She is the only daughter to her late parents and they willed the property (building) to her. Now, she met a young man who is not financially bouyant enough but though have a promising future and the young man lives in a rented apartment, they've gotten married and the lady packed in to live with him in the rented apartment whilst she rent out her inherited property. Now, the lady sees the idea of living in a rented apartment with her husband as abnormal, not when she has a nice apartment where they (she, her husband and children) can live comfortably without pinching thier brains everytime over rents. Now, she wants her husband to pack in to her inherited property at the expiration of thier current rent. The societal norm says a man shld marry a woman and take her to his house, not the other way round as it's demanded here. The question is, what is wrong if a man packs in to live with his wife in her house? This is because members of the man's family are kicking seriously against it.

What is your say?

I wouldn't subject my husband to that abeg.A man remains a man even in a one room house.I prefer using d rent money to add to wat my husband has in other to live comfortable.I won't want to bruise my husband's Ego.



Unless he suggests that,I won't ask him.I will definitely agree .

Which should carry more weighting, societal or practical?

You should always do what's beneficial to your family

What stops you from moving to the said property then savings from rent to start building a new house that you can both move into once complete

lynpetra: I wouldn't subject my husband to that abeg.A man remains a man even in a one room house.I prefer using d rent money to add to wat my husband has in other to live comfortable.I won't want to bruise my husband's Ego.

NICE 1.

lynpetra: I wouldn't subject my husband to that abeg.A man remains a man even in a one room house.I prefer using d rent money to add to wat my husband has in other to live comfortable.I won't want to bruise my husband's Ego.

You think his ego isn't already bruised by the fact that the wife has a whole building willed to her?

It ought to be what makes financial sense

jay bee:
You think his ego isn't already bruised by the fact that the wife has a whole building willed to her?

It ought to be what makes financial sense

Then,smashing that same bruised ego by bringing him into the house to live?I fit cry for am sef.

Talk about insult on injury!

lynpetra:


Then,smashing that same bruised ego by bringing him into the house to live?I fit cry for am sef.

Talk about insult on injury!

Can someone possibly go lower if they are already low?

Anyway, there is nothing like mine in marriage. It's all about ours

What if he doesn't have a house of his own? Which one is easier, staying in his wife's late parents house or striving and suffering to pay his rent?

Suffering is what makes a man but not foolishly suffering when there is a solution on your door step. Let him stay in the house until he can build a house of his own. There is nothing like ego or pride here. If you try to show your ego, you will end up being an antelope

jay bee:
Can someone possibly go lower if they are already low?
Anyway, there is nothing like mine in marriage. It's all about ours

Already modified my first post.Except he ask,I won't suggest that.

What if the said house isn't aVailable.Can't he place a roof over his family's head?won't he suffer and strive like a man who has got responsibilities?

No.

xynerise: What if he doesn't have a house of his own? Which one is easier, staying in his wife's late parents house or striving and suffering to pay his rent?

Suffering is what makes a man but not foolishly suffering when there is a solution on your door step. Let him stay in the house until he can build a house of his own. There is nothing like ego or pride here. If you try to show your ego, you will end up being an antelope

EOD

POPE II: No.

No

lynpetra: What if the said house isn't aVailable.Can't he place a roof over his family's head?won't he suffer and strive like a man who has got responsibilities?

that's another topic right?

lynpetra:
No

no , it is not wrong .get it ?

POPE II: no , it is not wrong .get it ?

Yes.

lynpetra:

Yes.

Cool, but it doesn't mean I won't struggle to build my own , actually using your pops house can help you save a lot of money to for your own house .

experience is the best teacher , let him move in with her , and later come back to tell the story

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