I dont think you are IMO

It's like people arent even creative in their lies anymore. Reading his explanations made me roll my eyes. Usual stale lines.

If you wanna be rational, start withdrawing from him. Dont go cray but dont hang around him as much. If he cares he'll be bothered by your actions and will wanna know what's up nad point blank you tell him to tell you the truth cos the pit of your stomach is telling you otherwise

Wanna be irrational, lol call those girls up youself and ask them their relationship with the dude or have some other guy do it, whatever and see what they have to say. Also ask if he ever mentioned having a gf.

wish you luck on whichever you pick

IMO= In my opinion

IMO= In My Opinion.

I dont think you are being over protective but you should realise that he will do whatever he wants to do irrespective of your protectiveness.

offtopic yes but I like your hairstyle spiked.

@ Poster,

Fight for what is yours, if you truly know he is your MAN. However, always be mindful to have your antenna always switched on to know when a MAN no longer has an interest in you.

He may be worth fighting for, and he may just be another useless bag that should be recycled off.

In all, I wish you the best.

TOH:

I don't think you are IMO

It's like people arent even creative in their lies anymore. Reading his explanations made me roll my eyes. Usual stale lines.

If you want to be rational, start withdrawing from him. Dont go cray but don't hang around him as much. If he cares he'll be bothered by your actions and will want to know what's up nad point blank you tell him to tell you the truth because the pit of your stomach is telling you otherwise

Wanna be irrational, lol call those girls up youself and ask them their relationship with the dude or have some other guy do it, whatever and see what they have to say. Also ask if he ever mentioned having a girlfriend.

wish you luck on whichever you pick

You took the words right outta my mouth with the irrational part, but rational?, hmmn don't know the meaning of the word, need to go and look it up in the dictionary

@ Poster

Follow your instincts, they hardly ever lead you astray.

oh wow that is alot to think about. me personally i would tell him to invite these "friends" of his over. and let any of their trifling ideas to subside when they see how much we love each other. im drawing some inspiration from this story, seems like another rendition of "The Confessions of a Love Slave pt.2"

If this was me, I honestly won't do anything until I have reason to. From my experience, once you start getting on a guy's case when he hasn't done anything, it makes it easier to do it. He thinks "Oh well, she already thinks I'm doing it anyway."

I say, cool your heels and strike should the iron get hot.

PS
Please, please never, ever, ever call the girls. It's is just

Your business is with your guy and your guy alone.

Sisikill:

I say, cool your heels and strike should the iron get hot.

and when is that usually?

and lol, like i said calling is for irrational

TOH:

offtopic yes but I like your hairstyle spiked.

Awww, TOH, Thank you!

TOH:

and when is that usually?

and lol, like i said calling is for irrational

Seriously, you will know. When women say they didn't know about their husband/boyfriend's cheating, I just roll my eyes. This is the man I've laid with ^{(i'm being biblical here. . . lol)} , slept with, drank with, breathe, inhaled his scent, know every mole, scar, scratch on his body ^{do I sound psychotic?} and I won't know when something changes? Nah, not even.

I don't care if he is Brando, Pacino, Deniro all one rolled in his acting skills. . . a woman can still tell, except she wants to bury her head in the sand or she wasn't paying attention.

Sisikill:

Seriously, you will know. When women say they didn't know about their husband/boyfriend's cheating, I just roll my eyes. This is the man I've laid with ^{(i'm being biblical here. . . lol)} , slept with, drank with, breathe, inhaled his scent, know every mole, scar, scratch on his body [sup]do I sound psychotic?

lol, it usually takes a year or so before you know THAT much. what about those who've only bee in it for like 5-6 months.

It happens that normal human being has to jealous over something it's a normal thing but it depends on how you reacted over it, or haven't you heard that even our God is a jealous God

@ poster,
Really, it could be that, he isnt having anything to do with those two girls and thats a great possibility ! i have girls that are very close to me and would call me anytime to ask for anything !!!! thats not to say, i will be so "randy" to want to start messing around ! Your guy should be careful espcially with that fact that, falling for temptation in such situation is very LIKELY !!! At the same time, i would rather u chill a lil bit and dont act " to drive" him to want to do what he wudnt have thought of doing.

Since, u have talked about the girls with him, wud u all want to have a dinner together or something?? its sure wud work wonders especially when they find out how good you guys are in love with one another. Also, have a dinner together could be a revelation to lot of things ! If he says NO ! then, TAKE it THAT SOMETHING IS FISHING !!!

I wish u the very best of luck.
Cheers

micklplus:

Since, u have talked about the girls with him, would u all want to have a dinner together or something?? its sure would work wonders especially when they find out how good you guys are in love with one another. Also, have a dinner together could be a revelation to lot of things ! If he says NO ! then, TAKE it THAT SOMETHING IS FISHING !!!

Good idea. Consider this suggestion, natalya

If the calls are that consistent, there is a good chance there is something between them. Especially if he can not hold a conversation with her in your presence. They may just be close friends, however a lot of close friends find themselves in unexpected and unplanned situations. It's simple, tell him you do not want them calling him period! Or ask him how he would like it if guys are calling you all the time. To hell with coincidence!

Bossman:

If the calls are that consistent, there is a good chance there is something between them. Especially if he can not hold a conversation with her in your presence. To hell with coincidence!

Seconded.
Cheers

@poster

i say ask him to set up a meeting with both girls so they can realize he has a woman and therefore stop calling him. and you might need to get off his case about these women calling him, for a while to see how things turn out. if his phone rings in your presence, ask him to answer it, the way he behaves will let you know if he is actually cheating or not. you just need to make it known to him that if he is cheating you both are done. just never show your man you are jealous, might be good sometimes but it could show that you are insecure.

As the saying goes. . . .3 is company.

u are not over reacting. . . then again, it seems u are very soft spoken.
if he really respects u and loves u like u claim . . tell him up front that u don't like the idea of these 2 girls constantly calling him.

Girls Girls Girls!

wetin man go do o!

I don't want to assume that he is secretly dating these girls behind me, but i don't feel secure. Please nairalanders what can i do Cry?

why don't you pick up the phone?
have you ever asked him why he doesn't pick the phone since there's nothing going on?
You can all meet up then go for a meal

Just tell him that it makes you uncomfortable and suspicious when he does not answer his phone in your presence. Let him know that it is okay to take calls from other women, and then casually listen to his part of the conversation to decipher what is being said on the other side.

If he begins speaking in "codes" then you will know that something is up.

natalya:

It's not that he doesn't pick the calls. Even though he denies it, most of his calls are from ladies, but these two particular ladies call him very frequently. Maybe i'm just being jealous. I must confess, he has really pampered me ever since we started dating, and since then(it's about a year and a half now, we met on camp) he has been calling me everyday. Maybe that idea of him talking to another lady on phone is making me unreasonably envious.

If you still feel uneasy like others have mentioned, have him invite all of you to dinner so you can gauge for yourself, what's going on

@Poster,
I don't think you are jealous, rather I commend your alertness.  Men are such low-lives, that they will come up with the most absurd and ridiculous excuses to cover their asses.  Just follow your intuition, if your gut feeling tells you he is lying, then forget everything that he says and go with that feeling.  All the best!!

@ poster I really feel ur pain and fears.  Love is turning in2 smething else and everything seems to really begin to turn upsidedown. Today problem, 2morrow wahala. All i want u to knw is tough times dnt last bt tough people do. Try 2 give ur guy a benefit of doubt. Its either positive or negative. Also try to behave as if u r nt bothered. Dat way u get mre info abt it. Dnt get aggresive or harsh on him, or else he will see u as a desperado. Just try to be cool and begin to show an extraordinary care n luv 4 him. Start to do things dat will mke him long 4 u and get ur attention at all times. I wish u best of luck girl4rnd. Dnt allow those girls to snd ur relationship down d drain. they dnt deserve it at all.

maybe you are overly jealous maybe your not.
one advice for you is consider what he is telling you as the truth, you shouldnt make him throw away his friendship with the ladies just cause he is in a relationship with you. Personally, i think your best option would be to develop some sort of relationship with the ladies, kick it together, go shopping, girl night out, them female things. They want him to visit them - fine - tag along, he should introduce you as more than a friend,
Art of war: keep friends close and enemies closer.

LASIEFAIRE:

Art of war: keep friends close and enemies closer.

FOR REALZ O!

Toh, i dnt understand u oh, hw can u suspect ur guy of cheatin on u with 2girls at d same time,
that means he will be doin like a three-some constantly or wat, have u forgotten dat he knew dis girls b4 he met u?
so becos de call him when u're there,therefore he shud cut all links with them, think about it, if it were u that had a friend that u've been close to and ur guy gets all jealous and says u shud stop acceptin his calls, hw wud u feel?
babe cut d dude some slack and give him d benefit of the doubt or else u mite end up drivin him 2 dat hot-fuckin three-some