nep2ra:

You think there are Nigerian parents who would allow their teenage children take their boyfriends/girlfriends into the privacy of their rooms? I'm really intrigued by your liberal perspective.

Murder_X:
You asked a question and I'm answering my bit. I can't speak for every Nigerian Parent. Sexual desire is a natural instinct, I didn't create it so I wouldn't attempt to restrict his/her self discovery all I can do is guide their understanding.

MRbrownJAY: i have already said on another thread on the same subject that: "if a child think they are old/wise/strong enough to do an adult act, then they should do so IN THEIR OWN HOMES (like most people do). my house my rules and sex is not permitted under any circumstances .......simply because I MAKE THE RULES!"

if a person raises their kids the right way, then chances are that he wouldnt come up with such dilemma as the one the OP brought.

funny enough i talked to a 16yr old girl working with me who has been having her BF sleep over (in her parents home) since she was 14 yrs old. i guess to each their own!

ileobatojo: Rudysmith?

MRbrownJAY: i have already said on another thread on the same subject that: "if a child think they are old/wise/strong enough to do an adult act, then they should do so IN THEIR OWN HOMES (like most people do). my house my rules and sex is not permitted under any circumstances .......simply because I MAKE THE RULES!"

if a person raises their kids the right way, then chances are that he wouldnt come up with such dilemma as the one the OP brought.

funny enough i talked to a 16yr old girl working with me who has been having her BF sleep over (in her parents home) since she was 14 yrs old. i guess to each their own!

coogar:

this is very harsh....
i intend giving my son his "independence" at 14/15.

ileobatojo:
Will you allow the same liberty to your 14/15 yr old daughter too?

Why not? Is it not someone's 14 yr old daughter your newly unleashed son will be looking to sleep with?

coogar:

a teenage male and a teenage female are not the same.



14 year-old? nah......he would be setting his aim higher.
most 14 yr-old boys are unwrapped by older chics - boys of that age are generally shy and inexperience to complete the square.

ileobatojo:
So how will you ensure he will not go unwrapping other people's 14/15yr old daughters? Any plans for that?

coogar:

of course.....
there are plans to make him stay away from jailbaits. the earlier you let a boy pop his first cherry, the further away from homoeroticism. i am too homophobic not to safeguard my son in that delicate age. the schools here are not helping - they have been telling kids not to feel weird if they see brian and pete kissing.

ileobatojo:
Bwaaaaahahahaha!! Oh dear lord!! You know what, just be going your way jare. I can't shout again..

coogar:

i don hear you.....
mama biology - you are good at native/witch-doctoring but i am the guru of orthodox scientific methods.

ileobatojo:
Of course.. The same orthodox science that taught you that allowing a 14yr old have s*ex is adviceable in order to prevent him from being gay, not so? You're a true guru I tell ya..Yimu..

coogar:

it works like a genie in a bottle......
look around you and smell the coffee. the teenage boys would probably shäg behind you anyways so what's the pretence for? you can't raise today's kids the nigerian way in america or in the uk. 2 forces are at war with each other - the government and the parents. think!!!!

ileobatojo:
@ first bolded. The reason for that would probably be because you never equipped them with tools to resist the peer pressure and outside influences they are bound to face. You the parent are in the best position to lead your child the way you want him to go. Take advantage of the power you have and use it for good, instead of unleashing ho*rny 14yr olds into the world!

@ Second bolded. The government? Hahahaha!

coogar:

stop deceiving yourself - teens are getting bolder these days. what teens couldn't do 20-30 years ago are child's play for today's teens. no amount of preaching or equipped tools can guarantee abstinence.

ileobatojo:
Not necessarily abstinence. Just delay till he is older and more mature.

coogar:

when these kids are hitting puberty at 12?
all the local boys in my borough have had sex, majority of them claimed they did at 12/13. facial hair, height and thick guttural voice to go with it. you are living in lala land thinking these boys are not driven by hormones. they are so ready and their female counterparts are readier.

ileobatojo:
So tell me again why you won't give your 14yr old daughter her independence? Afterall, she's 'readier' than her brother at the same age.

*this will go on forever won't it?* When will I learn?

coogar:
this is very harsh....
i intend giving my son his "independence" at 14/15.

coogar:

stop deceiving yourself - teens are getting bolder these days. what teens couldn't do 20-30 years ago are child's play for today's teens. no amount of preaching or equipped tools can guarantee abstinence. at least, i am sure he is doing it in a safe environment under my roof rather than bushpaths, public toilets and other obscure corners of the streets.


who do you think teaches kids to dial 999 at the first sign of trouble? parents? when was the last time you had a chat with today's teens? i am the team manager of my local football side and i get to chat with these lads. the gems they come up with would make your nostrils enlarge........you would think you are speaking to 30 year-olds.

coogar:

this is very harsh....
i intend giving my son his "independence" at 14/15.

nwando:
May you be blessed by 3 daughters IJN