Please somebody explain to me why some male Nigerians feel that talking about being “intimate’’ with a woman is some sort of validation for them. You know, like a notch on their belt, and they have no qualms shouting it to high heavens at the slightest provocation.

I was a witness to one such fiasco this past weekend. I went to a party with a nice young lady I just met recently. Our outing was, however, cut short in the most unfortunate way by a certain Nigerian guy who felt the need to announce to my friends and me the fact that he…………,  I was outraged and am certainly not proud to say that I almost engaged this “thing” in a fistfight. We just had to leave the party.

There is a silver lining to all this though, it made me see this young lady in a different light. She was such a class act and handled the whole mess with poise and grace. My heart just went out to her. I mean this girl is pretty and I was certainly under no illusions that she had not been with a man before. The way this guy was carrying on just exposed him for him the untrained mongrel that he is.   

To “ pretty woman” and all the long suffering females out there, I have this to say, for everyone of those untrained bastards out there, there are certainly a lot of good brothers that appreciate you and respect you. Keep your head up!!!!

let me state that i have never come across a Nigeria male with a loud mouth talking about ladies he has been intimate with , such men i feel are uncouth and should not be associated with i don't care what other fine qualities he may have.
or better still that kind of person should be given one upside his head with a bottle, but funny enough some females might be like that too. I guess the same treatment applies to them too.

yes! one upside the head to know what time it is

I know but that situation could have really turned ugly is cooler heads had not prevailed. Plus it could have presented difficulties for a budding relationship if less broad minded people were involved. i just think it's a crying shame and so unfair.

shoulda bursted d negro's behind jor, sup with all that ish? he's lucky i wasn't there, oloshi!

my madam. i hail.

c0dec:

my madam. i hail.

sup my hussy

aww. loving me is crucial.

just recovered from a ban by u know who. msn please.

It's all good. No need getting ignorant with the eejit

@ Leftee
from what you described, it doesn't sound like the purpose behind the man's (or "the thing"  as you call it, LOL) outburst was the need for validation. It sounds like he wanted to let you know that he's been with the woman and that what you now have is his "left-over", so to speak. In which case, like you stated if cooler heads had not prevail and some open-mindedness (mainly on your part but also on the woman's as well) was not to be found, you prolly would have reacted the way he wanted you to by seeing the outburst as an attack on your manhood and maybe start feeling anger and indignation towards the woman.
And if the woman was the type that was not comfortable in her own skin, she would have gotten highly offended about being accused of sleeping around.
It's a common game that jerks like to play, but I don't think it's limited to Naija men.

I've always been against outing a good sister who has the spirit of "giving", due to the negative result of taking her out of the rotation.

scorpio last time im gonna say this Lol , please go to the nigerian model girl topic n see what i posted for real hurry up!!

lol, girl thank ya!

Please somebody explain to me why some male Nigerians feel that talking about being “intimate’’ with a woman is some sort of validation for them. You know, like a notch on their belt, and they have no qualms shouting it to high heavens at the slightest provocation.

I was a witness to one such fiasco this past weekend. I went to a party with a nice young lady I just met recently. Our outing was, however, cut short in the most unfortunate way by a certain Nigerian guy who felt the need to announce to my friends and me the fact that he…………, I was outraged and am certainly not proud to say that I almost engaged this “thing” in a fistfight. We just had to leave the party.

There is a silver lining to all this though, it made me see this young lady in a different light. She was such a class act and handled the whole mess with poise and grace. My heart just went out to her. I mean this girl is pretty and I was certainly under no illusions that she had not been with a man before. The way this guy was carrying on just exposed him for him the untrained mongrel that he is.

To “ pretty woman” and all the long suffering females out there, I have this to say, for everyone of those untrained bastards out there, there are certainly a lot of good brothers that appreciate you and respect you. Keep your head up!!!!

@Leftee
Did you have to repost to drive home your point that you were embarrassed because your guy said you're picking up crumbs?

Why does she have to be a crumb? , just cos she was intimate with a next man??. I feel it was just an Achievement for the guy, that was why he had to announce it to the WWW, felt like he won the Oscars or sth. Is it a crime for a lady to have an ex?
My gosh, some people just use their kidneys to think

The girl should have told everyone how bad he was in bed.

Most men that broadcast the intimate time with a woman are really not up to scratch with their parfromances in bed.

He must be from the bush so what they both slept with each other why is he making noise about it.

D guy rant wus probably beer induced.a few slaps would have cured his delusion sharp sharp!!tnx 4 being a gentleman & a knight in shine shine armour 4 a distressed damsel. 3 gbosas 4 u.

The babe should hv described his small and tiny willie

How insecure.

Moral of the story: keep your legs closed ladies.

Ability to copulate does not a gentleman make.

And this is why i feel the art of self defence is invaluable to owmen. Had she quietly invited him to a rendevous then beat the crap out of him, he'll sing a different tune next time.

tpiah!:

How insecure.

Moral of the story: keep your legs closed ladies.

Na true you talk my brother, but will the sisters heed your warning? I don't think so

No they wont, but at least someone told them.