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Relationship Mistakes That Cause Problem (hell) In MARRIAGE. by skyeglobe: 11:54am On Dec 19, 2013 |
Please, patiently read all::: Relationship Mistakes that cause problem (Hell) in MARRIAGE. BY J.T. OMOLE This is not my first article on relationship issues but I chose to customize my articles from now. I want to share with you some things that I’ve learnt, seen, and decoded from relationships and marriages in recent years. For the rest of this year; I will be releasing two articles daily. The first article in the morning, while the other in the evening. QOUTE OF THIS ARTICLE: …because if you cajole him to marry you, you cannot cajole him to live with you happily in marriage and If he cannot not stay to cover you and your past in a relationship he cannot stay to cover you, your secrets and challenges in marriage. Have you ever imagined why most marriages are experiencing fire like hell is been described and yet no one knows the reason for that in such marriages? Anyway, some marital problems are visible to outsiders while most people kept their problems within. But when you move closer to them you will feel the heat around them and yet they smile when you meet with them outside. I was getting involved in an issue of a married couple about two months ago. Believe me honestly, this couple got married about two years ago and nothing good has been said about the husband by the households, neighbors and friends because of the way he suddenly began to treat his wife about two months after the wedding. This same man was a very spiritual brother way back in school and was very strong and convinced when he met this fire brand lady. They were both spiritual and religious. And now I was told the man no longer allows his wife to attend any church activities and doesn’t want to see him with friends. To the extent that they no longer visit their spiritual father and pastor (Well, this is too far! As you’ve just thought). When I got involved in this matter, I discovered that people shifted all blames on the man. And I said “FOR WHAT?” (not supporting the man in anyway either @ this point ) You don’t just shift blames of marital problems on any of the parties if you were yet to hear the real cause of the problem from both parties. And of which in this case, no one knows the reason for their problem. In my quiet mood I asked; Was she a virgin before they got married? That question sounded strange and serious to those that were with me. And I asked; IF NO! Did she inform her husband before marriage? Or did she tell her husband the truth when he asked her way back in their relationship before marriage? This question could be funny to you also, but most homes that tend to look interesting in their relationship stage and later turned to something else in marriage is as a result of hidden past or not properly said and discussed before marriage which by all means affect men more than women. And I also asked: were there any past and experience you had either before or after you met him and you denied telling him the truth until in marriage or he heard from outsiders? Believe me honestly, the atmosphere became quiet and moody. There is no how you can experience Heaven on earth in marriage without letting your partner know your past and experience before marriage. In fact, it is better to tell him immediately he asked you, because you not responding immediately would create another notion. Telling him/her when asked shows that you are loyal to the relationship and you can be trusted. All men tend to ask their partners about their past and experience in the relationship. This is not because he wants to open your healed wound but just to avoid being encapsulated by psychological trauma when it is been heard in marriage by you or from an outsider. So let him know who you will be in marriage as regards your past and experience. In my little experience in this aspect of marital life with people, I discovered that the basic cause of marital problem in marriage is because of some things that were hidden from one another before marriage and got revealed in marriage. I tell people that; no matter how worse your past and experience could be, make sure you tell your partner before marriage. The results of issues like these are not directly controllable in marriage, most especially, from men to women. Because men get easily captured and encapsulated with psychological trauma if heard that of his wife, either from his wife or outsider in marriage. These are issues that cannot be told to any family member let alone neighbors. Ladies don’t see fault in not telling their partners the truth about their past and experience before marriage because they consider these following reasons (1) He would not trust me any longer (2) it means, I will expose myself and open my shame to the man I am yet to be married to (3) if I told him, he could say he is no longer interested in me (4) I don’t want to lose him because of my past and experience (5) But we are now a new creature, old things have passed away. He doesn’t need to know because God has forgiven me. It’s between me and God. And after all, he received me and I received him also. If you are still using any of these manners to hide those things you needed to share, please back out now, because if you cajole him to marry you, you cannot cajole him to live with you happily in marriage and If he cannot not stay to cover you and your past in a relationship he cannot stay to cover your secrets and challenges in marriage. Tell him now, now that he is committed and know if he would stay or not. A REAL man forgives. It takes two to TANGO. Thanks for reading. Until evening that I will release another example of relationship mistakes that causes problem (hell) in marriages, remain blessed. |
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