rigormortis: go to your backyard, dig a small hole, rain all the abuses you feel like raining on your in law into that hole. cover it. drink a tall glass of wine. take a cold shower and go about your business.

Thanks

$ugardaddy:

You see. Finally, I won!
That is actually the only problem I personally know I have. I am very humble and open to a fault. But the moment I sense injustice to me or anyone close to me, the humility becomes sturbonness and the open mindedness becomes vitually non-existent until I achieve my aim. I am actually disliked by a lot of people whenever in this mood except the few who know what my true personality is. But I will work at overlooking certian things and moving on now going forward.

We don praise you small now, your head wan come swell. . .

But seriously bro, you need to put ego and pride aside. This is your family we are talking about. Learn to forgive and move on. This life is too short to be holding grudges and scheming on how to deal with people. It aint worth it.

And for those handbags that you carry up and down. . . Remember what goes around comes around oooo. . .

OP .. What's your zodiac sign jare?

Nawaa o.
And people keep on advising on this fake story?

Poster must be having a filled day!
*exit thread*

$ugardaddy:
Sometime ago, I had some misunderstanding with my wife which prompted me to take some measures to restore some sanity in my home. As the "sanctions" were biting harder, my wife notified her family which resulted in one of her younger brothers, who is married with kids, raining abuses on me over the phone. Knowing his antecedents however, I igored him but not until my wife and her mother (who was the root cause of the whole problem) were made to beg and apologize for their actions which led to the misunderstanding in the first place.

It's been a couple of months now and normalcy has since been restored. However, every now and then, I find myself fighting this inner urge to deal ruthlessly with this recalcitrant brother-in-law of mine for his rudeness and sadly, I know it's only a matter of time before I succumb to this urge! Even though I cherish my home and would want to do anything to keep it for the sake of my innocent children, I will not succumb to abuses and insults from any in-law like in this case.

I therefore solicit advice from experienced couples on how best to handle this potentially explosive situation.

Exercise patience, forgive and move on.

Ahh!!! Thank God I survived yesterday on this thread!!! NLers wan kill me

Anyway, as part of my plan to forgive and let go, I called my mil a while ago (something I haven't done in the last couple of months). She was so excited and full of praises, offering prayers and thanks at the same time while I was just smiling, feeling cool with myself and telling her everything was fine as I just called to enquire how she was fairing . Still in shock, she contiuned praying again and it was only when she said she suspected it was a particular lady I was supposed to marry before I met my wife that was behind the whole imbroglio that I told her that all that was no longer relevant as we (my wife and I) have moved on and forgotten about what happened . Deep inside of me, of course, I know the only problem was her interfering with the running of my home and my wife's initial disrespect for "divinely constituted authority" vested in me by God (no be my fault o, na so I meet am) . And as prove to me that my wife was a lot wiser now, my mil told me my wife hasn't been taking or returning her calls for some time now but she was glad to hear from me which assured her everything was okay. Of course, I told my visibly elated wife of my interaction with her mother and advised that she gets in touch with her immediately to douse her worries. I know she will give me some special treat in kind later tonight as a result

Meanwhile, as for my bil, I will eventually call him but I'm going to approach that cautiously so as not to give the wrong impression that I am chickening out of the "cold war", thereby emboldening him . But deep inside of me, I have forgiven and no longer hold any grudges against him- thanks to NLanders and their wealth of experience on family matters

As for the guy who thinks this whole story is fake, you never see anything! Something that made me to stop eating at home for over 9weeks na him u dey call fake? Pray make u no get problem for your marriage, na then u go know wetin marriage be.

Thank you to all my good friends out there o jare. Ehen, my zodiac sign na pisces for the person wey dey ask. But wait, how dat one take concern the matter at hand?

Nice one Bro! I'm very happy you took that bold step. Tell me, don't you feel better now that you have let go? May God bless you and your family.

Phema: Nice one Bro! I'm very happy you took that bold step. Tell me, don't you feel better now that you have let go? May God bless you and your family.

Thank you o my sister. May God bless you and your family too. Of course, I feel a lot better

Pisces :

Family

A few of your family relationships may have been damaged or even shattered in recent years. There have been chances to reconcile, but either you or the other person has turned away from those chances. This year, you will again face opportunities to heal, and you may be more ready this time. Take any chance you get to get closer to someone who was once very important to you, and over the course of 2013 you will strengthen the foundation of that relationship.


Hmmm..... Surprising eh? You're welcome.

I don't believe in zodiac signs and their predictions. I just know I belong to the pisces group and everything ends there.

Nairalanders and their story telling sef!!....na waoo!!

m-ployer:
Op u ar just too arrogant, acting like you feed d entire family. From ur words, ur over-bloated ego is definitely the cause of the problem. You want to deal with a grown man with family abi? Go ahead while we watch. Your wife apologised to save her marriage. Her mother apologised in sympathy with her and ur head is spining. This Dude owe you nothing, Take your arrogance near him and see if u won't be deflated. Nonsense!

...cant agree more with you...wonder where he gets off throwing his weight around like an emperor!!...imagine plotting to deal with a married man who apparently put him in his place for maltreating his sister months after the issue was resolved...some people sef!

$ugardaddy:
Ok, for the benefit of those of you who equate "deal with" to mean physical harm or injury to someone, let me explain what I mean by "deal with" :-

1. I will not call you for any reason whatsover.
2. I will ensure I don't participate in any event that will bring both of us physically together
3. I will ensure my children do not visit or have any interaction with you or your immediate family
4. etc, etc, etc

They are boycott actions and not physical harm as being misinterpreted here. Besides, they may take years to realize .

Like seriously? Op you are far away,,what makes you think you won't need your BiL tommorrow?