In Nigeria these days,having a good and fruitful relationship has become even harder than getting a job for many people! Lol.I have met many people throughout my study at the university and by listening to their complains about relationships I have come up with this list. without wasting much time;

(1)Being too Demanding on your boyfriend- i know many ladies would wanna eat me raw for saying this but a girl's got to say what a girls go to say(lol) Your boyfriend knows that he has to buy you stuff and give u money,he knows that its he's responsibility but I promise you,he doesn't really wanna hear u asking him. asking your boyfriend often for material things and cash will only make him feel like u are in it just for money...if its money u want make it clear,don't lead a good guy on..limit your demands ladies.

(2)RESPECT YOUR MAN- I don't know how most ladies pull this off but I get so sad when I see ladies talking rudely to their man. its just sad and I often wonder how they enjoy the relationship..I hear some ladies talking to their man on phone and I shake my head,I could argue that they are actually talking to their servants. How can u open your mouth and insult your man?? Seriously its wrong on many levels,if u don't respect your man,u are just chasing him away into the hands of another woman. he will get fed up and leave you one day..Talk to your man nicely,respect he's opinions, and he will certainly reciprocate.

(3)DO NOT ACT ALL INDEPENDENT AND FEMINIST(DOMINANT)- I know ladies of this generation all wanna be dominant,acting all independent and chanting the slogan"what a man can do a woman can do better" or "the man is the head,women are the neck holding it" and what not!! Being a real woman does not mean you have to be the one wearing the pants in the house or making all the decisions,being a real woman means respecting your man and being submissive,listen to him,take care of the home and making your marriage or relationship work..Have u noticed how divorce rates have increased in this generation? Its because the gender's have refused to know their place in a relationship,the bible spells it out clearly,a wife ought to be subject to the husband,listen to his decisions and if u don't like any of them or have a better idea,subtly lay it out to him and make him see your point of view,not by shouting or nagging or insulting your man. Do all things with love and if he loves u like the bible commanded him to,u all will be happy.

(4)DON'T LET SEX BE THE BASIS OF YOUR RELATiONsHiP-sex is supposed to enhance an already blooming and working relationship and many a time sex can stall or kill your relationship growth when u indulge in it too often. sex every time will only make the both of you loose focus on the relationship itself. take time out once in a while to just be together without sex,just cuddle and communicate with each other,talk on and on about what you both want,how you first met and started your relationship,what you want and ask him what he wants..Just stop and think for a moment.

(5)ALWAYS COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR MAN AND LISTEN TO HIM TOO-the major problem with relationship these days is communication,I myself am a strong believer of communication. Do not hide your feelings about something or bottle up your feelings every time your man does something wrong,always find a way to sit your man down and tell him in a loving way that you are not happy with him. Also from time to time sit your man down and evaluate your relationship,ask him things like "Do u still love me?" "What do u hate about my character?" Etc. ask him and get him to ask you too,this is important as it helps to strengthen your relationship and let's you know what your man hates so you can adjust. Do not ever assume that your man still loves you or he still crazy about you or he is happy,always ask him to ensure you are on the right page. Learn to talk and have a long lasting,love filled relationship. U will thank me later(lol)

(6)ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF YOUR MAN-taking care of your man involves physically,spiritually,emotionally etc..Most girls and women these days would rather Die than cook for their men,that is an error but its not so bad if u provide for his meal daily. Even if u don't cook u can arrange for him to eat but its better if u cook for your man,clean the house,listen to him when ever he has a bad day and give him a good massage when he's tired. Being caring is a nature every woman ought to possess,your man will appreciate you more when u care for all his needs,he will be happier outside,at work and every other place because his mind will be at rest. Always cater for his needs and make sure he never goes hungry or dirty looking or shabby. That man u see everyday looking shabby with his squeezed clothes,long beards and dirty shoes,always eating at one restaurant or another has a woman at home who doesn't care,ensure your man doesn't leave home disheveled or hungry.

(7) DON'T EVER STOP TRYING TO IMPRESS YOUR MAN-most ladies stop trying to do anything nice once they are married or are in a relationship. They are like "what the heck? Its not like am looking for a new man" so they just stick on "relax mood" and this is very bad. They stop looking good,dressing sexy,stop calling,or texting those wonderful love messages like before,they just change all together and this is a relationship killer. Try to always make your man fall in love all over again with u everyday,by dressing nice,so that one day he won't wake up next to you and imagine if u are the same woman he met some years ago. Improve on your cooking,surprise him with a new dish u learn t off the internet or from some one,text him unexpectedly,call him when he's at work,surprise him with a gift etc and you will see how much life your relationship would have.

( BUYING OF GIFTS IS NOT RESERVED FOR THE MAN ALONE- don't ever miss a special day in your man's life by not getting him a gift. Gifts are not a woman's thing alone,men love gifts as much as women and it would be very unthoughtful if u forget you don't present your man a gift on his birthday or anniversary. Also,from time to time surprise your man with gifts,like a new shirt or tie and see how much he will appreciate you. The power of gifts cannot be over emphasized,and the result is always huge,try it today and see for yourself.

(9)BE THOUGHTFUL ALWAYS- being thoughtful in a relationship is really important,surprise your man with a call when he least expects,drop by his office some times and just hang out with him,send him a nice love text message and put a smile on his face. In this era of blackberry and different networking sites,u can send him a nice picture of yourself and what you are doing at the moment,this will make u closer to him even when he is far away from you. just be thoughtful at all times.

(10) LIES- this might be coming last but trust me it is not the least,I just dropped it last as a huge bomb. There is nothing that will kill a relationship faster than lies. I have seen most relationships that have been built on lies and how fast it dies. Don't ever lie to your man and no offense but this is common with women. I am not a fan of keeping the past in the past and what not,tell your man everything you have done before, if u were once a girl who used to sleep with men for money then tell him,if he can't handle it then let him go but a real man will be hurt at first but he would later come to terms with it. Tell him about all the men u have dated(that is if you can remember all LOL) ,tell him your real AGE,tell him everything that is important and see how it will bring you together. If u hide it trust me he is going to find out and it is gonna be much worse when he finds out the wrong way and that might just be the end of your relationship. Also encourage your man to do same with you so u can know the kind of man you are with. On the whole lies has never helped in man in any way,all it does is tear people apart. Tell the truth at all times,be sincere with your man.

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absolutely brilliant!!!

By their fruits you shall know them. No doubt d op is well brought up n noble, n she handles her love life wit maturity. You have spoken d truth n i want to be lik u wen i grow up. This is a masterpiece!

U tried!

Am happy u guys appreciate this write up,bt the girls aint commenting..lol..front page pls

hmmm,let me start by calln hm

So u havnt even called him?? Nice

Saraben: hmmm,let me start by calln hm

Wen u do al dis things nd he leaves u wat wil one do.I av realised dat no matter hw nice u treat a man nd try 2 make ur relationship work ,if he wants 2 mess up he wil stil do,some guys r impossible.

If he leaves you then he was neva meant for u and its not totally bad for you cos u will have experience and be stronger for the next one..and don't forget wiser.

doris4u: Wen u do al dis things nd he leaves u wat wil one do.I av realised dat no matter hw nice u treat a man nd try 2 make ur relationship work ,if he wants 2 mess up he wil stil do,some guys r impossible.

@op, if i do all this for him, wat will he do in return, to also better the R/ship??

doris4u: Wen u do al dis things nd he leaves u wat wil one do.I av realised dat no matter hw nice u treat a man nd try 2 make ur relationship work ,if he wants 2 mess up he wil stil do,some guys r impossible.

Truth

Can't tank u enough u r just 2 creative 2 write dis right out and for bringing smile 2 my face cause is is exactly wat killing me in my relationship.Me 2 will start doing d calling till God change him totally since communication is very important.But if i may ask why is Guy of dis days like dat?

Can't tank u enough u r just 2 creative 2 write dis right out and for bringing smile 2 my face cause dis is exactly wat killing me in my relationship.Me 2 will start doing d calling till God change him totally since communication is very important.But if i may ask why is Guy of dis days like dat?

I did wat u said nd it work out fine for my relationship tank u very much heaven will put smile 2 ur face

Aww thanx dearie...am so happy for you..May God keep ur relationship ijn...thanx alot

Maryspeck: I did wat u said nd it work out fine for my relationship tank u very much heaven will put smile 2 ur face

Spot on,nyc write up

ENIMONEY: In Nigeria these days,having a good and fruitful relationship has become even harder than getting a job for many people! Lol.I have met many people throughout my study at the university and by listening to their complains about relationships I have come up with this list. without wasting much time;

(1)Being too Demanding on your boyfriend- i know many ladies would wanna eat me raw for saying this but a girl's got to say what a girls go to say(lol) Your boyfriend knows that he has to buy you stuff and give u money,he knows that its he's responsibility but I promise you,he doesn't really wanna hear u asking him. asking your boyfriend often for material things and cash will only make him feel like u are in it just for money...if its money u want make it clear,don't lead a good guy on..limit your demands ladies.

(2)RESPECT YOUR MAN- I don't know how most ladies pull this off but I get so sad when I see ladies talking rudely to their man. its just sad and I often wonder how they enjoy the relationship..I hear some ladies talking to their man on phone and I shake my head,I could argue that they are actually talking to their servants. How can u open your mouth and insult your man?? Seriously its wrong on many levels,if u don't respect your man,u are just chasing him away into the hands of another woman. he will get fed up and leave you one day..Talk to your man nicely,respect he's opinions, and he will certainly reciprocate.

(3)DO NOT ACT ALL INDEPENDENT AND FEMINIST(DOMINANT)- I know ladies of this generation all wanna be dominant,acting all independent and chanting the slogan"what a man can do a woman can do better" or "the man is the head,women are the neck holding it" and what not!! Being a real woman does not mean you have to be the one wearing the pants in the house or making all the decisions,being a real woman means respecting your man and being submissive,listen to him,take care of the home and making your marriage or relationship work..Have u noticed how divorce rates have increased in this generation? Its because the gender's have refused to know their place in a relationship,the bible spells it out clearly,a wife ought to be subject to the husband,listen to his decisions and if u don't like any of them or have a better idea,subtly lay it out to him and make him see your point of view,not by shouting or nagging or insulting your man. Do all things with love and if he loves u like the bible commanded him to,u all will be happy.

(4)DON'T LET SEX BE THE BASIS OF YOUR RELATiONsHiP-sex is supposed to enhance an already blooming and working relationship and many a time sex can stall or kill your relationship growth when u indulge in it too often. sex every time will only make the both of you loose focus on the relationship itself. take time out once in a while to just be together without sex,just cuddle and communicate with each other,talk on and on about what you both want,how you first met and started your relationship,what you want and ask him what he wants..Just stop and think for a moment.

(5)ALWAYS COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR MAN AND LISTEN TO HIM TOO-the major problem with relationship these days is communication,I myself am a strong believer of communication. Do not hide your feelings about something or bottle up your feelings every time your man does something wrong,always find a way to sit your man down and tell him in a loving way that you are not happy with him. Also from time to time sit your man down and evaluate your relationship,ask him things like "Do u still love me?" "What do u hate about my character?" Etc. ask him and get him to ask you too,this is important as it helps to strengthen your relationship and let's you know what your man hates so you can adjust. Do not ever assume that your man still loves you or he still crazy about you or he is happy,always ask him to ensure you are on the right page. Learn to talk and have a long lasting,love filled relationship. U will thank me later(lol)

(6)ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF YOUR MAN-taking care of your man involves physically,spiritually,emotionally etc..Most girls and women these days would rather Die than cook for their men,that is an error but its not so bad if u provide for his meal daily. Even if u don't cook u can arrange for him to eat but its better if u cook for your man,clean the house,listen to him when ever he has a bad day and give him a good massage when he's tired. Being caring is a nature every woman ought to possess,your man will appreciate you more when u care for all his needs,he will be happier outside,at work and every other place because his mind will be at rest. Always cater for his needs and make sure he never goes hungry or dirty looking or shabby. That man u see everyday looking shabby with his squeezed clothes,long beards and dirty shoes,always eating at one restaurant or another has a woman at home who doesn't care,ensure your man doesn't leave home disheveled or hungry.

(7) DON'T EVER STOP TRYING TO IMPRESS YOUR MAN-most ladies stop trying to do anything nice once they are married or are in a relationship. They are like "what the heck? Its not like am looking for a new man" so they just stick on "relax mood" and this is very bad. They stop looking good,dressing sexy,stop calling,or texting those wonderful love messages like before,they just change all together and this is a relationship killer. Try to always make your man fall in love all over again with u everyday,by dressing nice,so that one day he won't wake up next to you and imagine if u are the same woman he met some years ago. Improve on your cooking,surprise him with a new dish u learn t off the internet or from some one,text him unexpectedly,call him when he's at work,surprise him with a gift etc and you will see how much life your relationship would have.

( BUYING OF GIFTS IS NOT RESERVED FOR THE MAN ALONE- don't ever miss a special day in your man's life by not getting him a gift. Gifts are not a woman's thing alone,men love gifts as much as women and it would be very unthoughtful if u forget you don't present your man a gift on his birthday or anniversary. Also,from time to time surprise your man with gifts,like a new shirt or tie and see how much he will appreciate you. The power of gifts cannot be over emphasized,and the result is always huge,try it today and see for yourself.

(9)BE THOUGHTFUL ALWAYS- being thoughtful in a relationship is really important,surprise your man with a call when he least expects,drop by his office some times and just hang out with him,send him a nice love text message and put a smile on his face. In this era of blackberry and different networking sites,u can send him a nice picture of yourself and what you are doing at the moment,this will make u closer to him even when he is far away from you. just be thoughtful at all times.

(10) LIES- this might be coming last but trust me it is not the least,I just dropped it last as a huge bomb. There is nothing that will kill a relationship faster than lies. I have seen most relationships that have been built on lies and how fast it dies. Don't ever lie to your man and no offense but this is common with women. I am not a fan of keeping the past in the past and what not,tell your man everything you have done before, if u were once a girl who used to sleep with men for money then tell him,if he can't handle it then let him go but a real man will be hurt at first but he would later come to terms with it. Tell him about all the men u have dated(that is if you can remember all LOL) ,tell him your real AGE,tell him everything that is important and see how it will bring you together. If u hide it trust me he is going to find out and it is gonna be much worse when he finds out the wrong way and that might just be the end of your relationship. Also encourage your man to do same with you so u can know the kind of man you are with. On the whole lies has never helped in man in any way,all it does is tear people apart. Tell the truth at all times,be sincere with your man.

http//www.eniblag..com.au

If there are ladies out there, single and searching who believe in and practice the above relationship nuggets, please mail:- vincehayes123@yahoo.com. I have goods guys in my singles database who are looking for you.

D painful tin is, d gals wey knw all dis method nor dey always set (sexy) d way boys go like. #smh.

hope they msged you tho.

kingviny:


If there are ladies out there, single and searching who believe in and practice the above relationship nuggets, please mail:- vincehayes123@yahoo.com. I have goods guys in my singles database who are looking for you.

offer still open? lol

Coolie89:
Spot on,nyc write up

thanks a lot

I should start writing a piece for the men. coming up.