Dear ID readers,

I’m going through a hell of time in my home and I think it’s about time to cry to the whole world. I’ve been suffering in silent and I can’t bear it any longer.

I and my husband dated for a long time before we got married. I’m eight years younger than him so we hardly pick up fights during our courtship due to the respect I had for him. He treated me like his younger sister and I also treated him like my elder brother.

We never had sex during our courtship. Not even for once. But, we maximally explored the romantic world. Sex was the only thing we didn’t have. I made him vow not to have it with me before we married. At first, he didn’t concur. He insisted that he can’t date a girl without having sex with her. I wasn’t comfortable with that so I laid him off.

He refused to go and demanded for explanation on the reason why I made that choice. So I told him it was our tradition that anyone who disvirgins us will marry us. If he wanted to do it anyway, he should marry me first. So he left.
After some time, he came back ant told me he has agreed. I told him to promise me never to have sex with another girl outside our relationship.He also made me promise to be romantically active.

He said if I don’t, he’d walk away and never come back to me. I didn’t want him to go because it’s rear to see a guy who would agree to such terms. So I promised.Throughout the time we dated, he never for once made attempt to break his promise.

I also fulfilled my side of the bargain. Whenever he needed to ease off, I was there for him. We had a fantastic dating period and I can hardly forget those moments we had together.

The time came and we got married. We had our honeymoon and I gave him my reserved flower with joy. It was the first time I experienced it in my life. It was more fantastic than painful because he was careful as not to hurt me. I was happy and fulfilled and hoped to get more of it from my husband. But, I really got more than I expected. Alas! It was the first and last time I enjoyed sex in our marriage.

My husband suddenly turned into a beast. He immediately turned our former food meal into sex meal. Sex became the only thing we do frequently in the house. If I don’t feel like it, my husband would force me and if I don’t comply, he would hit me.
My husband leaves his work place to come home to have sex sometimes before closing hour. Each of the time, he comes home to descend on me. Even when I’m sore from the previous one, he won’t mind. I cry and bleed every time we have sex because he does it too often. He’s so much older than me so he had power chances over me if i want to fight back.

I called him one day and pleaded with him concerning the issue. I told him to please be considerate. He bluntly said no. he said as long as I’m his wife, he has the right to sex me anytime he feels like. He said he was making up for all those times that I deprived him from having sex. He said he kept his potency safe all because of me and so he had to make up for those inactive years.

I couldn’t complain further because I also know what he had to forsake because of me. But, instead of his malady to reduce, it kept on increasing. Due to too much harsh sex i believe , I’d lost two pregnancies. The doctor advised him not to have sex with me at the early stage of marriage but, he wouldn’t listen.

I am really frustrated. If I opt for a divorce now,where do i start from.

Dear ID readers, please, come to my rescue.


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cool movie....dnt knw wat m supposed 2 do nxt...sumbit dis comment or jus exit thread

It is a naturaal something when i see you do the strong thing....go sholee it's your birtfay go sholee......how I wish the woman could get access to nairaland to see our sincere advice. My advice is that you should pray for change and endure for the mean time he'll definately change..the thing still dey freak him.... marriage is a lesson. What more can we say since your husband already refused to listen to a doctor's advice?
BEST ADVICE SO FAR..... *laughs* habatically

this is why its good to marry your mate...this is how many a woman had lost their lives. the man you married is much more s..ex active than you. you still went to marry him. SMH.

Babiloko: cool movie....dnt knw wat m supposed 2 do nxt...sumbit dis comment or jus exit thread

This is very much real life, don't be so naïve.

This is an abusive relationship. The sex is borderline non-consensual and she is physically abused for refusing her husband sex. If the sex is not fun for her, it's not fair on her. She should NOT stand for it. No negotiations with uncompromising terrorists husbands DOGS!!

Her virginity was her own choice which was clearly communicated, he should never hold that against her. He may well be an untreated nymphomaniac, but she should never feel compelled to "put up with it" when she suffers daily. They both need help.

If he has a member of his family he respects or a close friend he'll listen to, go and talk with him or her. I believe he'll change. Best of luck.

made2fit: If he has a member of his family he respects or a close friend he'll listen to, go and talk with him or her. I believe he'll change. Best of luck.

after refusing a scientific advice from a doctor? Habatically

I feel so sorry for you and the pains you must be going through.
sex is a thing of joy and not something you have to dread like your husband has made you feel.

how long have you two been married...it could be that since your husband has been so sex starved, he is pouncing on you with fury and vengeance and this is inhuman of him. he needs to give you time and should be extra gentle with you until you get used to the act before he assumes the rough kinky kind of sex.

you need to sit him down in your home and have a good discussion with him. do not hold back on the tears and emotion as you do and let him understand that he is hurting you. sometimes men mistake a womans refusal for pretence and so might not take you serious when you tell him you are not up for it. if he does not change, then get your parents involved so that they can let him know that his attitude is unacceptable. and if does not work.

your parents should call for discussion with both families, elders inclusive. they should be able to drum some sense into him. I am positive he will change after this but if not, you might have a bigger problem on your hands.
at this point you might want to evaluate the marriage if to continue and pray that he changes, or head to the court for divorce. if he truly loves you and is interested in the marriage, a divorce summon paper should wake him up.

for the meantime, try to avoid him. if you have an extra room in your home you can equip it and lock yourself in so that when he gets back from work, he wont see you to assault. this should give you time for the bruises to heal a little.

just know that its not your fault that he is a beast. and you made a right decision for you to keep your virginity till marriage. on the other hand he knew the stakes so why is he now punishing you?

why didnt he marry a por.nsta.r or ash.e.wo that he will practice rough sex with?
some men sha. SMH

And when did sex turn 2 food....maybe ur husband is a horse..madam u need 2 run for ur dear life before ur husband will expand dat hole if u allow him 2 expand dat hole then OYO lo wa niyen oooo

Nawao this story get as e be... Are you guys trying to scare us from being Holy virgins?

°°°mixedchic°°°:

why didnt he marry a por.nsta.r or ash.e.wo that he will practice gymnastics with?

Gymnastics aside, these women could not handle excessive pounding even if they were willing.

I enjoyed this persn's comment until this rather blunt insult. You should learn hw to refrain from mock when advising pls

°°°mixedchic°°°:


why didnt he marry a por.nsta.r or ash.e.wo that he will practice rough sex with?
some men sha. SMH

Flytefalls:
Gymnastics aside, these women could not handle excessive pounding even if they were willing.

depends on what you mean by excessive pounding.
but dont forget that that is their occupation. and most of them are naturally nym.ph o.s

Technically,she was a virgin but spiritually,she is not.
Madam go and buy female equivalent of viagra. Take overdose.
Do it consistently for like two weeks, he will be d one begging.
Get lubricating gel so u won't be bruised. If he start getting tired, take more of d drug and attack.He want to run,no gree.
Fuc*k d hell outta him for like two weeks until he faints one day.

U can tie him up too. Just endure it and teach him a lesson he will never forget.
Nobody will tell him to calm down by force.
How I wish he met his equal.
Yeyecious man.

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Flytefalls:
Gymnastics aside, these women could not handle excessive pounding even if they were willing.

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°°°mixedchic°°°:


depends on what you mean by excessive pounding.
but dont forget that that is their occupation. and most of them are naturally nym.ph o.s

'pounding' = colloquialism for excessive and rough penetrative sex

Questions to ask re occupation:
- How long does an average p0.rno last (in mins)?
- who is driving the sex act and its positioning?
- how long do p0.rn stars rest before their next sex act?
- can she leave if she is not willing?
- are they protected by law?

By occupation, their sex is probably (but not always) consensual and the lubricant, natural. But this fact (or even being a nym.ph.o) does not mean her anatomy can handle excessive penetrative sex. Females are built differently but essentially of the same products. We bleed, tear, have limits.

The woman in the OP's post is suffering domestic abuse. That's it.

this is wrong... and shows it is deliberate

forcing ur partener because u were 'deprived' is no more love making but perverse

yellowpawpaw: Technically,she was a virgin but spiritually,she is not.
Madam go and buy female equivalent of viagra. Take overdose.
Do it consistently for like two weeks, he will be d one begging.
Get lubricating gel so u won't be bruised. If he start getting tired, take more of d drug and attack.He want to run,no gree.
Fuc*k d hell outta him for like two weeks until he faints one day.

U can tie him up too. Just endure it and teach him a lesson he will never forget.
Nobody will tell him to calm down by force.
How I wish he met his equal.
Yeyecious man.

as funny as this advice sounds, its actually a good one. but i doubt if the OP has the mind to carry it out, when dealing with men like this , let your actions speak louder, there is no reasoning with a guy with a hard d1kc, cos he is thinking with his d1kc

and beleive me in the head of a hard d1kc, there is no brain

@flytefalls
the woman is suffering domestic abuse.

agreed.
domestic abuse brought on by excessive s*ex from her husband and her inability to meet up with his sexual demands..
the man knows that he is extremely sexually demanding and he went ahead to marry a virgin instead of someone who is equally as needy and experienced as himself.

Oya e don do. The woman will surely get used to it. Obviously, she's a learner. Okay okay. I know y'all wanna pour out your dirty minds so my MODERATOR PLS FRONT PAGE. People wan drop their shits leggo!

i think I've been following you iyanda,but sincerely your husband is emotionally,sexually assulting you.rather than stay abused,sweetheart i avice you take a break.bye,,,,,,today i feel somehow*in my wardrobe arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh*

mysticgal: i think I've been following you iyanda,but sincerely your husband is emotionally,sexually assulting you.rather than stay abused,sweetheart i avice you take a break.bye,,,,,,today i feel somehow*in my wardrobe arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh*

DON'T PLAY A LEARNER HERE, IYANDA IS A MALE NAIRALANDER AND POSTED FROM A SOURCE. Habatically!!!

mysticgal: today i feel somehow*in my wardrobe arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh*

Good to know you're making good use of those DILDOes

Good for you. You made him endure a Sexless relationship....You must endure a Sexful bedding-in period.

maxwello.yg:

Good to know you're making good use of those DILDOes

max i swear you the madt,i was just screaming

i didnt know NL had live-in homos€xuals!

careytommy: i didnt know NL had live-in homos€xuals!

are you surprised? there are different varieties of Human beans on NL! while you are here you gat to be careful and watch your steps. these HOMOPEOPLE virus is much more potent and quiucker than the fastest acting virus. before you know or realise what is happening, you will be swept off your feet and eventually find yourself hovering around cloud nine.