Hey fellow nlders, Pls i nid ur advice on how to go abt explaining to my boyfriend i cant have sex wit him, without hurting his feelings. Pls I wil appreciate it if dis gets 2 d fp mods, i nid as much views as i can get.

Ders no way u can explain 2 a guy dat he will understand. Just tell him sex is not possible if he does not understand quite b4 ull do wat ull regret later if he loves u he will respect ur feelings. Trust me girl I know what am saying.

Communication. Give him genuine reasons why you made that decision. Present it well to him and make him see reasons with you. You should also suggest other things both of you can do instead of sëX. The problem is that most people think së:x is the maximum pleasure you can get. Such relationships tend to hit the rocks fast. Too many boring relationships. Same old news.

Be creative, romantic. Communicate well. Love is not just about sê"x. Don't be deceived. Love is patient.

What are your reasons?

I thought 'Caracta' commented on ds post?

Anyway,,@OP.. M a dude n ders no way,,absolutely no way,u cn tell us No S€X n r feelings won't b hurt.

Jt stick to d 1st reply u gat frm 'Ogamgil'.
Thats ur Only Solution.

OP, u don't have to explain too much! if he doesn't agree, then let him go cos he doesn't deserve nor respect you!

I'm on your side on this! Let him go!

enough of all this sex in pre-marital relationships! mtchewwwww

if gbege happen finish, u get all the blame! girls, wise up pleeeaaaseeee!!!!

That's why it is always best to define your relationship and what you both want out of it right from d beginning and if u refuse him s.......ex he will dump you fast .. It is pointless and a waste of time and resources being in a relationship without sex.

May I ask a question? Feel free to ignore it if it's too personal. Are you "intact"? Cos if you are, he'll probably understand. If not, you may have to explain why.

That said, there's really no way you can tell him that without hurting his feelings boo. Tell him straight up. if he's gonna stay, he will. if he won't, you'll get to move on quickly.

love$life:
Hey fellow nlders, Pls i nid ur advice on how to go abt explaining to my boyfriend i cant have sex wit him, without hurting his feelings. Pls I wil appreciate it if dis gets 2 d fp mods, i nid as much views as i can get.

Errr... if she cares about him and respects him, she should explain. It's only fair and considerate.

swtchicgurl: OP, u don't have to explain too much! if he doesn't agree, then let him go cos he doesn't deserve nor respect you!

I'm on your side on this! Let him go!

enough of all this sex in pre-marital relationships! mtchewwwww

if gbege happen finish, u get all the blame! girls, wise up pleeeaaaseeee!!!!

Poster after all said and he doesn't reason with u, don not compromise. after all it's the same boy that would pressure u into having s3x that will also come to nl to say there's no virgins among girls nowadays. this is ur chance now o, don't do lovy dovy with it until it is legalize. my2cent.

Enegod: nowadays,if you are not ready for sex you shouldn't b in a relationship

And who says one can't have a relationship without sex?

Op tell him about your resolutions and if he can't wait, then you should let go or give in.

iebanehita: I thought 'Caracta' commented on ds post?

Anyway,,@OP.. M a dude n ders no way,,absolutely no way,u cn tell us No S€X n r feelings won't b hurt.

Jt stick to d 1st reply u gat frm 'Ogamgil'.
Thats ur Only Solution.

My bro, its not every guy that are after sex. So, telling a guy who care less about having sex wont make any difference to his mood...

So, if he is the understanding type, he should be able to come to terms with you. Besides, try to let him know why u have taken that vow of celibacy and make sure that come what may, you stick to it, even if it takes losing him.

dmcdad:
My bro, its not every guy that are after sex. So, telling a guy who care less about having sex wont make any difference to his mood...

So, if he is the understanding type, he should be able to come to terms with you. Besides, try to let him know why u have taken that vow of celibacy and make sure that come what may, you stick to it, even if it takes losing him.

I understand ur point sir...
M sayin d Guy's feelings wld definitely b hurt,,bt if she sticks to what she blivs in, d dude wld respect r for her self-control n ability to stand out,,amongst other grls dt v fallen by d wayside,,,cz dey dn't want to lose dier bf.

Dts y i suggest she followed d reply frm 'Ogamgil.'

iebanehita:

I understand ur point sir...
M sayin d Guy's feelings wld definitely b hurt,,bt if she sticks to what she blivs in, d dude wld respect r for her self-control n ability to stand out,,amongst other grls dt v fallen by d wayside,,,cz dey dn't want to lose dier bf.

Dts y i suggest she followed d reply frm 'Ogamgil.'

Yeah you are there...

If u are still ''INTACT'' is a good and perfect excuse,i'll take it till we get married but if u're not...4get it,and i think other guys will do dsame.

Caracta: Communication. Give him genuine reasons why you made that decision. Present it well to him and make him see reasons with you. You should also suggest other things both of you can do instead of sëX. The problem is that most people think së:x is the maximum pleasure you can get. Such relationships tend to hit the rocks fast. Too many boring relationships. Same old news.

Be creative, romantic. Communicate well. Love is not just about sê"x. Don't be deceived. Love is patient.

gerroutta here jur!!!
Keep deceiving urself!
Sex is d maxinmum pleasure.
Ok, wat else is?
Holding hands, smiling, hair stroking, smooching, oral without the sex?
Go sleep jur!
Enegod has said it all, dnt venture into relationship is u dnt want sex. I will only add- unless u're sure ur dude/babe is a mumu!