Tanna is just a psycho. Gosh! How ignorant d'u tend to be? You talk about Nigerian women as if AA's are any better.

I see you all have really SHORT memories.

When I first answered the original poster's question, all of you ripped into me, calling me names, and attacking me, loooooong before I spoke one unkind word about Nigerian women.

Then a few men said we have the right to express our opinions here, but should not be attacking people who see things differently, And YET the WOMEN here continue to bash me because my views are different.

Now, I finally stand up for myself and say something unkind to you and you feel like I have some vendetta against Nigerian women, or that I have a superiority complex.

Maybe you should pull that beam out your own eye first, (and review how all this wahala started), because it certainly wasn't instigated by me.

Point is get off this board and go whine on one that doesnt have any "evil Nigerian women". So simple

Btw good job on ignoring the examples I gave showing that JEALOUSY in such households isnt just an African thing. ok? Have fun on that island of denial, dont fool yourself to death on it though.

Ladies, ladies

it's obvious y'all have very strong opinions and aren't willing to change it so I suggest you give yourself a break. No need in continuing with this discussion because it's getting boring. Same things are being written in different ways. *yawn*

@ Tanna especially

I suggest you make an experiment. Bring in a second wife for your husband.
Come back to tell us what happens in the next 6 months.

There is always an exception in everything, and if you think of your polygamous family in a different light, then prove it!

@ Tanna from your signature, i guess your man or husband is nigerian. Interesting but good. He may be open to this whole polygamy idea. It dont matter that you are no longer ill. Just whisper the idea in his ears and if dude is smart he'll say "yeah"!
Bring in the other woman. She doesnt have to be nigerian. Just bring in another African American woman like you (like with like yeah?)ok, Then make her preferably younger and prettier (thats what guys opt for when its wife number 2) . Play house for 3 months and then get back to us. Nobody is attacking you personally. A lot of people on this forum are from polygamous homes.Its so common in our culture. They have lived it first hand. Its not good. but i guess the saying that experience is the best teacher rings sooooooooo true.

@spoilt

By saying the man would be smart to say 'yeah', you acknowledge that polygamy is beneficial to the man?

In other words you acknowledge that the real sufferers are the children, or at least, not the man himself (you still seem to feel that the woman's life will become a living nightmare)

I think many of those attacking Tanna are not only shortsighted but diehard pessimists about polygamy. It is unfortunate that rather than probing how it work out for some and fail for others, they had personalize the issue. I believe that if we but listen to both success and failure stories we would be in the best position to make accurate judgement.

Tanna was right about the propensity of some Nigerian women killing othe people children especially in polygamy. In fact she  understated the fact. We know that she was telling the home truth. Anybody who had been following Yoruba live programme NKAN BE, AND LABE ORUN among others dedicated to exposing evils in the society every week know that she was being modest about that statement compare to the reality. Little wonder we have many vicious opponents of polygamy. That is not to say all Nigerian women are wicked and irrational. I am a product of successful polygamy. We live a one family and my step brothers even lives with my mum. I have equally seen even more successful polygamous home. I therefore would reject any attempt at making my case exceptional. That I choose monogamy does not mean I should ignore the fact that whileit ir a disaster for some couple, it works for perfectly for others. We must learn to tolerate others if we want to understand them.

dakmanzero:

@spoilt

By saying the man would be smart to say 'yeah', you acknowledge that polygamy is beneficial to the man?

In other words you acknowledge that the real sufferers are the children, or at least, not the man himself (you still seem to feel that the woman's life will become a living nightmare)

of course he'll say yeah to the sex! isnt that all they think about in polygamy? The sex, the sex, the seX! All other angles are completely forgotten.

olanajim:


Tanna was right about the propensity of some Nigerian women killing othe people children especially in polygamy.

Yea wicked envy and jealousy because that ONLY happens in Nigeria

You people know absolutely NOTHING about the whole "stepmother/stepfather deal" in other countries and in tanna's case, some are actually in denial of it.

AGAIN, I love how Tanna ignore the examples I provided. I can so easily provide so many more.

olanajim:



. I am a product of successful polygamy. We live a one family and my step brothers even lives with my mum. I have equally seen even more successful polygamous home. I therefore would reject any attempt at making my case exceptional. That I choose monogamy does not mean I should ignore the fact that whileit ir a disaster for some couple, it works for perfectly for others.

No wonder!
Who shall we ask about this so called success you talk about?
how many tearful nights did the first and real wife have as she heard her husband in bed with other women?
Was this plan made known to the first wife from the first instance?
did you ask  the women if they felt like a piece of meat competing to be the better bedmates?
who made the sleeping roster?
How well do the offsprings of one wife get on with the others?
and which wife was the man's favorite?

My dear I don't wish to dissect your family or any in particular but there is absolutely no benefit to any child being raised in a plural marriage situation.
You turned out right,halleluia!!
Children of thieves,whores and robbers also sometimes turn out right but does that endorse the lifestyle?
The mere fact that you choose monogamy tells me you know the right thing.
You did not create your circumstances so I don't blame you for it.

osisi, long time. How are you?

my sister I dey.
worked more than usual in recent days due to a sick colleague.

@ osisi
i dey wonder too. asked after you in the kwenu thread. welcome ooo

ola, i have a question for you. Do you plan to have more than a wife?

I have never said ONLY Nigerian women are afflicted with envy, and others vices associated with women. So far you did not dispute the fact I cited. Neither did you contested the existence of the TV programme nor it accuracy. I suspect somebody is echoing his/her mind. My knowldge of psychology is my guide here.

The guy asking after my family would naturally be disappointed. Nothing short of your physical presence can make you see reason. Since you obviously live in Naija, why not humble yourself and take a holiday? My family would be your host. Don't be shy, we won't feed you poison. Whatever you see, you can then give your pessimist friends a feedback. I won't waste time on you since it was obvious you have no issue to discuss.

I am not Tanna, so I must warn in advance that many of you would be wasting your precious time if you hope to attack me.

For the forum information, I am undergoing a research, and this thread offer me an important material I needed as I understudy human behaviour, I appreciate your stupidity as it helps alot. Please keep it going. If you are intelligent enough, you would have observed that what I posted were carefully worded. I just hope one of you read psychology.



Omoge, I am not married so the idea of a second wife does not arise unless you are interested. I must confess however, that I am not searching. When I said I choose monogamy, it doesn't mean I am married. It mean something else. My faith, my creed had been a guiding light in my decision and not people, culture, or religion. Unfortunately, none of you even bother to ask. That show how intelligent you could be. Arguing without basis for the argument, for the sake of argument. Thank God for annonymity, I would have had my best moment.

I am reading you.

I have never said ONLY Nigerian women are afflicted with envy, and others vices associated with women. So far you did not dispute the fact I cited. Neither did you contested the existence of the TV programme nor it accuracy. I suspect somebody is echoing his/her mind. My knowldge of psychology is my guide here.

The guy asking after my family would naturally be disappointed. Nothing short of your physical presence can make you see reason. Since you obviously live in Naija, why not humble yourself and take a holiday? My family would be your host. Don't be shy, we won't feed you poison. Whatever you see, you can then give your pessimist friends a feedback. I won't waste time on you since it was obvious you have no issue to discuss.

I am not Tanna, so I must warn in advance that many of you would be wasting your precious time if you hope to attack me.

For the forum information, I am undergoing a research, and this thread offer me an important material I needed as I understudy human behaviour, I appreciate your stupidity as it helps alot. Please keep it going. If you are intelligent enough, you would have observed that what I posted were carefully worded. I just hope one of you read psychology.



Omoge, I am not married so the idea of a second wife does not arise unless you are interested. I must confess however, that I am not searching. When I said I choose monogamy, it doesn't mean I am married. It mean something else. My faith, my creed had been a guiding light in my decision and not people, culture, or religion. Unfortunately, none of you even bother to ask. That show how intelligent you could be. Arguing without basis for the argument, for the sake of argument. Thank God for annonymity, I would have had my best moment.

I am reading you.

I have never said ONLY Nigerian women are afflicted with envy, and others vices associated with women. So far you did not dispute the fact I cited. Neither did you contested the existence of the TV programme nor it accuracy. I suspect somebody is echoing his/her mind. My knowldge of psychology is my guide here.

The guy asking after my family would naturally be disappointed. Nothing short of your physical presence can make you see reason. Since you obviously live in Naija, why not humble yourself and take a holiday? My family would be your host. Don't be shy, we won't feed you poison. Whatever you see, you can then give your pessimist friends a feedback. I won't waste time on you since it was obvious you have no issue to discuss.

I am not Tanna, so I must warn in advance that many of you would be wasting your precious time if you hope to attack me.

For the forum information, I am undergoing a research, and this thread offer me an important material I needed as I understudy human behaviour, I appreciate your stupidity as it helps alot. Please keep it going. If you are intelligent enough, you would have observed that what I posted were carefully worded. I just hope one of you read psychology.



Omoge, I am not married so the idea of a second wife does not arise unless you are interested. I must confess however, that I am not searching. When I said I choose monogamy, it doesn't mean I am married. It mean something else. My faith, my creed had been a guiding light in my decision and not people, culture, or religion. Unfortunately, none of you even bother to ask. That show how intelligent you could be. Arguing without basis for the argument, for the sake of argument. Thank God for annonymity, I would have had my best moment.

I am reading you.

Trying to discourse with Spoilt and Thief is like trying to chase a shadow - (Totally pointless and a waste of mental energy that could otherwise be spent on intelligent dialogue and opinion sharing with the other interesting minds of Nairaland).

you ait rit,

Tanna:

Trying to discourse with Spoilt and Thief is like trying to chase a shadow - (Totally pointless and a waste of mental energy that could otherwise be spent on intelligent dialogue and opinion sharing with the other interesting minds of Nairaland).

wetin spoilt do you abeg?
sweetie, i think you have my script! You are reading my lines! 
Seriously you think your posts are intelligent? seriously??

go to court, I will represent your as attorney.

Tanna:

Trying to discourse with Spoilt and Thief is like trying to chase a shadow - (Totally pointless and a waste of mental energy that could otherwise be spent on intelligent dialogue and opinion sharing with the other interesting minds of Nairaland).

like the intelligence associated with having a strange female service your husband before his "abunna" shrinks into oblivion.
Tufiakwa!!

you and your so called "intelligence" can easily leave, Tanna and join other twisted minds on another forum like blackplanet.com  

let me leave here quick, fire on the roof.

Tanna
You have a right to your opinion. But we are never gonna agree. The day you hear that spoilt has ascribed to having another woman move into her matrimonial home then you'll know that i must have taken leave of my senses and run stark raving crazy. Like i said before ,move another woman into your home for a couple of months then get back to us with feedback. you'll be in a better position to argue intelligently.

Spoilt,I hope she takes you up on that "wonderful" proposal.
Isn't that why we take cars for a test drive before signing on the dotted line?.
Let this stallion of hers sample another woman on their matrimonial bed for 30 days non stop and let's hear how "heavenly" it was.

@ babyosisi
hehehehe. poor thing hasnt wrapped her head around sharing a man. One thing is for sure. A man can't emotionally, sexually, spiritually satisfy 2,3,4 women. Even a no- strings -attached party causes problems talk less of a live in situation! she probably means well. havent women been known to go to extremes to please their men? Hasnt it always backfired? I guess she hasnt read about sarah who married Haggai for her husband Abraham. it isnt today that strife started in polygamy. Im almost tempted to say "hope she finds out the hard way!"

spoilt:

@ babyosisi
hehehehe. poor thing hasnt wrapped her head around sharing a man. One thing is for sure. A man can't emotionally, sexually, spiritually satisfy 2,3,4 women. Even a no- strings -attached party causes problems talk less of a live in situation! she probably means well. havent women been known to go to extremes to please their men? Hasnt it always backfired? I guess she hasnt read about sarah who married Haggai for her husband Abraham. it isnt today that strife started in polygamy. I'm almost tempted to say "hope she finds out the hard way!"

I wonder how old the poor girl is?
what kind of upbringing did she have that gives her such a low opinion of herself.
Only an abused woman would think this way and I want to be proven wrong.
Any one in a healthy marital relationship knows that there's more to love than sex.
A woman willing to find her husband a temporary or permanent replacement needs to see a shrink before a little girl somewhere thinks this is okay.
It ain't!!
women are trying to move forward and we have people like this pulling down all the efforts.

My advice to tanna,get out if this is what this marriage has turned you into,before you turn over an underaged girl to "mr wonderful" because his restless "abunna" may be yearning for them.
Ewu man pleaser

She thinks american women aren't jealous? I guess she didnt hear about the astronaut who wore an astronaut diaper and drove miles to intercept her boyfriend's other woman. and that was just a love triangle. . She doesnt realize how ugly this whole man sharing thing can get. Anyway if she has found the universal panacea to the age old problems of polygamy . pray. let her share!

let her write a book.
nonsense

lmao osisi. ewu man please hahhaha

You've said it all jare.


spoilt, I think Tanna has forgotten a certain AMY FISHER

na only AMY FISHER? i bet u with time she go become LORENA BOBBIT one day, if she's not careful!

soulpatrol:

na only AMY FISHER? i bet u with time she go become LORENA BOBBIT one day, if she's not careful!

oh no! not the bobbits! dude went and became a porn star after the thing was re-attached! sorry to digress.

@TOH
dang! you look hot in that pic! go!

@spoilt. are u serious? shit! she practically gave him a whole new career! wonders o!