I think the guys does all the work to make the relationship work. What do you Nlanders think?

its both.

The duo.

both as my friends have said

well, to me i think the girl suld keep what she have if she really want it

both

I agree with everyone else it takes two to make a relationship work.

BOTH OF U. DO U XPECT ONLY THE GUY OR D GIRL TO WEIGH D RESPONSIBILITES?
@jhibola
The guy shul also kip wat he HAVE if he really wants it.

I think it is the two both of them.

I think Mary said it correctly when talking about how a man keeps a woman, they same thing can be applied in reverse.

See, you gotta remember the way that you got me cause that's the way you'll remember the way to keep me.
Spend some time.
Make me smile.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Ladies help me sing.
You gotta remember the way that you got me cause that's the way you'll remember the way to keep me.
(Oh, you gotta, you gotta)
Spend some time. (Ohh, spend some time)
Make me smile. (Make me smile)
Yeah, yeah, yeah. (Yeah)


it is important that both men and women remember how they whooed, toated, dated, and won over thier love and that they never stop treating them that way. Dont ever start anything that you can cant continue.

both

I don't know why i always feel a relationship depends on a guy even tho people say its both of them involved.

My point is no matter the effort a girl puts into a relationship, if the guy doesn't want it to have a headway it wouldn't. So my believe is that relationship (i mean the whole dating exercise) is in the hands of the guy while marriage is in the hands of the woman.

The guy's of course! Isn't he the head?

jkpretty:

I don't know why i always feel a relationship depends on a guy even tho people say its both of them involved.

My point is no matter the effort a girl puts into a relationship, if the guy doesn't want it to have a headway it wouldn't. So my believe is that relationship (i mean the whole dating exercise) is in the hands of the guy while marriage is in the hands of the woman.

So if my marriage fails it is my responablity and mine alone? I just cant agree with that. I think both parties have to work equally hard to keep the flame going. If i am the only one tending to the fire then i will fall asleep and it will go out.

sistawoman:

So if my marriage fails it is my responablity and mine alone? I just can't agree with that. I think both parties have to work equally hard to keep the flame going. If i am the only one tending to the fire then i will fall asleep and it will go out.

whether u accept it or not honey, a large percentage of marital success falls on the shoulders of the woman.

the two both of them

jkpretty:

whether u accept it or not honey, a large percentage of marital success falls on the shoulders of the woman.

How exactly does a woman keep a man that does not want to be kept? If my husband does not want to stay in the marriage because of something unrelated to me then how is that my reponsiblity? How if I am doing all that a wife should do and living up to his expectations supposed to keep him when he is gone?

Both parties have to want this to work otherwise it will fail.

sistawoman:

How exactly does a woman keep a man that does not want to be kept? If my husband does not want to stay in the marriage because of something unrelated to me then how is that my reponsiblity? How if I am doing all that a wife should do and living up to his expectations supposed to keep him when he is gone?

Both parties have to want this to work otherwise it will fail.

For a man to propose marriage to u. He must have wanted u badly, _{except he was pushed into the marriage out of wish} Soooo he definitely wants u for keeps which makes it an easy beginning. The manner at which u play the affair from then matters. E.g Ur ability to make ur house a home for him to always come back to, the manner at which u keep working on ur relationship so that even as u grow older he keeps getting more attached to u. The truth is when u get the keys to what gets him superglued to u, "ba whahala" cos marriage is just another phase that is soo delicate.

For a man to propose marriage to u. He must have wanted u badly, except he was pushed into the marriage out of wish Soooo he definitely wants u for keeps which makes it an easy beginning. The manner at which u play the affair from then matters. E.g your ability to make your house a home for him to always come back to, the manner at which u keep working on your relationship so that even as u grow older he keeps getting more attached to u. The truth is when u get the keys to what gets him superglued to u, "ba whahala"  because marriage is just another phase that is soo delicate.

I agreeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

The truth is when u get the keys to what gets him superglued to u, "ba whahala"

hun hun i no gree oo, wahala dey plenty.

One more stupidQ on NL.
Which is more respnsible for u postin on NL, ur brain or ur heart?

One more stupidQ on Nairaland.
Which is more respnsible for u postin on Nairaland, your brain or your heart?

u tell us first.

Both are fully responsibility to make their relationship work as following proper insights of what makes the relationship stronger at below link:

Summary Outlines:

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[li]Trust[/li]
[li]Spirituality[/li]
[li]4 Characters[/li]
[list]
[li]Humility[/li]
[li]Kindness[/li]
[li]Responsibility[/li]
[li]Happiness[/li]
[/list]

[li]Personal Hygiene[/li]
[li]Communication Skill[/li]
[li]Personal Habits[/li]
[li]Strong Connections[/li]
[list]
[li]Good Chemistry and Compatibility[/li]
[li]Shared Common Interest[/li]
[li]Shared Common Life Goal[/li]
[li]Deeper Emotional[/li]
[li]Sexual Compatibility[/li] (refer the knowledge of sexuality)
[li]Agreed Financial Obligations/Compromise Equally[/li]
[/list]
[/list]

FOR MORE DETAILS MENTIONED ABOVE THE SUMMARY OUTLINES:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-133197.0.html

@ poster
both

@you know yourself

stop being sassy


@post

both parties

it takes two you know

One more stupidQ on Nairaland.
Which is more respnsible for u postin on Nairaland, your brain or your heart?

Let me get this straight, U've assumed that the heart is the reason for this post: How does that make it stupid
Or does the heart make one stupid?

@post: I'm assuming you're making frantic efforts to make urs works if that be the case I'll say this

Whatever makes you derail from your priorities is not worth it. If making ur relationship work doesn't affect you adversely then do so otherwise F*ck it.

Naturally everyone has their part to play must not be 50/50, but then each party involved should at least be confortable