done away with or at least introduce ur husband to them if they are worth keeping. I am a pastor there are certain things I don't need frrm my wife. Actions like these could negatively affect my ministry.

alutacontinua:

I think it depends on the relationship between ur gal nd the guy in question. If they've been too close for comfort in the past, just tell her politely that you don't agree with the suya date. Nd stop this whole thing about pastor's wife and breaking up with her if she insists on going on the date. There should be a level of trust between you and the girl you want to marry, such that this should not be a big deal. But as per nigerian guyz and their fears, you can just tell her and if she's reasonable enough, she'll avoid such next time. I don't think telling her to cancel this particular date makes sense again since you didn't object since yesterday. Just let her go on this one and don't mind those people saying she'z slipping away, for God's sake, it's just suya. When she comes back, talk to her nicely about it and i hope she would consider.

As someone pointed out before, any girl that slips away from you because of a 'suya date' does not worth the whole thing in the first instance. Just relax, and see the picture for what it is. It's just a 'suya date'

pastor prosper :
My dear this is d issue, I don't know d guy. Honestly I knew him then I won't have any issues. Besides experience has thought me that most guys don't do stuff for girls without expecting something in return. However I wld take ur advice and do as u say. Thanks am grateful.

lola.luv:
^^
Mr Pastor. What happened to asking your marriage counsellors and mentors for advice? Rather than coming to romance section?

pastor prosper :
My dear this is d issue, I don't know d guy. Honestly I knew him then I won't have any issues. Besides experience has thought me that most guys don't do stuff for girls without expecting something in return. However I wld take ur advice and do as u say. Thanks am grateful.

ITbomb:
What happened to keeping your mouth shut because you have nothing to say?

pastor prosper :
I agree with IT bomb. U can as well stay out of the conversation. I mean God used a donkey to speak to balaam in the bible, he used signs to convince pharaoh to let isreal go. He cld as well use nairalanders too. Besides who told u there are no marriage counsellors on nairaland. Or where do u think they get d stories they use to spice up their sermons.

pastor prosper :
Thanks my brother, however, my biggest worry is she may want to continue with going on casual dates even after marriage. Since I am not cool with such things isn't it better I let her know my stand now.

alutacontinua:

Do u trust your babe?

andromida: Look at you discussing your insecurities on nairaland, able to share your fears and thoughts that concern you and your woman yet unable to communicate with your fiancee. Go tell her all you've typed here a solid,lasting relationship with capacity for sustainable growth requires the courage to be vulnerable which is what you are avoiding being vulnerable. Remember this is the woman you share the rest of your waka with,she will also explain to you why she does not see it as a big deal and then you reach a compromise or not.

pastor prosper :
Yes.thing is she has a child from a previous failed relationship.and she cld be naïve very naïve. Like when I started becoming too friendly she never suspected I had intentions.

Veerodman: I do not know what kind of preacher you are but if she is indeed your woman and she knows you are going to marry her than "Hell No"she does not get to go to this function no matter what it is..But the question is..are you sure she is planning to marry you ? I think not...

lola.luv:


That is my opinion/advice and I said it.
Have a problem with that? Your headache.

pastor prosper :
Yes.thing is she has a child from a previous failed relationship.and she cld be naïve very naïve. Like when I started becoming too friendly she never suspected I had intentions.