Here are the facts: Black men do get married. No, not as early as their white or Hispanic counterparts. By age 35, however, their rate of marriage varies little from that of white or Hispanic men.

In comparison with that oft-quoted stat about 42 percent of black women being single between the ages of 25 and 34, the same study found that 43 percent of black men have never been married. If you decide to see that cup half full, you'll find that the majority of black women and black men do get married, despite all the hype there's been that black folks don't.

For that rarely talked-about unmarried 43 percent (all the attention has been on why black women don't get married, as if we're doing the asking or dating by ourselves) of black men who aren't married, it's rash to assume that because they haven't, all of them don't want to. Some men are enjoying their options.

For the best of single heteros, there are plenty of women who would like the man to commit to a relationship. But ask anyone who's ever stood at a Baskin-Robbins counter, and you'll find that lots of options don't make a final decision any easier. And there's nothing wrong with that.

Other guys would like to settle down but haven't met the right woman. Some are just fine bypassing the benefits of a long-term commitment to enjoy a life without the hassles of it. And truth be told, they're getting all the good parts -- like sex, hot meals and, often, a listening ear -- so their logic doesn't really surprise me.

For most men, to commit or not to commit boils down to finances and timing. The notion of a black couple starting out together and building their wealth as a team is almost a distant memory. Many men want to be established in their careers and plentiful in their finances before they take on the responsibility of a girlfriend, much less a wife and a family. And for many, that's just not happening, especially with black male unemployment hovering at 14.3 percent and an unstable economy in which a college degree no longer guarantees definitive job stability. When finances aren't in order, even for the most well-intentioned, want-to-be-married-someday men, marriage tends to go on the back burner.

If you're in a rush to get to the altar so you can be like your white officemates -- a horrible reason to want to get married, so you know -- change your attitude about black men -- or, at the very least, hide it better so you can have a fighting chance at being in a relationship. Also, seek out men who are largely confident in their career prospects and express a desire to get married in words and actions. That won't guarantee that they marry you, of course, but it will tip the odds of finding a man who wants to commit for the long haul in your favor.

Good luck!
http://www.theroot.com/views/why-don-t-black-men-want-get-married?page=0,1

6. They keep meeting women who are not interested in them, but only in how much money they make.

tyson55:

This is so true of majority of women in this our generation.

Sybellah: abeg! free us black women....this forum is full of women's haterz

CAMEROONPRIDE:

shymexx:

You know I love and adore upstanding, cultured, and traditional black women, don't you??

Sybellah:

CAMEROONPRIDE: qui t'apprend a sortir la langue a ton beau frere

Sybellah:

yeaa, i know

Sybellah:

lool on dit quoi toi, ya lgtps heeein, ca va?

CAMEROONPRIDE: oui ca va. Are u also going to marry a white man? Do u secretly worship them?

Sybellah:

lmaoooo
nope! i am looking up for a marsian, they r much better than the human race

CAMEROONPRIDE:
Good luck..will b waiting for your coming out.

Sybellah:

merci and may the Gods hear u

tu seras le parrain de la ceremonie

razznaija: I'm sure most of the points here do not pertain to Africans/Nigerians that live in Africa, you would be better of posting this on a different forum other than Nairaland.

razznaija: I'm sure most of the points here do not pertain to Africans/Nigerians that live in Africa, you would be better of posting this on a different forum other than Nairaland.

shymexx:

Word... However, they still blame the black man for everything...

We just can't win!

shymexx:
[size=14pt]4. They keep meeting black women who don't respect them just because they "are" black men.[/size]

Subomi-luv:
GET OVER IT ALREADY FOR FKS SAKE

mondi_cheeks: this is simply because most black men thing respect can be demanded not earned. If black men do things that show that they are worthy of respect then the REAL WOMAN will definitely show them that respect.

shymexx:

What are you on about??


I'm trying to have a discourse about the black family here - I don't care about your thread...

Go to bed!

CAMEROONPRIDE: LOL @ BLACK MEN NOT DESERVING RESPECT..YOU WANT PIC OF BLACK WOMEN? DOING WHAT THEY KNOW THE BEST?