neneslim: sori to interupt, am married with a cute boy nd my marriage is over a year nw, am in my 20s so is my wife (pretty young huh) i love my wife dearly and everytin seems ok until couple of m0nths ago wen her m0m start coming nd trying to make decision 4 us, wenever she is around everyting in my house change,i no longer see my wife beside me watching movies or spending time together, al her time she spent them in the guest room with her m0m nd weneva she cums out her attitude changes nd she become angry at any word i speak,few days ago i reported her(my wife) to her aunt nd her aunt ask her, i dnt knw wat happen at the background bt after her aunt left a whole new fight erupted, dis time is my mother inlaw nd me which is quit absurd, she told me to my face that she once told her daughter nt to marry me for sum reason she neva gave bt she went ahead nd married me,she said some ugly stuf that am even ashamed to write here, and it was obviouse it because i told sum1 abt the whole tin she is doing nd al dis while she was naggin nd insulting me, my wife kept mute nd i neva said a word cos she told me she wil make her daughter leave me nd i wont be able to to take custody of my son til he is 7yrs(according to sharia law). . . .for weeks we never ve peace in the house cos everyday new issues keep coming up until she left abt 2weeks ago nd nw the wife i fell inlove with and married is back nd calm nw that for almost 2weeks nw we ve neva experience a slight agurement tlk more of exchanging words,we started eating together againg nd even spend time inside the kitchen together cooking nd cleaning, she is back to her funny loving ways. Bottom line is, its nt jst guys mums atimes thats the problem, i pray no guy experience dis again cos during dis hard periods my wife tinks i hate her mun nd she get vry defensive of her cos she taught i like looking down on her family nd nw her brothers stop talking to me nd nt even picking my cals for wateva reason i dnt knw nd al am doing is nt allowing other family members interfere with my decisions or trying to make a decision for my family cos the taught am young nd i ve tried so much to keep my own family away.

yellowpawpaw:
Coogar, to u specifically pls.
Will u CIA ur wife?

Baby mama:
People do it

A woman will fight another in the streets,tear pant and bra and act a fool because she thinks the other woman is trying to snatch or snatched her man
Tufia

The one I know I will certainly do something is walking in on a woman in my matrimonial bed or uncompromising position in my home
Wallahi that woman will run out to the streets stark naked,no two ways abourrit it
That will be your punishment for having the nerve to invade my space
If you don't run out butt nakid ,my name is not baby mama

ManchyBabe: When I first got married, I used to make the mistake of over flogging things when I knew I was right and I would over talk . . .to the point that I will misjive. Guess what! its the one misjived sentence/word that he will pick up on and he will use that.

Thanks You! This is me right here! Unfortunately I still havnt learnt how not to go overboard and just shut it..

neneslim: sori to interupt, am married with a cute boy nd my marriage is over a year nw, am in my 20s so is my wife (pretty young huh) i love my wife dearly and everytin seems ok until couple of m0nths ago wen her m0m start coming nd trying to make decision 4 us, wenever she is around everyting in my house change,i no longer see my wife beside me watching movies or spending time together, al her time she spent them in the guest room with her m0m nd weneva she cums out her attitude changes nd she become angry at any word i speak,few days ago i reported her(my wife) to her aunt nd her aunt ask her, i dnt knw wat happen at the background bt after her aunt left a whole new fight erupted, dis time is my mother inlaw nd me which is quit absurd, she told me to my face that she once told her daughter nt to marry me for sum reason she neva gave bt she went ahead nd married me,she said some ugly stuf that am even ashamed to write here, and it was obviouse it because i told sum1 abt the whole tin she is doing nd al dis while she was naggin nd insulting me, my wife kept mute nd i neva said a word cos she told me she wil make her daughter leave me nd i wont be able to to take custody of my son til he is 7yrs(according to sharia law). . . .for weeks we never ve peace in the house cos everyday new issues keep coming up until she left abt 2weeks ago nd nw the wife i fell inlove with and married is back nd calm nw that for almost 2weeks nw we ve neva experience a slight agurement tlk more of exchanging words,we started eating together againg nd even spend time inside the kitchen together cooking nd cleaning, she is back to her funny loving ways. Bottom line is, its nt jst guys mums atimes thats the problem, i pray no guy experience dis again cos during dis hard periods my wife tinks i hate her mun nd she get vry defensive of her cos she taught i like looking down on her family nd nw her brothers stop talking to me nd nt even picking my cals for wateva reason i dnt knw nd al am doing is nt allowing other family members interfere with my decisions or trying to make a decision for my family cos the taught am young nd i ve tried so much to keep my own family away.

Baby mama:

I didn't do it in my early years either


I know a woman that followed her husband for miles driving to know the home of his girlfriend
She will hide inside bush to catch them coming out of restaurants and she was no child.
She will call and confront the women
Check his phone and call the female names introducing herself as his wife and asking them to back off
Making a fool of herself and collecting insults from sluts
That is so low
I can't degrade myself in such a way
Tua!

coogar:

before nko?
men are intelligent beings. we will get you to talk & talk while looking for the slightest of error. that's what i will capitalise on to avoid apologising.

ManchyBabe: When I first got married, I used to make the mistake of over flogging things when I knew I was right and I would over talk . . .to the point that I will misjive. Guess what! its the one misjived sentence/word that he will pick up on and he will use that.

Thanks You! This is me right here! Unfortunately I still havnt learnt how not to go overboard and just shut it..

carmelion:


Aunty CC,this your write up jsut reminded of one article I read from a newspaper column(I love litreature).

A lady wanted to do something different to spice up her marriage as it was getting monotonous.So she decided to have a candlelit dinner just for she and hubby.

So later in the evening,she made sure she prepared the food on time,fed the kids and sent them to bed.

Then she turned off the lights,lit her candle and then set up the dinning with her husbands favourite

She also made herself look very sensual.T he husband came back and guess what?

He thought it was PHCN doing their work but then the wife expalined that she purposely turned the lights off.

He started fuming with anger,and shouted at her

"Why do you like behaving like a child?And adult palying with candle?So what will you do if a child plays with a candle in front of you?Do you want to burn my house?

Bla bla bla...he ended up spoiling the whole mood.The wife went to bed in tears.


Some men are not just it at alllll

No aiota of romance at all.mtcheeew

carmelion:


Aunty CC,this your write up jsut reminded of one article I read from a newspaper column(I love litreature).

A lady wanted to do something different to spice up her marriage as it was getting monotonous.So she decided to have a candlelit dinner just for she and hubby.

So later in the evening,she made sure she prepared the food on time,fed the kids and sent them to bed.

Then she turned off the lights,lit her candle and then set up the dinning with her husbands favourite

She also made herself look very sensual.T he husband came back and guess what?

He thought it was PHCN doing their work but then the wife expalined that she purposely turned the lights off.

He started fuming with anger,and shouted at her

"Why do you like behaving like a child?And adult palying with candle?So what will you do if a child plays with a candle in front of you?Do you want to burn my house?

Bla bla bla...he ended up spoiling the whole mood.The wife went to bed in tears.


Some men are not just it at alllll

No aiota of romance at all.mtcheeew

carmelion:


Aunty CC,this your write up jsut reminded of one article I read from a newspaper column(I love litreature).

A lady wanted to do something different to spice up her marriage as it was getting monotonous.So she decided to have a candlelit dinner just for she and hubby.

So later in the evening,she made sure she prepared the food on time,fed the kids and sent them to bed.

Then she turned off the lights,lit her candle and then set up the dinning with her husbands favourite

She also made herself look very sensual.T he husband came back and guess what?

He thought it was PHCN doing their work but then the wife expalined that she purposely turned the lights off.

He started fuming with anger,and shouted at her

"Why do you like behaving like a child?And adult palying with candle?So what will you do if a child plays with a candle in front of you?Do you want to burn my house?

Bla bla bla...he ended up spoiling the whole mood.The wife went to bed in tears.


Some men are not just it at alllll

No aiota of romance at all.mtcheeew

yellowpawpaw: Thanks Coogar for ur answer.
I'm very relieved.
At least there is still hope for my sis.
God thank u o!

neneslim: sori to interupt, am married with a cute boy nd my marriage is over a year nw, am in my 20s so is my wife (pretty young huh) i love my wife dearly and everytin seems ok until couple of m0nths ago wen her m0m start coming nd trying to make decision 4 us, wenever she is around everyting in my house change,i no longer see my wife beside me watching movies or spending time together, al her time she spent them in the guest room with her m0m nd weneva she cums out her attitude changes nd she become angry at any word i speak,few days ago i reported her(my wife) to her aunt nd her aunt ask her, i dnt knw wat happen at the background bt after her aunt left a whole new fight erupted, dis time is my mother inlaw nd me which is quit absurd, she told me to my face that she once told her daughter nt to marry me for sum reason she neva gave bt she went ahead nd married me,she said some ugly stuf that am even ashamed to write here, and it was obviouse it because i told sum1 abt the whole tin she is doing nd al dis while she was naggin nd insulting me, my wife kept mute nd i neva said a word cos she told me she wil make her daughter leave me nd i wont be able to to take custody of my son til he is 7yrs(according to sharia law). . . .for weeks we never ve peace in the house cos everyday new issues keep coming up until she left abt 2weeks ago nd nw the wife i fell inlove with and married is back nd calm nw that for almost 2weeks nw we ve neva experience a slight agurement tlk more of exchanging words,we started eating together againg nd even spend time inside the kitchen together cooking nd cleaning, she is back to her funny loving ways. Bottom line is, its nt jst guys mums atimes thats the problem, i pray no guy experience dis again cos during dis hard periods my wife tinks i hate her mun nd she get vry defensive of her cos she taught i like looking down on her family nd nw her brothers stop talking to me nd nt even picking my cals for wateva reason i dnt knw nd al am doing is nt allowing other family members interfere with my decisions or trying to make a decision for my family cos the taught am young nd i ve tried so much to keep my own family away.

Octævius: Nice one baby mama, i dy follow u lyk he-goat dy follow she-goat. Learnd a lot o, m nt married though bt i dnt tink to say sorry wil ever b a problem for me personally. I knw of dis book dat butress dix pointx of urx, its title is 'men are from mars, women are from venus'. Moxt muxt av heard abt it tho, jxt wanna share wat i tink wil help. Nd abt d sex b4 marriage thang, ix it advixable? Cox i dnt wanna get married to a brick o. How do i knw b4 d 'koko' (marriage) dat xhe ix 'flexible'.

Efemena_xy:

Osisi, this story get as e be.

What sort of freak was that man? Like you say, the woman matured in the relationship with an (increased?) sex drive and the man just remained stagnant. You see how we women suffer?

She had to endure a decade of sex.u@l frustration at his hands - but if it were the other way round, the man can go seek solace outside but not the woman. So unfair...

Just wondering though: did the man re-marry and if he did, is he happier now?



I'm not one for rowdy threads jare. If it gets too much, I go just waka without looking back, lest I turn into a pillar of salt

But on a more serious note, what advice would you have given the couple in Baby mama's story about the clumsy husband?

ManchyBabe: When I first got married, I used to make the mistake of over flogging things when I knew I was right and I would over talk . . .to the point that I will misjive. Guess what! its the one misjived sentence/word that he will pick up on and he will use that.

Thanks You! This is me right here! Unfortunately I still havnt learnt how not to go overboard and just shut it..

Baby mama:

That is the issue we have tried to address earlier
Coogar,dayo,jennykadry and ihedinobi addressed the part about waiting vs testing
I wanted to wait but I was tempted and we test drove and test drove some more
.thank God the trumpet didn't sound then
It is tough with someone you are passionate about
We actually had to do the court wedding earlier because we felt guilty about chopping before marriage
My mother said no chopping till white wedding,I ignored her,we were already legally married by the courts so chopping was going on uninhibited

Baby mama:

I know a couple that attended sex therapy upon sex therapy, at at least 4 different therapists ,bought gadgets upon gadgets they are now happily divorced
They were both novices at marriage but the woman matured and wanted excitement and the bobo was still carrying King James Bible inside bed
She tried everything
Ordered everything
Birthdays she will order edible lingerie to have the man lick the thing off of her,bobo will doze off
I have never heard of such a lousy lover
I told her Nne be careful,there are soldier ants in your area o
Before you too doze off with sugar around you and ants descend on you in the process because you are doing romance

This girl did all but the man was just a disgrace in bed and even when he tried,he was too mechanical and his hands would poke her in places so mechanically and she will have to say ouch because he hurt her
No emotions whatsoever
She left him and his good pay Check
She got a good alimony and child support though
A least she was compensated financially for a decade of torture
The number one reason she left was the lack of bedroom skills
Some people are that bad

lukesh: This is the most matured thread i have seen on NL both by the OP and contributors, kudos

dayokanu:

Ihedinobi would say maybe they didnt love each other or that was a bounce off relationship