am a graduate looking 4 job am 31yrs.have been dating my girl friend 4 10yrs now.am just a yr older then her. now her family is telling her to go and marry and i dont want to loose her advice me pls

Does this woman work ie, does she have a course of income even while you dont? If she does, you can consider it as long as yu ain't willing to sit back and allow her do all the financial responsibilities(you should continue you search for a source of income)

Bro, your gf has the final say in this issue i.e. either to wait for you or take a walk. If she choose to leave you, let her go. If she choose to stay, fine. Just be yourself and continue your life. There are certain things you don't have to force it happen in your life. Just remain focus while you continue your job search. By the way, which state are you?

lagos state

Ak101: lagos state

Okay. U know your first degree may not be enough for your job search and Lagos should be very competitive for white collar jobs, so you'll need to go extra and polish yourself. If I may ask, what skill do you have in addition to your degree? What did you study too? Have you tried volunteering for some big NGOs around? How about picking up a teaching job? What have you been doing exactly? How is your CV like at the moment? If possible, can you let me see it?

am planing to pick a teaching job now.ve been moving around lagos now in search of teaching jobs. can u forward ur e-mail address to me

eyenCalabar: Bro, your gf has the final say in this issue i.e. either to wait for you or take a walk. If she choose to leave you, let her go. If she choose to stay, fine. Just be yourself and continue your life. There are certain things you don't have to force it happen in your life. Just remain focus while you continue your job search.

You are kidding right? Let her walk, after 10 years together.

@OP
Wouldn't advice getting married without a job. Call your girlfriend and explain things to her. Then get something doing that brings in a steady income, no matter how small and then plan your life accordingly while you keep praying for better things

Godmother:

You are kidding right? Let her walk, after 10 years together.

Am not kidding pls. The Op said the family people are telling her to take a walk and the person involve here is old enough to take her own decisions especially in a matter such as this. So if she decides to go with the family option, what should this young man do? Force her to stay? C'mon. I still repeat that if she wants to go, she should go. She should be able to believe in the relationship and hold on to it no matter what. But now she's beginning to feel she has been wasting her time and making it look as if this guy is not even trying. I don't like it.

eyenCalabar: Bro, your gf has the final say in this issue i.e. either to wait for you or take a walk. If she choose to leave you, let her go. If she choose to stay, fine. Just be yourself and continue your life. There are certain things you don't have to force it happen in your life. Just remain focus while you continue your job search. By the way, which state are you?

To leave a girl u'v been dating for 10yrs? she's like a wife already na, if na u u go allow the girl go? its not easy broda.

Op, whatever happens, pls don't leave that lady. Get a good job, before you get married tho.

Obidike jr.:


To leave a girl u've been dating for 10yrs? she's like a wife already na, if na u u go allow the girl go? its not easy broda.

You guys should understand me. Am not saying he should leave the girl but what if the girl decides to go with the family's option? You know girls could be easily deceived to do what ordinarily they wouldn't have loved to do. That's just their nature.

my broder and my sister we dont need to fight each other on dis matter i just need ur advice.both of us ve gone a long way.the lady gave me 100k when i was serving +the money i saved making 200k at least if i start working i will just save small money with it and get apartment of ours. i ve to fixed the money in bank.i can nt get apartment without no income