Met my best friends fiancee in an alley guest house with her customer recently [ Shes a marketer with a bank]. They were just on their way out. What do I do. Do I tell him. Although to be honest I cant say for sure if they went in for a B**g or Business discussion.

They are due to wed sometime in september. Im in a fix cos shes very fond of me and shes been such a lively and lovable person.

you beta find out very well b4 destroying ppl's hapiness

Due for a wedding? Approach the cheating partner and talk to her before you tell your friend

This is a very tricky situation. There are a couple of ways to go but I think the best option is to talk to her about your concerns, since both of you are close. But, be sure you are very tight with your friend and he trusts you, because this might blow up in your face and you lose a friend if she thinks you're interfering in her affairs.
You can't talk to your friend first, because you might be wrong in your conclusion of what you observed.

Listen to Hotstepper. Do not ruin this man's life b/c of suspicions. Suspicions often come to nothing. If you are considered then shine you eyes well well but don't say a word to your friend as yet.

she is ur frnd's financee nt urs so let ur frnd findout 4 himself "Remember pple in love" jt stay out of it!

How do you know she's cheating?

Sincerely, u cannot conclude that anything transpired. They might have gone for a transaction and u need to know that every marketer must meet a target. You can go transact business anywhere. I am a man and men are logical thinkers and they might have even discussed and the guy might know she was there. Like my fiancee in abj can tell u where i am at a given time. We communicate well and I can tell you where she is right now. PLEASE be careful not to ruin your friendship with the lady. Take ur mind off it okay and be good. GOD BLESS YOU

Oga, abeg mind ur business o

u want to break somebody's marriage plan? Just keep quiet.

Repeat after me, "Not my Business"

no carry ur own load 4 hand put another person own 4 head o,a word is a enough 4 d wise.

You better desperately stay outta it cause in the process of being a good guy, you will loose your friend. (been there before i know what am talking about)

And besides, whats to say the vivt to the guest house wasnt legit anyways.

I think you should have confronted her when you saw her, her reaction would have told you everything, as it is now, just pretend you never saw anything.

no be ur business. but me i share ur feelings, marketer or no marketer there are places u don't go 4 business. that place u saw her is called "mo sa fun o to". & yoruba say eni a bi re kirin irin ooru

u r abt 2 lose 2 frnds!

OGA AMEBO mind your own business

NONSENSE

so what if she is cheating hmm? what is the probability that your friend is not cheating too? Let people cheat all they like, its what they like.

Its none of your bizness man!

so because you saw them together you auto assumed she was cheating - som ppl like touble - wait until you have something more concrete before going topovk-nose - busy body!!

luxoire:

so because you saw them together you auto assumed she was cheating - som ppl like touble - wait until you have something more concrete before going topovk-nose - busy body!!

even if he has more concrete stuff to prove it, the best thing for u @poster is to stay outta it! it just usually gets messy & trust me u dont want to be caught up in the middle! my thots though!

yjay:

even if he has more concrete stuff to prove it, the best thing for u @poster is to stay outta it! it just usually gets messy & trust me u dont want to be caught up in the middle! my thots though!

i don't agree - i would report any body i know who is cheating - and that is because i expect ppl to tell me when they see my partner cheating - nothing is hidden under the sun so for me the earlir i know the better - when i tell you, what you decide to do with the info is up to you

but i wouldn't report assumptions i need concrete evidence and proof before getitng involved

but then thats me

luxoire:

i don't agree - i would report any body i know who is cheating - and that is because i expect ppl to tell me when they see my partner cheating - nothing is hidden under the sun so for me the earlir i know the better - when i tell you, what you decide to do with the info is up to you

but i wouldn't report assumptions i need concrete evidence and proof before getitng involved

but then thats me

concrete evidence?? do u mean pictures or ving the guy see for himself? cos if its just U witnessing the incident against the cheating spouse, it cld blow up in ur face cos its ur word against his/hers

luxoire
i truss u jare
good gal

@ poster
i dont believe in such prove
omo u need more evidence
because if she is 4sure cheating on your friend
then u are a life saver for him

hmmm. . .na wa o

yjay:

concrete evidence?? do u mean pictures or ving the guy see for himself? cos if its just U witnessing the incident against the cheating spouse, it cld blow up in ur face cos its ur word against his/hers

if i see the spouse out with another guy holding hands and kissing - or handling each other - that is a sign that is more than business to me. so i will tell of wettin my eyes see - if it blows up in my face and they decide to choose their cheating partner over me, then that is their wahala, i will sleep easier at night knowing i told my my firend the truth -

it has happened to me before - my best friends fiancee was chatting me up and asking me to bed everytime i went to their house - i told her , and she told me off - they both called me for a meeting - called me home wrecker ( i was single at the time) and called me jealous all sorts, he told her i had been lying and trying to break them up - she believed him - told me to stop contacting her and coming to her house - i told her fine, my conscience is clear but i hope she doesn't regret it - they postponed their wedding because she was due to have their baby - whilst in the wating room in labour - she checked his phone and saw msgs from numerous girls, another one even claiming to make plans for their wedding - she dumped him before the baby was done, called me and apologised and came to stay with me whilst she found her feet again!

would i meddle again? - Yes
was it a painful and embarassing experience? - yes
but my conscience was clear and i expect a friend to be able to do such for me

then again that me jarre!

origina9ja:

luxoire
i truss u jare
good gal

thank you

luxoire:

if i see the spouse out with another guy holding hands and kissing - or handling each other - that is a sign that is more than business to me. so i will tell of wettin my eyes see - if it blows up in my face and they decide to choose their cheating partner over me, then that is their wahala, i will sleep easier at night knowing i told my my firend the truth -

it has happened to me before - my best friends fiancee was chatting me up and asking me to bed everytime i went to their house - i told her , and she told me off - they both called me for a meeting - called me home wrecker ( i was single at the time) and called me jealous all sorts, he told her i had been lying and trying to break them up - she believed him - told me to stop contacting her and coming to her house - i told her fine, my conscience is clear but i hope she doesn't regret it - they postponed their wedding because she was due to have their baby - whilst in the wating room in labour - she checked his phone and saw msgs from numerous girls, another one even claiming to make plans for their wedding - she dumped him before the baby was done, called me and apologised and came to stay with me whilst she found her feet again!

would i meddle again? - Yes
was it a painful and embarassing experience? - yes
but my conscience was clear and i expect a friend to be able to do such for me

then again that me jarre!
thank you

wow! some story! see wat u mean! but i'm still of the opinion that there are some things that one shldnt pry into, not sure how i wld react to to that experience!!!! they both called me for a meeting called me a home wrecker, not sure i wld ve up for the meeting! good thing she found out herself though!

yjay:

wow! some story! see wat u mean! but i'm still of the opinion that there are some things that one shldnt pry into, not sure how i wld react to to that experience!!!! they both called me for a meeting called me a home wrecker, not sure i wld ve up for the meeting! good thing she found out herself though!

yeah it was emotionally daunting - i guess a part of me felt like not turning up would make me a liar so i had to turn up to defend my self and tell them my story - and him what i thought of him

yeah, good thing she did - she later apologised to me - but no wahala we all do the most foolish things when we think we are in love

hahAHA
LOVE KO
true talk sha

luxoire:

i don't agree - i would report any body i know who is cheating - and that is because i expect ppl to tell me when they see my partner cheating - nothing is hidden under the sun so for me the earlir i know the better - when i tell you, what you decide to do with the info is up to you

but i wouldn't report assumptions i need concrete evidence and proof before getitng involved

but then thats me

you did right. i wont trust a "marketer with a bank" with a horse let alone human being in a hotel. some people never learn a cheater is a possible clever liar too

busy body
if u talk say make dog no chop shit, na u go chop am?