Okay, before I begin I would like to plead no insults but sincere advice,
Been married for 5yrs now and my husband exhibit such selfish traits that am really not happy about.
I am a giver I mean I give even if it is to inconvincence myself I know we can't be the same as some would say, but the thing is he is so selfish that he passes the responsibilty of the kids to me. He earns thrice more than I do but I spend 90% when it comes to our monthly expenses. I have sat him down several times to talk about it but he still refuses to change.
Is it a crime to want to assist my husband cos he has completely hands off his responsibilites as the bread winner and left everyting for me to do I mean everything including fees, feeding and clothing for the kids. I am beginning to feel stupid cos have not saved or have anything tangible for all the yrs of my work life. We go shopping together and when it is time to pay he stylishly excuses himself leaving me at the till feeling stupid.
I feel used. Please I want experienced married pple to advice me on what to do.

mumzizi: Okay, before I begin I would like to plead no insults but sincere advice,
Been married for 5yrs now and my husband exhibit such selfish traits that am really not happy about.
I am a giver I mean I give even if it is to inconvincence myself I know we can't be the same as some would say, but the thing is he is so selfish that he passes the responsibilty of the kids to me. He earns thrice more than I do but I spend 90% when it comes to our monthly expenses. I have sat him down several times to talk about it but he still refuses to change.
Is it a crime to want to assist my husband cos he has completely hands off his responsibilites as the bread winner and left everyting for me to do I mean everything including fees, feeding and clothing for the kids. I am beginning to feel stupid cos have not saved or have anything tangible for all the yrs of my work life. We go shopping together and when it is time to pay he stylishly excuses himself leaving me at the till feeling stupid.
I feel used. Please I want experienced married pple to advice me on what to do.

..tank you Maggi.. are u light skin?

OP, may be ur hubby is working on something for the family, i.e. Building, business or any capital intensive project but even at dat, both of u are supposed to agree, dat is d essence of marriage. I beleive as a good wife, u should be able to tame ur hubby. Check urself very well, make ammend where necessary, pray and talk to ur hubby. God bless.

when u were courting y didnt u look out for such character, but cos u wanna satisy society ur jst afta let him propose, u don enter am , deal wit it or leave, i bet if ur hubby is asked to say his side, d fault he will say is urs, such is life. promised my self neva to marry, baby mama tins is d way lol

Is he an Mbaise man? Many Mbaise people are opportunists.

OP, this thread should be in the family sectiom. You will get better replies there.

Your spouse is something we call a parasite, there are a lot of men that fall into this category as explained below.

http://www.elijahforce..com/2013/03/parasitic-relationships-are-you-in-one.html