Jealousy, an intense emotion when unchecked or stopped in the initial stages can cause irrevocable harm to the person who experiences this emotion. It can also probably put an end to all his/her relationships. Jealousy is one such emotion which raises its ugly head time and again, afflicting either a boy or a girl romantically involved with each other. We have heard of many acts of recklessness a boyfriend had to deal with because of his jealous girlfriend. Why does my girlfriend constantly experience bouts of jealousy? Is it something I say or do? A girl getting a wee bit jealous when her boyfriend looks at other attractive girls is a natural phenomenon, but if this jealousy assumes abnormal proportions, then it's time to take quick action!

*An overtly jealous girlfriend can destroy her relationship with her boyfriend if she begins to view every normal situation, as a potential threat to her relationship. In such a situation how does the boyfriend learn to deal with a jealous girlfriend? Let us find out the ways.


Tête-à-tête
A heart-to-heart conversation with your girlfriend may help in finding out the real source of her jealousy. Maybe, she has had a bitter relationship with her ex who was cheating on her. Once the ‘source’ of her jealousy is established, try to wipe out this fear of ‘losing you’ from her mind.

Constant assurance
A jealous girlfriend needs constant assurance. Assure her that there is no ‘threat’ to your relationship especially in the form of another woman. Give her details on your time away from her. Let her interact with your near and dear ones. Talking to the people who know you best may help her realize that her fears are unfounded.

Fear of your ‘female’ friends
A jealous girlfriend’s imagination runs haywire every time she thinks about your ‘female’ friends. Your time away from her is definitely a time out or scampering to your female friends. Introduce her to your circle of friends especially to the female lot. She should be made to realize that you don’t go around scouting for female company the moment you turn your back on her or during her absence.

A role reversal ‘act’
If her overbearing attitude is causing you sleepless nights, just assume the role of a jealous boyfriend. Likewise, call her every hour to inquire about her whereabouts, what she is wearing, who she is with, etc. After a few days of these love (read curious) calls, your jealous girlfriend may realize how irritating and annoying and unnecessary this can be.

Professional help
If all your methods of dealing with your jealous girlfriend have failed, then it’s time you seek professional advice. Accompany her whenever she goes to meet her counselor or psychologist. An expert’s advice and interference may erase the irrational thoughts and bouts of jealousy from her troubled mind. Dealing with a jealous girlfriend can be a wearisome time for the boyfriend. Apart from her jealous streak, if you share a good relationship with her, it should become your prerogative to help her get rid of this intense emotion. A little bit of care, love and loads of patience from you willhelp you in successfully dealing with a jealous girlfriend.



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This is jes too long. Everytn boils down to insecurity and trust. And don't paint jealousy as a bad thing. I, personally can't date who doesn't get jealous. Most times it makes me feel good and love er more!
I will get scared if ma girl wldnt care to knw who d female dt called late in the night was, who sent d text dt reads 'I miss u', or who sat at d front sit of ma car. She shld be able to ask if the lady who calls every minute is truly a frnd as av claimed. U knw, it makes me proud to see her get jealous at times. When a man constantly puts his wife in a position where she needs to be jealous evrytime, then he shld check himself.
That didn't say I prefer d stupid kind of jealousy where d lady keeps causing trouble! Pls note dt medically, if u are a trouble maker, u've got a mental problem. There are times wen troubles are justified, but wen it defiles all normal instances, then d lady shld visit d psychiatric.
By d way, u can only get jealous over something u dnt wanna loose, otherwise, who gives a fucck?

KINGwax: This is jes too long. Everytn boils down to insecurity and trust. And don't paint jealousy as a bad thing. I, personally can't date who doesn't get jealous. Most times it makes me feel good and love er more! That didn't say I prefer d stupid kind of jealousy where d lady keeps causing trouble!
By d way, u can only get jealous over something u dnt wanna loose, otherwise, who gives a fucck?

Hey bru!!goodmawnin at first.........JEALOUSY ain't really about LOVE ... And you know jealousy cann breed problems in a relationship ..... and that has been the case ... that's why jealousy needs to be checked in relationships inn order no to wreck it ... see the mind is full of evil ... i've seen what jealousy has caused in lots of rlationships ... leave that BS some guys tend to admin "I love it when my gf is a jealous type" cux it shows she cares ... Even God whom we Christians worship understands a jealous God cux he cares and loves us all ... buh his count when he's seen u derailed or backslided from his belief ... most gf don't have positive or concrete to establish about ur unfaithfullness

Too much of everytn is a mental illiness. I mean, u eat too much, u laugh too much, to jes love to make trouble etc. This is true, pls google it.
There's no normal person who won't get jealous if u truly cherishes dt which looks to be at stake.
Jealousy as broken homes, true. But aas av modified ma initial post, it wasn't being handled fine by d lady, and d man was jes too proud if it was handled fine.
For ex, a frnd snapped a pix of a female frnd tryin to kiss me, I didn't knw and ma girl saw it. Am nt d hypocritical type who hides behind d hocuspocus of being civil and drops or abide with d rule of 'don't touch my phone'.
Now, seeing this, she came in an was like, 'Jesus! Wot and who is ds'? Imagine mr reation in two ways:
1. Why did u touch ma phone and d trouble starts. I refusing to xplain, her requesting to knw until it all implodes.
But instead, knwin it is ma fault,

2(i) I felt remorse

(ii) Stay silent. Doing this makes her d man. She kept asking for xplanation and I kept silent, lowerin ma head like a child caught with a stolen meat from d pot. This is pure acting and it is necessary.

(iii) Allow her get angry and I, went over to xplain how dt got to be. I deleted d pix and assure her thingd are fine. At least, d girl was tryin to kiss, and I was tryin to stop her. We were all frnds and shit happens. Plus I didn't tell her I forgot to delete, I told her since I didn't attach much importance to it, I didn't bother to delete.

Well, guess wot: she deleted it herself!! Dt was wen I knw things are fine!

KINGwax: Too much of everytn is a mental illiness. I mean, u eat too much, u laugh too much, to jes love to make trouble etc. This is true, pls google it.
There's no normal person who won't get jealous if u truly cherishes dt which looks to be at stake.
Jealousy as broken homes, true. But aas av modified ma initial post, it wasn't being handled fine by d lady, and d man was jes too proud if it was handled fine.
For ex, a frnd snapped a pix of a female frnd tryin to kiss me, I didn't knw and ma girl saw it. Am nt d hypocritical type who hides behind d hocuspocus of being civil and drops or abide with d rule of 'don't touch my phone'.
Now, seeing this, she came in an was like, 'Jesus! Wot and who is ds'? Imagine mr reation in two ways:
1. Why did u touch ma phone and d trouble starts. I refusing to xplain, her requesting to knw until it all implodes.
But instead, knwin it is ma fault,

2(i) I felt remorse

(ii) Stay silent. Doing this makes her d man. She kept asking for xplanation and I kept silent, lowerin ma head like a child caught with a stolen meat from d pot. This is pure acting and it is necessary.

(iii) Allow her get angry and I, went over to xplain how dt got to be. I deleted d pix and assure her thingd are fine. At least, d girl was tryin to kiss, and I was tryin to stop her. We were all frnds and shit happens. Plus I didn't tell her I forgot to delete, I told her since I didn't attach much importance to it, I didn't bother to delete.

Well, guess wot: she deleted it herself!! Dt was wen I knw things are fine!

That's what we call understandin' cux she believed you ... in ur own case ur babe ain't a naggin typpe ... i know gals that will take this to another height despite ur remoarseful appearance ... dey won't give a fucckk ... that's what i call jealousy na

That's wot I was tryna say, that is jealousy coupled with a mental problem. I tell u. I dated a girl like dt in 2003 - 2005. It was hell. I had to break off. It's not normal. She goes to fight any female who goes as far as talking to me

190-the-clown:
Jealous girlfriends are always loving girlfriends


Damn I had one a couple of yrs ago - she almost use wahala kill me
And she wasn't even black- I've never seen white people so insecured - I can't even look
At another girls a-r-se in public

Godamn!

MEHN THAT'S ANODA ISH THAT KILLS ME OUT AND WITHIN .... THEY GOT DIS RESTROSPECT THAT TEND TO PUT U IN CHECK LIKE YOU ENTRAPED

There is no fun in cheating if u are jes free to do it. I love jealous girlies, they are so caring, and they bring out the genius in me.

JayKayMaybachz:
MEHN THAT'S ANODA ISH THAT KILLS ME OUT AND WITHIN .... THEY GOT DIS RESTROSPECT THAT TEND TO PUT U IN CHECK LIKE YOU ENTRAPED

KINGwax: That's wot I was tryna say, that is jealousy coupled with a mental problem. I tell u. I dated a girl like dt in 2003 - 2005. It was hell. I had to break off. It's not normal. She goes to fight any female who goes as far as talking to me

I feel you, some ppl never experience the baddest case bordering on kolo.
Mine started after she asked me to take her to see her friend (who I never met before), we got there, she went in and I waited in the car till she came, out escorted by the friend whom she introduced, said hi, and we drove off.
Never been back or seen this person ever since, not even up till now; but low and behold, out of the blue and without warning this girl started accusing me of dating this her friend. Worst still, she wouldn't accept any explanation or agree we confront the girl to prove my innocence.
It got even worse to the extent that whenever I am late from work, she would suspect that I was with this supposed person, some times just popping out to buy something from the local supermarket became something else; because to her, this was an excuse for me to sneak out and cheat with this friend or any imaginary girl.
She turned my life to hell, come see drama, tantrums, abuses and what not. In the end I just had to call it quits.
It was later confirmed to me that she was slightly kolomental and that it ran in their family - so I am no longer holding her responsible even though I was deeply hurt.

tashanja:

I feel you, some ppl never experience the baddest case bordering on kolo.
Mine started after she asked me to take her to see her friend (who I never met before), we got there, she went in and I waited in the car till she came, out escorted by the friend whom she introduced, said hi, and we drove off.
Never been back or seen this person ever since, not even up till now; but low and behold, out of the blue and without warning this girl started accusing me of dating this her friend. Worst still, she wouldn't accept any explanation or agree we confront the girl to prove my innocence.
It got even worse to the extent that whenever I am late from work, she would suspect that I was with this supposed person, some times just popping out to buy something from the local supermarket became something else; because to her, this was an excuse for me to sneak out and cheat with this friend or any imaginary girl.
She turned my life to hell, come see drama, tantrums, abuses and what not. In the end I just had to call it quits.
It was later confirmed to me that she was slightly kolomental and that it ran in their family - so I am no longer holding her responsible even though I was deeply hurt.

DIS WAN NO BE YAM AQAIN NA