morufoye: women are like shadows. you chase them they run away from you and you run away from them they chase you. no woman is worth making you go against an established sunnah of 'al mustopha', the greatest example to the mankind. (saw) let her go and she will be replaced with a more pious, humble and beautiful muslimah.

lanrexlan: Muslims are encouraged to get married.According to the sayings of prophet Muhammad(pbuh).It is narrated on the [color=#006600]authority of Anas bin Malik(May Allah be pleased with him):A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet(pbuh) asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah),and when they were informed about that,they considered their worship insufficient and said, "Where are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven."
Then one of them said, "I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever." The other said,"I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast." The third said, "I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever."
Allah's Apostle came to them and said, "Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah,I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you;yet I fast and break my fast,I do sleep and I also marry women.So he who does not follow my tradition in religion,is not from me (not one of my followers)[Sahih Al Bukhari Volume 7,Book 62,Hadith Number 1]

Narrated 'Abdullah(May Allah be pleased with him):We were with the Prophet(pbuh) while we were young and had no wealth whatever.So Allah's Apostle(pbuh) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry,should marry because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.),and whoever is not able to marry,should fast as fasting diminishes his sexual power[Sahih Al-Bukhari,Volume 7,Book 62,Hadith Number 4][/color
According to Sufyân Ibn Uyaynah (May Allah have Mercy on him),he said:The most nimble of creatures still have need of a voice.The cleverest women still need to have a husband,and the cleverest man still needs to consult wise men.

moscobabs:
I,m not a muslim but im touched with this I need more pls but before pls ..permision to post it on my fb wall? jazakum-lahi haran!!

deols: This is a post heartbreak disorder.

gosh!!! How do you give a human being that much control over your life?

Are you saying that you are not good enough to find someone else to live your life with?? haba!!

Even someone better than her?

Trust me, if you try too hard to stay on while she's done with you, she won't ever respect you but will resent you more.


Oya get up jorhhhh and do something impprtant with your life. Before you know it, a better Muslimah would be ready to spend her life with you. Let this one go and wish her the best as you hope for the best for yourself too.

Capt. JH Miller:
Assalam..
I am a young muslim brother, growing up I never gave much taught to marriage as I knew I wouldn't marry till I was much older, as I grew older I started to reason not to get married until I meet a luvly muslimah. She is no doubt what I have dreamt of in a wife and more, I was able to convince myself we were meant for each other and we will spend our lives together and forever both in this dunya and akhira. One of my best moment was when we agreed to choose each other when we meet in الجنة , insha Alla.h..
Recently, it started to fall apart and we fought so often. I tried my best, put my ego and pride aside just so it will work but it just is not. I am a very simple person and believe so much In اللَّه سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى will, but in this case it has been so difficult for me to just let be what will be, I have just tried to fight and fight to make it work. Maybe because I believe if I should lose her I'll probably never look to get married and will never get married.
Now I have started to go back to my previous ideology, I know marriage is half of your deen and it completes it, but is it forbidden not to marry?

My plan is to adopt children إنْ شَآ ءَ اللّهُ

جَزَاكُمُ اللّهُ
NB__ its not that I don't believe .اللَّه سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى will replace her with someone better.

lafex: ASSALAM ALAEKUM
I am also experiencing similar issue and I understand how you are feeling. You serious prayer and patience.
it is highly forbiding in islam to make a decision not to marry. There are many hadiths that condemn such and I think the closest of them to your issue is quoted thus(I am sorry for not quoting it word for word)
'three men went to the prophet, the first said I will never get married, the second said I will never sleep at night because of prayer and the third said I will keep fasting everyday till I die. The prophet replied them that I am the best among human and I am married, sleep and wake up, and fast and break'.
So you have no reason to take a decision not to marry. If you feel giving up with her is better, that means that is not the type of wife you dreamt of. Then leave her and continue journey for searching a wife.
I PRAY THAT MAY ALMIGHTY GIVE US THE BEST OF WIFE
AMEEN

Capt. JH Miller:
Assalam..
I am a young muslim brother, growing up I never gave much taught to marriage as I knew I wouldn't marry till I was much older, as I grew older I started to reason not to get married until I meet a luvly muslimah. She is no doubt what I have dreamt of in a wife and more, I was able to convince myself we were meant for each other and we will spend our lives together and forever both in this dunya and akhira. One of my best moment was when we agreed to choose each other when we meet in الجنة , insha Alla.h..
Recently, it started to fall apart and we fought so often. I tried my best, put my ego and pride aside just so it will work but it just is not. I am a very simple person and believe so much In اللَّه سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى will, but in this case it has been so difficult for me to just let be what will be, I have just tried to fight and fight to make it work. Maybe because I believe if I should lose her I'll probably never look to get married and will never get married.
Now I have started to go back to my previous ideology, I know marriage is half of your deen and it completes it, but is it forbidden not to marry?

My plan is to adopt children إنْ شَآ ءَ اللّهُ

جَزَاكُمُ اللّهُ
NB__ its not that I don't believe .اللَّه سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى will replace her with someone better.

informatix: My advice to you is to go to church and marry I advice alot of Muslims to marry from the followers of Isa Ibn Maryam(Jesus). The practice of marrying from the followers of Jesus was well encouraged Islam. Islam believed in Jesus as a Messenger of God with miracles born by virgin mother Maryam with no father. Marry from church problems solved but make sure u iron out about ur children finish no problem.

informatix: My advice to you is to go to church and marry I advice alot of Muslims to marry from the followers of Isa Ibn Maryam(Jesus). The practice of marrying from the followers of Jesus was well encouraged Islam. Islam believed in Jesus as a Messenger of God with miracles born by virgin mother Maryam with no father. Marry from church problems solved but make sure u iron out about ur children finish no problem.

tbaba1234: I feel this decision is coming from heart-break. It will pass, eventually.

Bf-Gf relationships are haram anyway. Don't worry, your mind will change when you meet another nice muslimah, in sha Allah.

lookmangiw: Tbaba, How are you doing today, Hope you are doing fine. Concerning your post, you said boyfriend/ Girlfriend relationship is haram in islam, but I'm currently dating a woman now, just 4 months old. What am I suppose to do? Cos at the moment, I don't think I'm really in the best position to get married, should I break up with her?

yusufk: That's what i dont understand... which hadith or Aayah says that marriage is half of your deen? i have been goin through books but i cudn't find it.

deols:

If every Muslim goes to church to marry, what happens to the female Muslims.

I can't even believe I read this.

freshboi34:


Fink d hadith iz buttressing on how dey fink wil make dem more pious to allah..I stand to b corrected..

informatix: My advice to you is to go to church and marry I advice alot of Muslims to marry from the followers of Isa Ibn Maryam(Jesus). The practice of marrying from the followers of Jesus was well encouraged Islam. Islam believed in Jesus as a Messenger of God with miracles born by virgin mother Maryam with no father. Marry from church problems solved but make sure u iron out about ur children finish no problem.I am very sure you are a christian,if they go and marry in church,what fate do you want to befall our sisters?Don't be selfish!