SLIDE waxie: Your wife is fuckin someone else!

Chief Mrs: I don't believe she' cheating. She' just probably no more into u. Work on urself and spice it up. U men like ritualistic sex, same old position, time etc and u men could be very greedy with your sexual demands. It happens in so many marriages I know.

PAGAN 9JA:
OP my brother, wait for the full moon. THen take your wife out and both of you must climb the balcony, or if you are living in the bush, go to the nearest hill. from there, both of you must remove your clothes. then you must carry your wife, and stand on the hill with one foot. before that , you must drink a lot amount of alcohol.

then you must call on Oshun, the Goddess of Fertility and Love. also remember to take baboon urine and put it in a circle around you and put some on your body. Then the process will gradually begin. remember, wait for the full moon.

Ucheosefoh: Abeg carry your fetish advice go religious section this is not what the op need

Chief Mrs: I don't believe she' cheating. She' just probably no more into u. Work on urself and spice it up. U men like ritualistic sex, same old position, time etc and u men could be very greedy with your sexual demands. It happens in so many marriages I know.

Chief Mrs: I don't believe she' cheating. She' just probably no more into u. Work on urself and spice it up. U men like ritualistic sex, same old position, time etc and u men could be very greedy with your sexual demands. It happens in so many marriages I know.

tunde1200: Hello ladies and gentlemen
Your advise is really needed please I mean your advise
I’m married with 2 kids and I love my wife so dearly that I can do anything to have her on this earth. [size=18pt]Though I do not so much show her the extent and how I really love her because I don’t want heart break again.[/size] But to my surprised I discovered some changes in her attitude towards me on bed, anytime I ask for love making she felt reluctant to respond as she use too be. And when the game start she does not allow me to suck and touch her breast anymore all she allowed me to was to bleep and that is all she sleep her own not even pre-intimacy or romance. Even to kiss my wife she no longer agrees with me and it’s paining so much. If we are making love she just do it anyhow for me to ejaculate quickly and leave her to get on sleeping or other things she want to do. But for other aspects she is ok.
I called her and explain my feeling to her that I’m not happy with the way she makes love to me anymore, but she told me she will adjust that I shouldn’t let that be a problem within us now she is stress out . And I thought I offended her and called her ask were I go wrong tease her and all stuffs but she did not say I did anything wrong.
Well as a man who love her wife I had to agree with her and get on with life yet I’m not happy. But anytime I’m washing blue films I called her attentions to it, and I found out that she as no feeling from the blue films at all. Could this be that she is losing her sex life.? And she is just 40 years old. While me almost 40 years old. I called her several times, even her mum was made to understand what was going on within us but she has no good reason to anyone of us and to deprive on that. Have done many things to make her come back to who she really was but all my effort proves abortive.
Is there any way I can make her come back?
Or to have another woman and marry again please help?
Because i don’t like cheating.
That is why I needed your matured advice and your advice will be highly appreciated.
Please try and come down to my level of writing in English I do not know how to write so much like that I would have explain more thanks and love you all.

Sapphire86: Pls stop 'washing' blue films n calling her 2 watch oooo. Its kind of distasteful; it wld ve bn a different case if both of u wanted 2 watch it bt 4 u 2 b 'washing' it constantly and call her attention 2 it ...... Hmmmmm

Carius: Una see am!!!this is one of the reasons why our ancestors married more than one wife..when one starts misbehaving u switch attention to the next one...when d boredom and hormones have gone dia full cycle she starts showering u with attention then u revert back to her...

tunde1200: But anytime I’m washing blue films I called her attentions to it, and I found out that she as no feeling from the blue films at all. Could this be that she is losing her sex life.?

mohumyta: I'm not qualify to comment since I'm still single bro. Why not arrange a weekend getaway for two or take a vacation away from home. Lastly, you have to invent new ways to spice up the relationship, it's not all about sex
Thank you sir from your brother in law

SLIDE waxie: Your wife is fuckin someone else!

chaircover: I believe this is the point at which this thread was moved to the family section

Brother, I am assuming that if you are both in your forties, you have been married for long and so I want you to look at it this way . . you either maintain your car or it breaks down, you either maintain your gen or it starts smoking and becomes less efficient until one day it breaks down, you do environmental every month or your gutters will be full of dirt and mosquitoes breed like hell . . . .basically everything that you want to work well and not disappoint you when you need t most needs maintenance. Are you getting me??

Your wife needs to be reminded on how much you love her and how important and special she is to you. No point keeping that love in your head or your heart . . you have to show it to her. No good just pounding every night. She is giving you sexx but not lovemaking and you both need to get back to lovemaking and to rediscover each other.

The problem is maybe due to our culture we are too rigid when it comes to showing our spouses love. We assume that they know. The only people I see holding hands in Ngeria are youngsters. I rarely see older couples in the market together or on the beach together throwing a ball and having fun. You have to invest into your relationship or it just dies. You were a couple before the children came and life should not just revolve round the children now.

We are also too busy with irrelevant things. Today is Saturday and everyone is at someone else's event while their homes are breaking apart. Must you go to your colleagues daughters wedding in Ijebu? Last week you were in your neighbors brothers birthday party in Ondo. Next week is your tailors mothers burial in Ilesha. Meanwhile you work in a bank and dont get back home during the week until 9pm. When then do you spend quality time with your spouse?

First things first, go and draw up an itinerary and pencil in things and places to go with your wife. . . restaurants, weekends away, places to visit, things to do together such as going to the spa, beach, touristy attractions such as whispering palms etc. spend quality time together but dont ask her for sex at this point, but be romantic and dont forget to touch her and tell her nice things. reawaken the relationship. Listen to her and try and get involved in her life,so for example when she puts on new shoes etc make a comment. Ask her about her job/biz and offer suggestions. There is nothing wrong in even meeting her for lunch and going out together or sending her gifts to work etc.

Think back to all those things that you used to do when you were courting and do that and even more if you can

Women are not like men and when things are not right in a relationship or themselves, lovemaking is affected. As for the blue films, I wouldn't advise that because you are basically telling her indirectly that if she doesn't play ball, you have an other option and you are also not getting to the bottom of the problem.

Your wife is not frigid, you just haven't switched her on emotionally. Did you know that the older the woman becomes, the higher her libido goes. So if at 40 your wife is not feeling you, then there is something wrong somewhere.

Of course your wife has some blame because rather than keeping you guessing and switching off, she should have opened her mouth and told you where you were lacking and what her needs are, and when you both find your feet again, its something that you should both discuss about being able to communicate with each other

You may also want to consider professional marriage counseling to help you both get back on track. All the best. Thats all.

chaircover: I believe this is the point at which this thread was moved to the family section

Brother, I am assuming that if you are both in your forties, you have been married for long and so I want you to look at it this way . . you either maintain your car or it breaks down, you either maintain your gen or it starts smoking and becomes less efficient until one day it breaks down, you do environmental every month or your gutters will be full of dirt and mosquitoes breed like hell . . . .basically everything that you want to work well and not disappoint you when you need t most needs maintenance. Are you getting me??

Your wife needs to be reminded on how much you love her and how important and special she is to you. No point keeping that love in your head or your heart . . you have to show it to her. No good just pounding every night. She is giving you sexx but not lovemaking and you both need to get back to lovemaking and to rediscover each other.

The problem is maybe due to our culture we are too rigid when it comes to showing our spouses love. We assume that they know. The only people I see holding hands in Ngeria are youngsters. I rarely see older couples in the market together or on the beach together throwing a ball and having fun. You have to invest into your relationship or it just dies. You were a couple before the children came and life should not just revolve round the children now.

We are also too busy with irrelevant things. Today is Saturday and everyone is at someone else's event while their homes are breaking apart. Must you go to your colleagues daughters wedding in Ijebu? Last week you were in your neighbors brothers birthday party in Ondo. Next week is your tailors mothers burial in Ilesha. Meanwhile you work in a bank and dont get back home during the week until 9pm. When then do you spend quality time with your spouse?

First things first, go and draw up an itinerary and pencil in things and places to go with your wife. . . restaurants, weekends away, places to visit, things to do together such as going to the spa, beach, touristy attractions such as whispering palms etc. spend quality time together but dont ask her for sex at this point, but be romantic and dont forget to touch her and tell her nice things. reawaken the relationship. Listen to her and try and get involved in her life,so for example when she puts on new shoes etc make a comment. Ask her about her job/biz and offer suggestions. There is nothing wrong in even meeting her for lunch and going out together or sending her gifts to work etc.

Think back to all those things that you used to do when you were courting and do that and even more if you can

Women are not like men and when things are not right in a relationship or themselves, lovemaking is affected. As for the blue films, I wouldn't advise that because you are basically telling her indirectly that if she doesn't play ball, you have an other option and you are also not getting to the bottom of the problem.

Your wife is not frigid, you just haven't switched her on emotionally. Did you know that the older the woman becomes, the higher her libido goes. So if at 40 your wife is not feeling you, then there is something wrong somewhere.

Of course your wife has some blame because rather than keeping you guessing and switching off, she should have opened her mouth and told you where you were lacking and what her needs are, and when you both find your feet again, its something that you should both discuss about being able to communicate with each other

You may also want to consider professional marriage counseling to help you both get back on track. All the best. Thats all.

Biggyd2: Na wa o. I didn't know that "Teachers Day, 2013" came early to NL. Here I was thinking that it was sometime later in the year! This is a guy that is going through serious stuff in his marriage and some people are busy making fun of his grammar (even when the OP specifically stated that he is not too good with the language). All ye Tishas of NL, do remember, when you are making fun of others, that they may not have had the opportunity that you had. Thank you.

MrBible: Since your wife can not tell you what you are doing wrong but wants you to keep guessing, this shows that your wife is a selfish and jealous woman, does not have a mind of her own and some wicked and jealous relatives or friends of your wife has told her she married the wrong man that their man is better than you.
If this issue is making you to loose your sleep, then you have to act fast before you loose your mind. Go and get a place for yourself to live, have condoms ready for emergencies and let your wife live by herself, if she does not come and beg you and show you she has changed then it means she does not want the marriage anymore because of the nonsense that has been fed into her head by the wicked and jealous people that are advising her.

Proverbs 14:1
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Try and get the prayer below by Dr Olukoya on cd or dvd and play it quietly all night if you can but stay away from pastors as they will even join your wife against you.
WICKEDNESS MUST DIE http://www.mfmhouston.net/AUDIO%20MESSAGES/WICKEDNESS%20MUST%20DIE.wma

sholay2011:
Jesus Christ! Did you just quote the Holy Bible after spewing trash?! LMAO!

He shud get condoms ready for 'emergencies'? Pls expatiate, MrBible indeed. Dumbest comment on the thread so far...clap for ursef.

MrBible:

You are still a baby, you better stay in the romance section or be quiet and learn from wise men here.

[quote author=Baba Oyo]
very interesting thread. .....i guess it was originally in the kids section a.k.a romance section before it got moved here hence all the juvenile comments. Madam CC has said it all. nothing to add.

Shollypopz:
Your post is beyond sad....you're so unwise, u are a living proof how long one can live and still remain dumb. I pity your wife