A friend of mine came for n advice on this topic but I was unable to reply immediately because Idont wnt him to feel sad. So I want to throw the issue to the house before replying him.
He has been in a relationship with a lady for 3yrs and both of them love eachother so much.
But two months ago her mother was in the market when a huge wind blew against her and she fell down and was affected psychologically.

Now she is under treatment and I pray that may she recover soon(AMEN).
He told me that why he is afraid is that he learnt that if they get married the illness may affect his children if not the lady because the illness is in the blood.
PLEASE I NEED CONTRIBUTIONS FROM THE MEDICAL VIEW THE ILLNESS CAN BE INERITED OR NOT

i was told that it is the wind

lafex: A friend of mine came for n advice on this topic but I was unable to reply immediately because Idont wnt him to feel sad. So I want to throw the issue to the house before replying him.
He has been in a relationship with a lady for 3yrs and both of them love eachother so much.
But two months ago her mother was in the market when a huge wind blew against her and shelt don and was affected psychologically. Now she is under treatment and I pray that may she recover soon(AMEN).
He told me that why he is afraid is that he learnt that if they get married the illness may affect his children if not the lady because the illness is in the blood.
PLEASE I NEED CONTRIBUTIONS FROM THE MEDICAL VIEW THE ILLNESS CAN BE INERITED OR NOT

What the heck is shelt don

So y'all would become spiritual spirits just because some wind blew at some woman in the market? Lawdhavemercy.

Thnx bro

chaircover:

I think he meant fell down

Long time no read how are you and yours

yap its fell down thanks

chaircover:

I think he meant fell down

Long time no read how are you and yours

Okiez.We are fine dear. Thank you
@OP, so what's the problem? She fell down and might have hurt herself,internally or physical wounds. Why get overtly superstitious?

ifyalways:
Okiez.We are fine dear. Thank you
@OP, so what's the problem? She fell down and might have hurt herself,internally or physical wounds. Why get overtly superstitious?

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The fear is reasonable. There could be a genetic factor to the mental illness which means that the lady can have it and so can the children she will give birth to.

deols: The fear is reasonable. There could be a genetic factor to the mental illness which means that the lady can have it and so can the children she will give birth to.

Mental illness ?
Are we reading same post or you know the OP outside here? How can a woman that tripped and fell,probably sustained wounds or even internal bleeding be classified as mentally ill ? Granted she might be delirious,not making so much sense and that is expected(reaction to some drugs) but is that same as being mentally ill?
Things dey happen for dis country.

lafex: A friend of mine came for n advice on this topic but I was unable to reply immediately because Idont wnt him to feel sad. So I want to throw the issue to the house before replying him.
He has been in a relationship with a lady for 3yrs and both of them love eachother so much.
But two months ago her mother was in the market when a huge wind blew against her and shelt don and was affected psychologically. Now she is under treatment and I pray that may she recover soon(AMEN).
He told me that why he is afraid is that he learnt that if they get married the illness may affect his children if not the lady because the illness is in the blood.
PLEASE I NEED CONTRIBUTIONS FROM THE MEDICAL VIEW THE ILLNESS CAN BE INERITED OR NOT

Are you a psychologist? What do you mean by she was affected psychologically?
Break it down.

lafex:
But two months ago her mother was in the market when a huge wind blew against her and shelt don and was affected psychologically. Now

Pls, can you translate this to English.

Afam4eva:
Pls, can you translate this to English.

Abi

I see your handiwork for that song thread. Don't envy us Ghanians.

ifyalways: Abi

I see your handiwork for that song thread. Don't envy us Ghanians.

Lol I know one of your parent are from Ghana or your husband is Ghanian cos i've noticed the affinity you have with Charley people.

@topic
That part of your comment that i highlighted is confusing..It actually depends on the cause of the madness. If it's inherited then it may be best for your friend to stay away but if the madness was due to something that happened to her then it's no biggie.

Op, you said "wind blew" she fell down, probably hit her head somewhere and developed mental illness? Now, how is that genetic? I think your friend is tired of the relationship and prolly wants a way out, which isn't a bad thing, but he shouldn't blame it on some imaginary genetic kolomental.

Whoever develops mental illness by falling down anyways?. . .

ifyalways: Mental illness ?
Are we reading same post or you know the OP outside here? How can a woman that tripped and fell,probably sustained wounds or even internal bleeding be classified as mentally ill ? Granted she might be delirious,not making so much sense and that is expected(reaction to some drugs) but is that same as being mentally ill?
Things dey happen for dis country.


Are you a psychologist? What do you mean by she was affected psychologically?
Break it down.

Of course, it will take more than the tale of the wind blow to diagnose a mental illness. But what I said remains very correct. If she does suffer from a mental illness, the OP's concerns are GENuine.

You even think she could be delirious? when delirium is very much likely a result of a brain dysfunction- likely a mental disorder.

@Op, if confirmed to be mentally disturbed and that would be diagnosed by a psychiatrist. Ask questions like, Is it a genetic disorder? can her children suffer from the same?

In more developed climes, she would have to go for gene mapping where the possibility of her getting the disease would be known and possible ways of preventing it would be told.

The idea of trashing people's posts and looking for loopholes is what is wrong here.

Nigerians generally believe that mental issues have to do with the devil. It then becomes very easy to attribute the wind blow to her condition.

It may not be related at all.

If you work in a hospital setting, you would be familiar with cases like this.

If someone falls and then develops hematoma. It could be that they had an aneurysm which bursted after which they fell. Or they could have fallen and afterwards, aneurysm bursts.

Now does it matter which came first, anymore?

what matters is that this woman is not normal. @Op, make sure the right medical attention is sought. If the woman is found to be having a mental issue of a genetic origin, reassess your relationship with her child.

deols: The idea of trashing people's posts and looking for loopholes is what is wrong here.

Nigerians generally believe that mental issues have to do with the devil. It then becomes very easy to attribute the wind blow to her condition.

It may not be related at all.

If you work in a hospital setting, you would be familiar with cases like this.

If someone falls and then develops hematoma. It could be that they had an aneurysm which bursted after which they fell. Or they could have fallen and afterwards, aneurysm bursts.

Now does it matter which came first, anymore?

what matters is that this woman is not normal. @Op, make sure the right medical attention is sought. If the woman is found to be having a mental issue of a genetic origin, reassess your relationship with her child.

Please what is the wayout of aneurysm if that is the case

OP, will your friend break up with her if her father has diabetes? Her uncle has high cholesterol? Her cousin has high blood pressure? Or her grandfather had a heart attack at 40?

deols: The idea of trashing people's posts and looking for loopholes is what is wrong here.

Nigerians generally believe that mental issues have to do with the devil. It then becomes very easy to attribute the wind blow to her condition.

It may not be related at all.

If you work in a hospital setting, you would be familiar with cases like this.

If someone falls and then develops hematoma. It could be that they had an aneurysm which bursted after which they fell. Or they could have fallen and afterwards, aneurysm bursts.

Now does it matter which came first, anymore?

what matters is that this woman is not normal. @Op, make sure the right medical attention is sought. If the woman is found to be having a mental issue of a genetic origin, reassess your relationship with her child.

Nobody is thrashing your post,at least not me. Maybe some Nigerians generally believe that mental cases are spiritual not all.
What i failed to understand and was asking was,what is the relationship between falling down and going crazy OP have failed to shed more light on this and we are here analyzing the woman as mentally unstable . wow

ifyalways:
Nobody is thrashing your post,at least not me. Maybe some Nigerians generally believe that mental cases are spiritual not all.
What i failed to understand and was asking was,what is the relationship between falling down and going crazy OP have failed to shed more light on this and we are here analyzing the woman as mentally unstable . wow

Thrashing my post is the least of my worries. The post I was talking about is the Op's.

The wind may just be a convenient thing to blame. It does not change the possibility of the woman suffering from a mental illness.

lafex:
Please what is the wayout of aneurysm if that is the case

I only used aneurysm as an example. If she had fallen down, and hit her head, she may have develloped an hematoma(blood in the surrounding of the brain) This could have compressed the brain. As a result she may develop headache, and some other symptoms and she could start to behave abnormally.

In that case, having a surgery as early as possible to remove the blood may solve the problem.

You need to take her to a hospital to confirm what really is wrong with her.

Thanks for your contribution.
I need more contribution please

Thanks for your contribution.
I need more contributions please

This story is incomplete. Wind blew mother fell down and is now acting insane rt? so is your friend afraid that the mother is suffering a spiritual attack? how did he reach the conclusion that its in the blood and it may affect his own kids? any test? any precedence for such a conclusion? I am always shocked by "they love each other so much" but he is afraid that his kids may inherit the genes. This brand of love that only thrives when all is good and at the slightest challenge they throw away the love. If anyone should be having this gals back its her man but he is planning to flee.

Mental illness is seen as a thing of shame in Nigeria. They would rather hide the severely mentally ill or marry them off to an unfortunate ignorant person before you can say jack. That cover up story about wind blowing is most probably a lie to imply spiritual attack as opposed to mental illness. It is for the ignorant, but it appears OP is not falling for the lie. Now, OP, it is in your hands. You decide what you want. Some mental illnesses are genetic, some probably brought on by stress, loss, depression or trauma. I don't know how much you can find out, but if you go ahead and marry her it will be in your best interest to accept the situation and keep your mouth shut. I know Yorubas investigate families their kids are marrying into for such issues, and they stigmatize.

andromida: This story is incomplete. Wind blew mother fell down and is now acting insane rt? so is your friend afraid that the mother is suffering a spiritual attack? how did he reach the conclusion that its in the blood and it may affect his own kids? any test? any precedence for such a conclusion? I am always shocked by "they love each other so much" but he is afraid that his kids may inherit the genes. This brand of love that only thrives when all is good and at the slightest challenge they throw away the love. If anyone should be having this gals back its her man but he is planning to flee.

Though no test but he is just afraid if the illness is genetic.He tried to make some investigation from the lady if she has notice any signal from her woman before the wind issue, she said thete was nothing.
According to my research I found out that there is higher possibility for the illness to someone whose parent has this illness to have it. But the correlation between the wind and the illness is what I dont understand.
Concerning the challenge you talk about, there are many factors you consider inthe issue of marriage; love, religion, character, family, et cetera. If you now have any challenge in any of the factors and you cant manage/control, the challenge the best option you have is to let him/her. But if you try tto manage what is unmanageable you will junt enter one chance.

baby_123: Mental illness is seen as a thing of shame in Nigeria. They would rather hide the severely mentally ill or marry them off to an unfortunate ignorant person before you can say jack. That cover up story about wind blowing is most probably a lie to imply spiritual attack as opposed to mental illness. It is for the ignorant, but it appears OP is not falling for the lie. Now, OP, it is in your hands. You decide what you want. Some mental illnesses are genetic, some probably brought on by stress, loss, depression or trauma. I don't know how much you can find out, but if you go ahead and marry her it will be in your best interest to accept the situation and keep your mouth shut. I know Yorubas investigate families their kids are marrying into for such issues, and they stigmatize.

True.

baby_123: Mental illness is seen as a thing of shame in Nigeria. They would rather hide the severely mentally ill or marry them off to an unfortunate ignorant person before you can say jack. That cover up story about wind blowing is most probably a lie to imply spiritual attack as opposed to mental illness. It is for the ignorant, but it appears OP is not falling for the lie. Now, OP, it is in your hands. You decide what you want. Some mental illnesses are genetic, some probably brought on by stress, loss, depression or trauma. I don't know how much you can find out, but if you go ahead and marry her it will be in your best interest to accept the situation and keep your mouth shut. I know Yorubas investigate families their kids are marrying into for such issues, and they stigmatize.

thanks