MMotimo: @ Fhemmy,

You are a breath of fresh air

Ishsoph:
I need a wife here and now
Ladies if you are sure you can help me reduce my jamboree spending to at least 50% per month then apply in person.
You've gat yourself a hubby.

adconline:
Nope you got it all wrong. Expreince trumps infatuation and meets reality. If she's not handled finances before, it makes no sense to let her handle ur finances. Who's got a better experience in making and handling money, should be one to handle household finances. You cannot handle what you don't know how to make.

pyramid777: @OP...you have spoken well

Let me share my own story... i got married last december and my wife currently doesnt work so i placed her on a monthly allowance. My wife is really very smart cos even though we set a budget and i give her money for the basic needs at home she still finds a smart way of making me to pay for most of the needs at some point. e.g she is expected to buy groceries for the house from her allowance but when we go see a movie together at the mall she ensures we stop by at shoprite for quick shoping and i end up paying for all that we buy

I'm getting smarter now so I've had to review giving her monthly allowance to weekly allowance cos she smartly passes most of the MAJOR expenses to me...but recently fuel for my Generators has been eating very deep into my pocket

Sincerely, its been quite difficult for me to save as a newly married man

Fhemmmy:

If you could not trust the woman while she was your girlfriend with money, where will she get the experience or how would you know that she cant be trusted. . . However, some men think once they see the woman dressing too good, she will use all the money to buy bags and shoes . . .

babeface3: Do you pay your tithe?

adconline:
Financial experience trumps everything! The person who has the least experience in handling money should not be left with making/handling household finances. The notion that most women are better finance managers should not be taken seriously, since most of them have least financial experience coming into the marriage/union. A friend was worried about his wife's constant calls on his MTN line. The man was on roaming call outside Naija ,,the wife was managing her hubby's business while he had gone and couldn't get it that it was not that important to call her husband every 2hrs.. they were both getting charged and the hubby was left with a bill to pay when he came back.

Richfella:

Wetin concern agbero with overload

Fhemmmy:

This is one overload that the Agbero will wish he paid attention to, cos such could sink the ship and without the ship, Agbero will cry of no work

jidegirl12:

Mr Fhemmo you just discombobulated my brain with this description... I reject the spirit of headache

@Topic.... I have to disagree with you for the first time tho, just cos it works for you and few people you know doesn't validate most women as financially prudent and responsible. Atall infact.

I find it very tedious and tiring because I have a tedious career .... so I handed everything over to my olori ebi ...so far he's doing a fantastic job.

Fhemmmy:

This is one overload that the Agbero will wish he paid attention to, cos such could sink the ship and without the ship, Agbero will cry of no work

Richfella:

In reference to tithing...

Fhemmmy:

I think you are using the word "most" loosely, cos if you still put 100 ladies together and 100 men at same time, you will fine biger proportion of women that are able to handle money better than most men, i am a man bro, and i know how we are with money.
Women looks at all things with the lens of security and that is part of what made union better.
I am not sure what kinda women you ave been around or used to, but in all - Women are better manager of money than we, men, Now, please note i am not using the word "girls" cos they are still growing and will make mistakes while doing so, but once they turn into a woman - All changes.

adconline:
From your arguemen, why is it that most men make more money than women if rhey don't know how to handle money? Are u saying that most men know how to make most money and women know how to keep it? There is nothing to support your argument that most women know how to handle finances better since most men make most of the money. Common sense dictates that the person who makes most is more financially prudent. The person who think he/she's a better money manager should show me by making his/her money.

Fhemmmy:

You mean the man that made most money means he is able to handle money - Not at all, Sir . . how much you make has no correlation with how you manage or save the money

lady gogo:


Lol. Walmart is the devil i tell ya.

I try to exercise self control in the following places:
Walmart
Shopping mall(i think im beginning to do well here)
Sephora, Mac pretty much any store that sells makeup(Lol thats the makeup artist in me)
Ebay is another devil in the making..

I tire.

Fhemmmy:

You mean the man that made most money means he is able to handle money - Not at all, Sir . . how much you make has no correlation with how you manage or save the money

jidegirl12:

Very true. I agree.

But

I still don't agree about how you came up with how most women manage money prudently than men theory sha. Your specified gender inclination on money management bothers me sir.

Like your responded to my earlier post: Anybody is able to do the job ( manage finances) and NOT just women.

Sorry I could be very pushy and stubborn everytime this Topic comes up ... IMO, It encourages laziness in young ladies.. That's how they cultivate the mentality and expect men to take on ALL the household responsibility while they sit at home 'managing money'.

adconline:
My point is that the person with least exprience in making money is going to have little or no experience in managing it. You cannot offer what you dont have!Most folks who make money are in better position to manage it than those who don't .

Fhemmmy:

Lie from the pit of hell . . . cos you making more money does not mean you will be able to manage it well, take a case of son to a rich man and working with Dad, and she is making good money, does that means he will be able to manage the money?

adconline:
Your case of a rich man's son is an outlier. It takes knowing how to manage money to make money.. Just like the way most men in Naija are better investors than women..You cannot manage what you don't know how to make.. A person who has no money managing skills is surest way to run your business aground. Money managing skills are learned not inherent in some XX chromosomes

Fhemmmy:

Have you ever seen a financial adviser that is not rich before?

adconline:

At least a financial planner/adviser goes through school and gets certified. Which means, gaining experience through education and internship, you are saying that a woman becomes a better financial manager by virtue of her gender not by her years of experience in dealing with financial management.

Fhemmmy:

Chairman, i dont buy your argument . . . The Ghana dude in Europe that lost billions in trading went through the walls of schools and well educated and yet lost all such monies in his care

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adconline:
Keep citing outliers. In Naija, most folks who create, invest, and manage wealth are males, so it's preposterous to infer that women are better financial managers when they have little or no access to wealth.A rich man who genuinely built his wealth is rich because he's a better financial manager.

Chairman, i can only talk about my environment and people i know . . .