olawole oladipo: Dear Colleagues,

...OR to tell her to leave my brother's house to go and marry another person with five children.

From Safejourney, Ajah, Lagos

gboss4sure: 2 Question.

1. How sure am i that you are not the one that killed your bros?.

2. How sure are you that your bros wife didn't kill him because of you.

mymadam:

I'm sure that you have not told us 'the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth'. However, your rant, ..."OR to tell her to leave my brother's house?" is unbelievable garbage! You want to evict her from her home? This is simply adding insult to her injury. Repent, buddy, repent! Shikena. God bless Nigeria.

maclatunji: Eyah. If you were a Muslim, I would have said consider marrying her. She wants a man and has set her eyes on you. No woman would like a co-wife so I understand your wife's position too.

To be honest marrying her sorts out many problems. If we say she should go and look for her own man, what will happen to your neices and nephews?

Talk to your wife about it, who knows she may have the heart of a saint. However, is your ex-brother's wife a decent woman? Can she relate with your wife with respect?

Your story is one of the reasons I can't claim 100% that polygamy is out of the question for me even if I prefer monogamy.

It is a tough call.

gbosaa: In conclusion, as a christian I don't want to cheat my own "housewife" or look like I'm commiting adultery or fornication. What Can I do? to marry her, OR to tell her to leave my brother's house to go and marry another person with five children.

Please I need your Help.




Why would you evict them from their own house,the house was started by her late husband[your brother]so should be for her and her children even though you and your family helped to complete.did you do that to help his widow and kids or as a plan to take over ownership...some things are not quite right here,im not in support of polygamy but if you,your wife and kids,your late brothers wife and kids are ok with that,why not give it a go.

The idea of sending them away from a house initiated by their husband and dad isnt nice..something tells me your late brothers account might,ve been accessed by your family,what happened to his business if he had one,money in the bank and other assets??

karpentar:

So after gathering all the suggestions from here, he'll go and do what? Commit adultery? He's just an adult babe, childishly seeking for excuses to cheat on his wife.

fonssy: Continue to assist her untill she finds another man to marry. Please don't marry her.

Adanyebe: IF YOU LIKE MARRY YOUR LATE BROTHER'S JUNIOR SISTER'S COUSIN'S PARENT

Yield: You've a good heart, Sir. Keep it up. I don't really know what to advice right now ...whether you should marry her or not. Only you can really decide what's best anyway. But definately, don't stop helping and caring for her and don't avoid her like the poster above me said. You're both adults and shouldn't resort to avoiding her. Communicate.

gbosaa: In conclusion, as a christian I don't want to cheat my own "housewife" or look like I'm commiting adultery or fornication. What Can I do? to marry her, OR to tell her to leave my brother's house to go and marry another person with five children.

Please I need your Help.




Why would you evict them from their own house,the house was started by her late husband[your brother]so should be for her and her children even though you and your family helped to complete.did you do that to help his widow and kids or as a plan to take over ownership...some things are not quite right here,im not in support of polygamy but if you,your wife and kids,your late brothers wife and kids are ok with that,why not give it a go.

The idea of sending them away from a house initiated by their husband and dad isnt nice..something tells me your late brothers account might,ve been accessed by your family,what happened to his business if he had one,money in the bank and other assets??

alala dakosta:

I LOG IN JUST TO LIKE YOUR COMMENT.

N:B= if you are below 25 stay off this thread.this is not tonto dike or wiz kid thread.

mu2sa2: This man's dilemma shows that the practice of polygamy sometimes has a human face. If he marries the woman both the woman and her children will be better of. Polygamy has been with us since creation and will never go away. This man should marry the woman if he so desires since the woman is interested in him. There's too much hypocrisy about polygamy - the man preaching one-wife-only would often have a wife and be having numerous affairs with other women! What do we call that?

vision2050:
Is MTN lying about ''delight data offer''? I
recharge 1000 naira with the aim of
receiving 260MB to my disappoint I only
received 160MB, they sent a message to
me about the 260MB, but went I check it
with *559# I only find less than 150MB
though i used some of it when
browsing...... Is this a scam?? Can
someone explain better to me?

sholay2011:
Tough call indeed...your view is quite myopic and comic(maybe due to ur religious beliefs). Why should marrying your ELDER BROTHER'S WIFE be a tough call? What were you thinking? Can't you set her on a date with one of your friends you can comfortably say can help her from her 'misery'? Must it be you?! Must it be you that would shoulder all your 'brother's responsibilities' up to 'bedroom ones'? So kind of you...but stewwwpeedd.

stpat1:

You are bloody MUGU, did he say he wanted to evict them from the house? He say if she wants to remarry she could leave the house and go. Do you expect her to marry a man and bring him to stay in that house. I wonder why some you don't use your brains at all. After all to whom brain is given at least small sense is expected.

Back to you jare poster, I strongly advice that you don't marry her. in fact it will be advisable to keep your distance from her but not your care. If she wants to remarry, she is free to do that while the children can continue to stay in the house and be taken care of.

Don't let her break your home.

olawole oladipo: Dear Colleagues,

Unfortunately, I lost my senior brother (the same mother the same father) three years ago at age of 50, my brother left one wife with five children. My brother's wife still young (thirty years) plus. She so interest on me after the burial/outing service or some months later, she always calling me on the phone that I abandoned her. In fact, I try my best for her by sending money to her through bank account to take herself because I'm leaving at Ajah, My brother did not complete his house project before his untimely death, myself with support of family member complete the building and she is living there at Ogijo Ikorodu. Also her first son (19 years old)stay with me and caring for him. There was a day she told me on the phone that "Did i think she will marry another person after 5 children to my brother" and everything is not money, she want to see me, Infact I feel somehow that day.

In conclusion, as a christian I don't want to cheat my own "housewife" or look like I'm commiting adultery or fornication. What Can I do? to marry her, OR to tell her to leave my brother's house to go and marry another person with five children.

Please I need your Help.

From Safejourney, Ajah, Lagos


Dont be silly, are you thinking with your d1.ck?

If you werent married, then you could marry her. Your late brother would have been happy you did.

Since you are married, take care of your family. Advice her to remarry in order to tame her emotions.

olawole oladipo: Dear Colleagues,

Unfortunately, I lost my senior brother (the same mother the same father) three years ago at age of 50, my brother left one wife with five children. My brother's wife still young (thirty years) plus. She so interest on me after the burial/outing service or some months later, she always calling me on the phone that I abandoned her. In fact, I try my best for her by sending money to her through bank account to take herself because I'm leaving at Ajah, My brother did not complete his house project before his untimely death, myself with support of family member complete the building and she is living there at Ogijo Ikorodu. Also her first son (19 years old)stay with me and caring for him. There was a day she told me on the phone that "Did i think she will marry another person after 5 children to my brother" and everything is not money, she want to see me, Infact I feel somehow that day.

In conclusion, as a christian I don't want to cheat my own "housewife" or look like I'm commiting adultery or fornication. What Can I do? to marry her, OR to tell her to leave my brother's house to go and marry another person with five children.

Please I need your Help.

From Safejourney, Ajah, Lagos

Yield: You've a good heart, Sir. Keep it up. I don't really know what to advice right now ...whether you should marry her or not. Only you can really decide what's best anyway. But definately, don't stop helping and caring for her and don't avoid her like the poster above me said. You're both adults and shouldn't resort to avoiding her. Communicate.