freecocoa: My(our) own is not expensive at all, its just 1k and them go give you balance o.

They might just decide to take 5naira out of it and give you back 995 naira or the may take 999 naira and give you back 1 naira, it all depends on your inlaws but bottomline is, something must return to the groom to be from the 1k.

Oya suitors start coming .

staicey: Errr.. I don't know.
Novice

But I heard in IMO state, it is been paid according to what the girl studied in school.
Say, #100,000 for a medical doctor
#80,000 for a veterinary doctor
#50,000 for a pharmacist
#30,000 for bankers.. And so on
I don't know o. It is what I heard. Nobody should crucify me please

InvertedHammer: /
If the marriage doesn't work, is the husband entitled to some refund?

Or is it down the toilet just like that?

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Idowuogbo:
She go rust for ya house.

legendprac:

r u from umuoji or idemili in anambra state?

Ticha: My father is not the oldest male in the family so I called his uncle and discussed with him. I informed stylishly in the discussion that:

1. I am coming home primarily to pay my respects to the family and not sully their name so they should please reciprocate
2. Any mention of box or clothes list, I will cancel my ticket cos I'm already living with him
3. We have paid for the white wedding (didn't marry in church, had a civil ceremony in the UK) so if dem no gree, I will still be married in the eyes of the law
4. We have no money!

He agreed with me and said the family's desire is to see all their daughters happily married and if that is what I wanted, I'll get it. I didn't believe initially. He had some years earlier almost stopped my cousin's wedding midway cos the grooms' mother's goat ate his crops and she refused to pay donkey years before that day!

Come wedding day, no mention of clothes, boxes, yams, goat or even palm wine. Yams, goats and palmie were still supplied by the groom and his small delegation that came. Bride price was N200 negotiated down from N50k. I was even happy to plan with my hubby to pretend to walk out if they were intractable! Luckily, it didn't come to that The total cost of our traditional wedding was N250k.

Ladies, it is in our hands. I always tell my female friends that our blessings are not supposed to make us suffer. Marriage is indeed a blessing, why would I want to spoil it by not speaking up to remove any angst and potential worries for the sake of just one day that will be remembered by only both of us?

Vikin:

Naira and kobo....

Village in anambra state. Can't remember the name! Near nnamdi azuikiwe uni.

stillwater: I think brideprice is different from the list/demands from the family. Brideprice doesn't cost much, it's the list that is the problem.

2buff:

For you I no go mind whatever your mama say make I pay ....if at all she want make I pay....hopefully not.
I really don't wanna feel like I am buying someone's child.

If God blesses me with a daughter, even if I ask for the brideprice, I think I will then instantly in the same breath of the transaction put jara on top and give it to the couple to use to build their life...

critique101:

Its a big lie

Odunharry: nice..do u still av a younger female sibbling?bw 16 to 20?lol

Odunharry: nice..do u still av a younger female sibbling?bw 16 to 20?lol

biolabee:

we are encouraging you lol.... happy weekend

asmaua:

Yeah it is true dey have two types of traditional wedding the normal one which u are marrying just her body so when she dies her remains are return back to fathers house and the IYA which is very expensive where u marry both the flesh and bones in dis situation when she dies her husband buries her in his own place cos they have paid for both her flesh and borns

My mum is Kalabari

safeLove: Has anyone seen hausa marriage list before? You go fear list.

kulyie: The yorubas dont ask for much.i remember when i was way younger,i asked my mom why yorubas dont demand much and just allow you to pay whatever comes from your mind.she told me that if we say the man should start paying,honestly he would not be able to afford you because you are invaluable.no amount of money a man pays can buy the affection,struggle,guidiance and passion of a parent to her daughter aside from the money she has spent from antenatal,to diapers to school fees,text books all the way from primary to university,in short no man can buy the love i have for you moreover you are not a productor property to be 'bought' and so because we dont want any man to treat you like his property,we dont demand,if at all we demand,not much,because we have trained you to be a wife.secondly if the man abuses you in the marriage or subjects you to violence,we will have the justification to intervene and give him back his bride price but if he collects so much,we will not have the moral justification.i dont know why other tribes collect so much o,but i know we yorubas dont collect much.infact when my sister got married apart from the yam,2 packs of sweet,5packs of salt,6 pieces of buiscuits etc in hampers,he gave his wife's siblings 2,ooonaira each OUT OF HIS OWN VOLITION.NO ONE ASKED HIM

soldierAnt:

Nice. But why are you economizing your space bar? Spaces after punctuations biko. Because of that I bin no wan read your post o but when I see the many likes I just say make I try and I'm glad I did. + 1 like.

Ihedinobi:



As for the women, you indeed should help but not as the "Ticha" lady did. She went all out to cripple her own value. Now, it's a "free" world and every fooll is entitled to his ffoolishness and every wise man to his wisdom, so if you would rather go Ticha's route, by all means do so. But if you would rather confirm your husband's pride and your own worth, you can help without going to "war", as it were, with the custodians of your value.

Ticha:

I laugh in Fulfude! I am worth more than life itself to my hubby! And boy does he show it!!! So I should help my extended family to bankrupt him when they do not know how I managed to eat, feed and even get educated or even the fact I was existing somewhere until marriage issue came up? Speak for yourself and the value you place on your woman!

Agrika: Most times the people responsible for the high bride prices are usually the extended members of the girl's family who didnt give a dime in raising the girl...mtchewww..

staicey:
Awwwwwwww I know. But get ready to pay cos in no part of the world does women come free and you no get four heads
And the bolded is so sweet of you