Hello all...I'm a newly married woman in need of advice.I got married in January and evrything has been okay between me and hubby,looking forward to making wonderful babies BUT I jst reached a conclusion just yesterday ; we spend more time praying and fasting than actually making love and babies.What do you do in this kinda situation? I'm a God fearing person but in fear of bin called another "thing" when I demand for sex during our fasting session!pls help!

Hilarious OP, good that you have a religious husband. Is he a pastor? Or are you guys praying for a specific need. Its been 4 months of mostly praying and fasting That is a long time o. . If he is a pastor and you guy's relationship had been a certain rigid way, being a tiger in bed or needing sex often can raise eyebrows. Like, "my wife can't battle the flesh. ."

Awwww.Bless him.Unfortunately i really have not experienced such(its more like the other way round i have to take permission to fast most times sef ).

Maybe try to talk about it in a joking manner.Try not to come across as resenting the fasting and prayer(there is no such thing as too much prayer) but as you are trying for a baby maybe joke that Faith without works is dead . Dont be anxious about the whole having a baby thing though,He makes all things beautiful in His time.Enjoy this time with your man as much as possible.Thank God you have a man who knows God.Those other things can be learnt.

I would have suggested some more radical things but if your hubby is very very spirikoko it might come across as offensive.As baby said it might be like you cant battle the flesh.Is your relationship very formal i.e sis bro kind of thing?

Who says you cant have se.x after fasting. U guys breaks the fast by 6.00 then aftyer meal.. you are his next target to break ....

What is all this fasting without sex for married couple... I beggy go do the do after breaking your fast Jare...

Thanx evrybody,I appreciate!

LOL!

Use your woman power on him. Fasting or no fasting, once you are able to seduce your man sexually.....he has no choice than to succumb!

^^^^ pataki, badt guy.

@Op,try usein ur woman power afta fastin,it works :Pall the best in ur garden of eden..enjoy it.

Better thank your star that hes not an ungdly man, if not so, the marriage would have become hell for you, all you just have to do is to cooperate with him during the fasting, and after breaking, seduce him, hes your husband, you should be able to know what he can easily fall for, abeg, enjoy your godly marriage jare.

greatgod2012: Better thank your star that hes not an ungdly man, if not so, the marriage would have become hell for you, all you just have to do is to cooperate with him during the fasting, and after breaking, seduce him, hes your husband, you should be able to know what he can easily fall for, abeg, enjoy your godly marriage jare.

Haba madam, seducing person wey just finish fasting, aren't you sending him back to fast again for forgiveness of sin?

Dere's time 4 everytn, pple av 2 learn 2 bal tins up. Prayer n fastn every nw n den. He shld knw as a xtian, nt performn hs husbandly duties is a no no. U guys r marrid nw, no excuses abeg.

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Since your man will only pay attention to Bible things and not much of your emotional needs

Seduce him with THE SONGS OF SOLOMOM

Chapter 1:4"He shall lie all night betwixt my breasts.
:22"Open to me, my sister, my love, my dove, my undefiled.
:25"I opened to my beloved; but my beloved had withdrawn himself.
:28"The joints of thy thighs are like jewels"
:30"Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins."

:20 "Come ... blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his
garden,and eat his pleasant fruits."

Stop reading Lamentations sister, Songs of Solomon will bring out the best in your husband.

Opera Mini:

Haba madam, seducing person wey just finish fasting, aren't you sending him back to fast again for forgiveness of sin?

is she not his wife
what is sin there

NewJ: Since your man will only pay attention to Bible things and not much of your emotional needs

Seduce him with THE SONGS OF SOLOMOM

Chapter 1:4"He shall lie all night betwixt my breasts.
:22"Open to me, my sister, my love, my dove, my undefiled.
:25"I opened to my beloved; but my beloved had withdrawn himself.
:28"The joints of thy thighs are like jewels"
:30"Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins."

:20 "Come ... blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his
garden,and eat his pleasant fruits."

Stop reading Lamentations sister, Songs of Solomon will bring out the best in your husband.

thank you jare, in asmuch as it is within marriage, seduction is allowed, afterall, they are husband and wife, why will the man sef deny his wife because of fasting and prayer, isnt time for everything........time to be intimate and time to pray, none should interfere with each other.

May God help them o..

I know of a couple who actually pray and bind every demon before they make love.

another life's equation that needs total balancing.

fasting and praying are for specific high needs. 'dis goeth not out unless with fasting and prayer'

not everyday routine because such times, you r set apart for special fellowship with your creator, you are meant to be soaked in d word, deep thoughts and in supplication.
and all mudane things, including luv making shld be avoided. so you one can focus.

He is yours gurl, talk to him.

Benny Hinn, the great preacher, who showed God's great works in many miraculous acts, actually got carried away at a point in time that he dedicated all to the ministry forgeting his wife along the line. it was only God who brought her back after leaving him.

dont die in silence dear.

baby_123:
Hilarious OP, good that you have a religious husband. Is he a pastor? Or are you guys praying for a specific need. Its been 4 months of mostly praying and fasting That is a long time o. . If he is a pastor and you guy's relationship had been a certain rigid way, being a tiger in bed or needing sex often can raise eyebrows. Like, "my wife can't battle the flesh. ."

Babymumsy: Hello all...I'm a newly married woman in need of advice.I got married in January and evrything has been okay between me and hubby,looking forward to making wonderful babies BUT I jst reached a conclusion just yesterday ; we spend more time praying and fasting than actually making love and babies.What do you do in this kinda situation? I'm a God fearing person but in fear of bin called another "thing" when I demand for sex during our fasting session!pls help!

@ babymumsy

After reading your post I can't help but wonder, what is your true motivation?
From your post it shows that you are interested in sex not making love as you claimed ( yes, there is a difference between the two)with your hubby with the sole aim of getting pregnant and becoming a mother.This by itself
Is not bad/wrong as long as your hubby is on the same page with you but when done with a self centered spirit it is tantamount to you just using your hubbys body to get what you want ( a baby) regardless of his feelings.
Call me crazy but knowing that my wife just sees me as a means to an end does not inspire me to desire her more , if anything I will be turned off . If all you want is sex then you could just as easily have sex with any guy you meet on the street and still achieve your goal (a baby)

Now if you were really concerned about making love to your hubby as you claimed your mindset would be along these lines

"By night on my bed I sought him whom my soul loveth, I sought him and found him not.
I will rise now and I will seek him whom my soul loveth"
Song of songs 3: 1 - 2

"Awake O north wind ,blow upon my garden that the spices thereof may flow out.Let my beloved come into his garden and eat his (fill of) pleasant fruits"
Song of songs 4:16

Did you catch the revelation? A wife concerned with making love with her hubby is only thinking of how to express her love and longing for him, to give of herself to him because she takes pleasure in giving him pleasure not for what she will get in the bargain .

So Babymumsy, I ask you again, What is your motivation?

Pataki: LOL!

Use your woman power on him. Fasting or no fasting, once you are able to seduce your man sexually.....he has no choice than to succumb!

it is not as easy as that, do u know what fasting does? It kills the flesh and reduce fleshy desires to a barest minimum, if a man is high in spirit believe me even a woman's total unclothedness ill not move him, they should talk thing over nd strike a balance.

Pataki: LOL!

Use your woman power on him. Fasting or no fasting, once you are able to seduce your man sexually.....he has no choice than to succumb!

it is not as easy as that, do u know what fasting does? It kills the flesh and reduce fleshy desires to a barest minimum, if a man is high in spirit believe me even a woman's total unclothedness ill not move him, they should talk thing over nd strike a balance.

Pataki: LOL!

Use your woman power on him. Fasting or no fasting, once you are able to seduce your man sexually.....he has no choice than to succumb!

it is not as easy as that, do u know what fasting does? It kills the flesh and reduce fleshy desires to a barest minimum, if a man is high in spirit believe me even a woman's total unclothedness ill not move him, they should talk thing over nd strike a balance.

Pataki: I know of a couple who actually pray and bind every demon before they make love.

do they also bless the prick and punny before the action?

slimyem: do they also bless the prick and punny before the action?

Prayer is needed for utmost performance. We should try it together sometime soon.

With all these marriage palavers I have read here,seems marriage aint worth all the hype sef,last thread,my husband wants se.x every night,now this one complaining about having a too religious man. What's the purpose of courtship before marriage,if you all come here to complain.

I tired for this stories sef,maybe I should just get a baby-mama sef,than living with someone who pretended all through the courtship.

Back to the topic,maybe your husband is impotent,hiding under religion,go get yourself his driver,or your house help.

Nuff said.

Yomieluv: With all these marriage palavers I have read here,seems marriage aint worth all the hype sef,last thread,my husband wants se.x every night,now this one complaining about having a too religious man. What's the purpose of courtship before marriage,if you all come here to complain.

I tired for this stories sef,maybe I should just get a baby-mama sef,than living with someone who pretended all through the courtship.

Back to the topic,maybe your husband is impotent,hiding under religion,go get yourself his driver,or your house help.

Nuff said.

I reject that last paragraph *smiles* I can neva do that!

for married people, no need praying. just do it and do it right. but if it is bf/courtship relationship, for sure put prayer and fasting first.

armyofone: for married people, no need praying. just do it and do it right. but if it is bf/courtship relationship, for sure put prayer and fasting first.

No o! Even married people have to pray and fast to bind all powers of flaccidity of the pe*nis, premature eja*culation, inability to orga*sm, even powers of missionary position only. Plenty prayer is needed jare.

you want me to choke on this alfredo ala periperi

Jisos,
you quenched me with laughter.

ileobatojo:

No o! Even married people have to pray and fast to bind all powers of flaccidity of the pe*nis, premature eja*culation, inability to orga*sm, even powers of missionary position only. Plenty prayer is needed jare.

flaccid kini? this calls for night vigil prayer and fast at olomo rock. shortage of tadpoles or tailess tadpoles nko? bind them in mighty name of thy Lord

armyofone:

you want me to choke on this alfredo ala periperi

Jisos,
you quenched me with laughter.



flaccid kini? this calls for night vigil prayer and fast at olomo rock. shortage of tadpoles or tailess tadpoles nko? bind them in mighty name of thy Lord

Tail-less tadpoles! Yeepa! Bwahahaha! You see, prayer is the only way o. Make dem dey bind dey go!

Poster, I hope the situation has improved? Just seeing this. If not show your husband this passage, let him read

1Corinthians 7:1-5.

Fasting and praying everytime, neglecting the needs of the wife is unwise and not even godly in a christian union. Tell him to learn to live a balanced life.

Thanx to evrybody! The situation has changed for the better! Gracias!