yellowpawpaw:
Yorubas don't pay much like u said but d owambes,asoebi and d likes will still milk d man dry.

bettymafy: ^^^Kulyie, is that a paragraph I'm seeing up there??

Vikin:

It depends on the tribe, in kalabari..the bride price is damn expensive. Very expensive that you can go to borrow from bank!

Some people try to escape it though but if the lady should die, even at old age, they have to bury her in her home town!

Got friends there

bettymafy: ^^^Kulyie, is that a paragraph I'm seeing up there??

freecocoa: My(our) own is not expensive at all, its just 1k and them go give you balance o.

They might just decide to take 5naira out of it and give you back 995 naira or the may take 999 naira and give you back 1 naira, it all depends on your inlaws but bottomline is, something must return to the groom to be from the 1k.

Oya suitors start coming .

freecocoa: My(our) own is not expensive at all, its just 1k and them go give you balance o.

They might just decide to take 5naira out of it and give you back 995 naira or the may take 999 naira and give you back 1 naira, it all depends on your inlaws but bottomline is, something must return to the groom to be from the 1k.

Oya suitors start coming .

Djtm: I hate the nigerian system of weddings. I love how the whites do theirs; a 15minutes church service with a few friends and family members, everbody in the church numbering less than 50.

claremont: This obsolete tradition of obtaining bride-price creates the impression that a bride is a commodity to be bought and sold.

So why shouldn't a man who paid for his wife treat her like a property e.g. furniture, car e.t.c?! He paid for her, he can treat her any way he chooses to.

freecocoa: My(our) own is not expensive at all, its just 1k and them go give you balance o.

They might just decide to take 5naira out of it and give you back 995 naira or the may take 999 naira and give you back 1 naira, it all depends on your inlaws but bottomline is, something must return to the groom to be from the 1k.

Oya suitors start coming .

mondi_cheeks: but u will want her to treat u like an African husband after that wedding right?

bettymafy: ^^^Kulyie, is that a paragraph I'm seeing up there??

ballabriggs: Well all these una parables and theory no concern me. My first daughter na 200k pounds. Anybody wey no want make e go ambassadors go marry woman. KAPISH!!!

ballabriggs: Well all these una parables and theory no concern me. My first daughter na 200k pounds. Anybody wey no want make e go ambassadors go marry woman. KAPISH!!!

yellowpawpaw: I don't know where u guys get d generalization thing from.I agree in some places,the bride price can be scary but not everywhere.I'm ibo and in my lga,what u pay and do is really small.infact after payin d dowry,ur family will take little amt and return d rest to ur guy's pple.its customary.
All those other things u c pple doin is just copy cat, not in most constitutions.but bc u want to impress pple,u can do some outrageous thing and blame it on ur gal's pple.

yellowpawpaw: I don't know where u guys get d generalization thing from.I agree in some places,the bride price can be scary but not everywhere.I'm ibo and in my lga,what u pay and do is really small.infact after payin d dowry,ur family will take little amt and return d rest to ur guy's pple.its customary.
All those other things u c pple doin is just copy cat, not in most constitutions.but bc u want to impress pple,u can do some outrageous thing and blame it on ur gal's pple.

Djtm: I hate the nigerian system of weddings. I love how the whites do theirs; a 15minutes church service with a few friends and family members, everbody in the church numbering less than 50.

claremont: This obsolete tradition of obtaining bride-price creates the impression that a bride is a commodity to be bought and sold.

So why shouldn't a man who paid for his wife treat her like a property e.g. furniture, car e.t.c?! He paid for her, he can treat her any way he chooses to.

2buff:
If God blesses me with a daughter, even if I ask for the brideprice, I think I will then instantly in the same breath of the transaction put jara on top and give it to the couple to use to build their life...

Idowuogbo:
She go rust for ya house.

yellowpawpaw: I don't know where u guys get d generalization thing from.I agree in some places,the bride price can be scary but not everywhere.I'm ibo and in my lga,what u pay and do is really small.infact after payin d dowry,ur family will take little amt and return d rest to ur guy's pple.its customary.
All those other things u c pple doin is just copy cat, not in most constitutions.but bc u want to impress pple,u can do some outrageous thing and blame it on ur gal's pple.

slimyem: That's why you should marry a girl with reasonable parents. Tradition or not,no sensible parent would want to make things difficult for any in-law especially when they know his pocket.
Most of those traditional requirement are so unnecessary. Makes you wonder if its a family of hungry people.
The weddings I've seen lately though, parents just demand the basics. Nothing overwhelming for the groom and that's how it should be.