I have an AS genotype and in my family we have lost a lot of folks to sickle cell disease, I have lost a lot of Cousins and I have a brother who happens to be sickler, many days i cry when i see my brother in pain . Ever since i have been 12 years old, my mother has always informed me that i have to marry an AA, and that it's not worth it to marry someone like me with an AS.

And so i have been making this a priority, before i date a lady twice i have always asked that question, and i have even had to cut off two relationships due to the fact that the ladies are AS and i really did liked them

And so i met this lady and I asked her twice while we were dating about her genotype and to which she replied that her mother told her she is AA. well we got married and are expecting then came the shocker, as part of the pregnancy medical test, it was revealed that in fact she is AS. I feel betrayed in a way. I am not sure is she lied or if this is a mistake on her mother's part. An AS having a child with another AS is like gambling with the health/life of a child. what will you do if you were in my shoes?

Just pray since u were ignorant of it, God might vindicate u. i know of a Young man and a lady that got married after being warned by parents, they still went ahead and married (married by faith) and now the lady is pregnant. let pray and hope God answers their prayer likewise u. just believe in God.

Dis story sounds like dat of a nursery 2 kid! Her mother told her dt shez AA, n both of u tuk it dt way n got married! Hospitalz don finish 4 dis world ni? Wiv just 500naira, u cld hv saved urselves frm ds mess!

I want to assume you're really 'in the shoes' cos this isn't stuff you play wt for attention.
Rewind- i'ld have done the test before marriage becos i understand i could be in these shoes if i didn't.
Fastforward- To satisfy my curiosity i'll find out how my mum-in-law ended up telling my wife wt my wife claims she did. And then i'll continue praying and believing God for a healthy child.

luckyqueen2012: Dis story sounds like dat of a nursery 2 kid! Her mother told her dt shez AA, n both of u tuk it dt way n got married! Hospitalz don finish 4 dis world ni? Wiv just 500naira, u cld hv saved urselves frm ds mess!

Whats the point of getting married if you don't trust the person you are marrying, should i have asked for a document to prove that she was AA. Most women i have met in my life always know their status

twogood: I want to assume you're really 'in the shoes' cos this isn't stuff you play wt for attention.
Rewind- i'ld have done the test before marriage becos i understand i could be in these shoes if i didn't.
Fastforward- To satisfy my curiosity i'll find out how my mum-in-law ended up telling my wife wt my wife claims she did. And then i'll continue praying and believing God for a healthy child.

No this is not for attention, I can't inform those around, but it troubles me , so nairaland affords me that animosity to obtain advice from folks

Even though my genotype is AA and my wife claimed to have an AA genotype before our wedding. I still took her for confirmation, and guess what, she was confirmed to be AS. She told me it was her mum who told her she was AA. Whatever a lady tells me, I must confirm. The only thing I did not confirm was her virginity. You know why? Because I never had any business looking under anyone I was yet to be married to.

Did you do any pre-marital counselling before marriage? Most organisations include medical test as partof that. Note, doing tests on both of yourselves before marriage is not a trust thing. It is a "let's be sure and careful' thing. Like someone once said, "sh*t happens" and one has to be prepared.
Anyways, that's water under the bridge. You really have to pray your kid is not sickle cell positive. If God helps you dodge this bullet, then dude hang up your boots!






But then, if an adult only knows her medical records from "my mother said", that's incompetence bordering on deception. Really.