As long as her salary is more than mine then I'll sure whoop her @rse 4 ya. . . by then u wouldnt like her again.

If all you think is wouping her ass, Then i cant Hook you up,and whats more unless you are working with one of the Big oil and gas firms ,O4 real ,i can assure you that she packs more pay then you do rite now

These things can be tricky, if not handled properly. I guess I got lucky, since I'm married to my former office love.
Whatever you do;
1) Don't violate office policy, or you'll get the sack.
2) Keep it out of the office as much as possible. Do not mix bisuness and pleasure.
3) Don't do it by the copier after hours, when you think you're alone in the office.
4) Do your work well. Be professional always. Don't let the infatuation slaken your performance.
5) Don't rush it. This is one situation where slow and steady is much better.
6) Don't make any assumptions. If you have feelings for her, let her know, and let her decide if she feels the same way as you do.
Otherwise, get over it.
7) Avoid becoming the target of office gossip. By following the steps above. Don't do anything stupid. Don't ask for "advice" regarding the
relationship from your co-workers.

When the relationship kicks off, one of you may have to make an effort to change jobs. It helps. Also keep it from your colleagues as much as possible, till the relationship has matured significantly. Thats how I did it.

@wills have you start the JOB

Dont be weary move on time before that man sitting beside you hijack that babe from you.
Moveeeeeeee now.

Hey,
U got to be really careful, cos most email conversations are prone to eavesdropping. You may think that your email exchanges are secure, but they  go through a central server which is manned by your IT administrator. I do not know know what kind of network platform your company is employing, but  most companies use intranet, so its very easy for a third party to access your mail.

Finally, is it really worth it to flirt with this fellow and lose your job? Most hard working people are not the richest, but smartest people. Do not work hard, but  work smart.

seeker:

Whatever you do;
1) Don't violate office policy, or you'll get the sack.
2) Keep it out of the office as much as possible. Do not mix bisuness and pleasure.
3) Don't do it by the copier after hours, when you think you're alone in the office.
4) Do your work well. Be professional always. Don't let the infatuation slaken your performance.
5) Don't rush it. This is one situation where slow and steady is much better.
6) Don't make any assumptions. If you have feelings for her, let her know, and let her decide if she feels the same way as you do.
Otherwise, get over it.
7) Avoid becoming the target of office gossip. By following the steps above. Don't do anything stupid. Don't ask for "advice" regarding the
relationship from your co-workers.

@ seekers I must confess that these are very sound steps to follow,and am going to added it to my chest of advice i am recieving right here,i was about giving up and trying to see if i can put all of this behind me,but now i know better, i will work @ it slow and steady, and keep it on the down low as you said,

@adconline, Thanks so much men, I will switch fromusing offical e mail addy to my yahoo or gmail hence fort so that the Almighty IT Guys wont be spying on Us,

@ kabby, if the guys in the office and the firm at large couldnt hijack her before i got there, i wonder how they can do that now, So No worry, i no dey fear hijack my Game is tight and getting even tighter all thanks to the sound advise from nairalanders, peace ya-all

imagine the kind of replies i am seeing here, lol. look at the perfect oppurtunity u have to be gettin' a quicky at the office and you are asking emotions dis, emotions that. which one concern you, you are not breaking office laws which u didnt state so if it is allowed to have relationships, my man tell you like her too and during una break, run go toilet or close door and do the 1-2 step.


make sure you use condom to protect your kingdom before you loose your wagon. have fun,lol.

Bros, how far? has the Job DONE

dammybee:

Bros, how far? has the Job DONE

is the question for me?

My friend, for your info most intimate affairs in a working environment end up in disaster! Most times, its just a fling, pure lust due to the fact that you guys have found yourselves confined to the same environment everyday for more than 7hours. It's like starting a relationship in BIG BROTHER AFRICA.

How would you feel when you start seeing other male colleagues hanging around her? Or you start seeing other toasters coming to see her in the office, etc? My advice, just get another girl outside the work place cos your job is more important.

Rottweiler:

My friend, for your info most intimate affairs in a working environment end up in disaster! Most times, its just a fling, pure lust due to the fact that you guys have found yourselves confined to the same environment everyday for more than 7hours. It's like starting a relationship in BIG BROTHER AFRICA.

How would you feel when you start seeing other male colleagues hanging around her? Or you start seeing other toasters coming to see her in the office, etc? My advice, just get another girl outside the work place because your job is more important.

true talk.

@diddy4dt, Is not for you, but for wills.

Enjoy your weekend and see you on monday.

dammybee:

@diddy4dt, Is not for you, but for wills.

Enjoy your weekend and see you on monday.

u couldnt even say that with a smile, are we fighting? lol

How was your weekend diddy4dt? and thanks for your query

Kool

n urs ?

where is Everybody ?

dammybee:

How was your weekend diddy4dt? and thanks for your query

my weekend was aiight. thanks for asking hun.


have a wonderful day.

Its all Good People, How did the weekend go?
Guess what ya-all, am Going In!!!, Last night we where on the Phone for over an hour and a half, just talking, and am begining to see the other sides of her, the part she conceals the most HER EMOTIONS, am just going to give it time ,take it slow and hope for the best, as an optimist , i figure its all good no mater whats the out come,



As for yur question@Rottweiler
How would you feel when you start seeing other male colleagues hanging around her? , Its happening all ready,she  is a pretty Hot chick and in and outside the office lots of Guys are going to hit on her,cuz shes not carring a sign that says TAKEN!, even if she was some guys will still hit on her, so r@otty, this Dude is not worried about that, its how she responds to me that matters most to me now, to me its no competition,am just doing my own thing, being my own self and if she OK, with me as me,, then i dont have a problem, but on the other hand if she wants to go chasing water falls like most girls do, then, all the best  to her, For me its a win win situation.


;DAnd i can see some action is going on here already, PLEASE, GUYS AND GIRLS!!!,sorry LADIES, lets this spark turn in to wild fires, it all Good,

Wish you the very best! Enjoy the ride, it'll get pretty rough sometimes. If you can both survive, the rewards are great.

seeker:

Wish you the very best! Enjoy the ride, it'll get pretty rough sometimes. If you can both survive, the rewards are great.

and me too

bros.

be careful o.

if d babe hot, before u know it you'll be competing with the gbogons (big boys)

if u get burned you will realise that love vs job = job wins any time, dude. if u lose ya job she'll erase u like a bad habit

if the relationship fuxors up remember u are looking at her face every frickin day

if your jobs depend on each other remember that if you incur her jealousy/beef or start flirting w someone else in the office u just may end up a victim of sabotage

if u become her office husband, she will come to u for help when the bigboys start trying to spear her kongo. what will u do? stand up for her and get wiped out? I think not.

my advice is handle it the way I handled this thing on a frickin daily basis: where I work, my previous job description put me in contact with attractive coworkers in diffferent branches, and puts me in a position where they get more and more drawn to me, no head-shaking here, it happens to everyone who takes over that 'particular' job- I'm not claiming to be some babe-magnet or whatever, (and some handled it differently, )

the way I handled, and *still* handle it is that, due to the nature opf female coquettry, u can be close to her and maintain a healthy, even intimate relationship but never let it get coloured by anything related to sex. Whenever she takes the initiative (and she will, eventually) its easy to just play the clueless mummy's boy. Never fails, and no beef involved. Let dirty jokes become so 'normal' that they are never misinterpreted when they do drop by mistake. And always let her believe that you have a harem of babes outside the office. If she likes u its pretty easy to convince her of that, she will be sure other girls will see the same things she sees in u!


of course if u wanna plumb that drainpipe and risk ure job i cant stop u from commiting soo-wa-side, so any which way, my brudder,

dakmanzero:

bros.

be careful o.

if d babe hot, before u know it you'll be competing with the gbogons (big boys)


my advice is handle it the way I handled this thing on a frickin daily basis: where I work, my previous job description put me in contact with attractive coworkers in different branches, and puts me in a position where they get more and more drawn to me, no head-shaking here, it happens to everyone who takes over that particular job- I'm not claiming to be some babe-magnet or whatever, (and some handled it differently, )

the way I handled, and *still* handle it is that, due to the nature of female coquettry, u can be close to her and maintain a healthy, even intimate relationship but never let it get coloured by anything related to sex. Whenever she takes the initiative (and she will, eventually) its easy to just play the clueless mummy's boy. Never fails, and no beef involved. Let dirty jokes become so 'normal' that they are never misinterpreted when they do drop by mistake. And always let her believe that you have a harem of babes outside the office. If she likes u its pretty easy to convince her of that, she will be sure other girls will see the same things she sees in u!

dakmanzero, U too muku( too much), its like you have a closed circuit camera on me already in fact my moves thus far are in line with most of what you said, we maintain a very close and healthy friendship. we talk a lot now, just about anything, and more about our selfs, those parts thats pretty much concealed from most people, and sex is totally out of the questions for one she dose not know my place and i don't know hers too,shes the kind of person that knows all most fellas want from her is just sex,and she is upfront about it, so the sec you go there its lightout on that friendship , i don't have any intention of asking her over at least not yet, and even if i do, i know i wont be because of sex.

One thing thats easy for me is the clueless mummy boy thing ,cuz naturally am pretty much, clueless of a whole lot of stuff when it comes to women , the only thing is that i dont have a harem of babes outside the office, infact i don't have anyone at all,and i have kept it that way for a while now and she knows this already,cuz its hard for me to lie, my motto is if, she cant stand my being real, then she anit worth it anyway, cuz what ever u lie to get, you will keep laing to keep.

Am really game!anyway she wants it, i take the lead and initiative for a lot of things ,cuz i know woman expect that,but at the same time am not too forward or pushy about a lot of stuff.

what i just came to realize is this ,even if i don't end up dating this lady or in the most yet unimaginable best case scenario get married to her, i will still be most happy having her as a very good friend,shes indeed a great person,shes really in a short time changed a lot of my generalized negative perceptions about women.

finally whats that word you used the one i highlighted in RED!

wills:

finally whats that word you used the one i highlighted in RED!

coquetry == flirtation, playful behaviour.

wills:
If all you think is wouping her ass, Then i can't Hook you up,and whats more unless you are working with one of the Big oil and gas firms ,O4 real ,i can assure you that she packs more pay then you do rite now

My guy, I 4 don answer you since but i decide say make i go off N****land 4 some time cos am becoming additive to it. Anyways, since you dont know me then 4get my teasing especially if you are One-track person. Then I dont need to work in an Oil and gas to get that arse whooped. If you doubt that then hook me up and we can take a bet on N*****Land. Cos am officially opening this on you. Then are you breakin up my ID or it's typing error? 4get pay, getting ladies buzzing over one is in-born not ability, which is what you have been concentrating on.
Attention, dedication, time, gifts @ peroids expected, the rite words = having HER 4 good!

O4real, you my Boy , wazz up with the competition, over a lady, men you got to be kidding me, anyway , i agree with you, cuz lesson number one say, No matter what any Girl can get swepted off her feet, regardless of the guys pocket, all you need it know what you need to know, Right?

o4real, the girl is mine, lets not react on nairaland- paul macartny and jacksons arguement of whos the girl is,

Wilis i like your honesty. Pls be warned that if there is the next redundancy they will sack you. Its either you look for relocation or you take ya eyes off the girl. Spiritualy she could be trap. Talking from my experience.

:-x

Better face your job oga. But if you must run the package like I usually do simply don't talk to her in the office. You can pretend not to like each other so people don't suspect. Once she comes to your house get down to business no need to waste time. If after the business you still want to marry her look for another job.