This is a question many brothers give unconvincing answers to. Many go with the saying "better the devil you know than the devil you don't ." This means they see the pious, dedicated and pretty sisters in their local assembly as hypocrites; wolves in sheep's clothings. They see them as people with "multiple" personalities; different persons on campus, at work, home, in company of friends and in the church. Some are of the opinion that these 'innocent' sisters must have expended their worldly lusts and passions before they turned into the church to catch naïve, unsuspecting brothers.
I worship in a local church with a robust population of single and charming ladies. For reasons I'm yet to decipher, I seem not attracted to any of them to the level of dating or proposing marriage. As much as I admire and love God-fearing ladies, I find it difficult to relate with them beyond a particular intimacy level.
You may have a contrary reason or opinion. Let's hear from you, why wouldn't you marry a sister from your local church?

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good question

Brb

Still on this matter
I rather marry a naturally good girl than any bible-clutching , my-pastor-said girl

Bolt2011: Many go with the saying that "the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know."

“Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t”;

waiting 4 sum ppl 2 arrive....



for now,I just dey observe

Q: Why won't you marry a sister from your local church?

A: Nah by force?

I'm here....

Guilt and fear. "What if she says no and tell other church members and pastor i tried to woo her" Religious women and women in general are very complicated at times. Its a blured area i'm also trying to understand.

Imagine when you pray and worship God with someone and after the PM or service you call her to a side and tell her, i like you? i dreamt and saw us together? corny and creepy.

WHY WONT I?

they are too holy for sinners like them shikena

I will think about it..

See one of de reasons why we men hardly maarry frm our local churches

https://www.nairaland.com/1488287/brothers-mariage-crashing-after-few

I asked my 'wife seeking' friend the same question and he kept giving me vague answers.

Well, churches are the headquaters of the hypocrates

thats is not a good idea for some churches that are looking for members

...its partly familiarity breeds contempt and partly awkwardness. Sometimes the opportunity is not there to chat with others after church. Everyone is trying to be aloof without being too cold. .

My brother is courting someone he used to work with. When they were working together for 4 years they didn't mix in the same company at work. They didn't start dating until they bumped into each other on the bus back from a singles meeting in church. If they were still working together they will not be courting now.

I don't go to church but the answer isn't far fetched.Girls from the next church always look prettier and more saintly.In other words,the grass is always greener on the other side

Mr Bravo: Well, churches are the headquaters of the hypocrates

Tell me about it!

I went there to buy some crates of hypo, but they were sold out.

Reason is we see church members as families. Same way you can't marry your sister.

I've even decided not to marry from my state cause almost everybody in my hometown is somehow related to me, i detest incest.

SELFWORTH: ...its partly familiarity breeds contempt and partly awkwardness.

I think that's it.

Hard question

i wont marry o, dats inbreeding

bro

i can't. they are beyond what u see them as.

So, how did this made the front page?
Who among the mods did this??
Seun, call your boys to order. Kindly train them on value recognition

hmmmmmmm

A lot of people marry outside their church and they fail to realise how wrong that is....The apostle paul admonishes christains to ''marry only in the Lord'' [1corinthians 7:39, 11:11]

so with the sound reasons he gave to support this, i dont think i am ready to do contrary.

Because she is already a sister.

Yoshi-Master:


Tell me about it!

I went there to buy some crates of hypo, but they were sold out.

There are hypocrites everywhere. Even on NL. Tell us something new.

Lol op u really gat a piont here...seriousLy men dnt lyke d so called "wumen in christ" ladies...seriously u wun't blame i even know 1 gel 4rm awa side...shez fuckinq 37yr old buh lastweek she celebrated ha 28th birthday and dis pesin iz the type dat wil preach,qive u prayerz even 2 the extent of washinq d church...dats life shaaa buT all d same "SHINE UR EYES!!"