Utchgirl: As a xtian, equally consult ur God tru prayer or better still visit REAL men of God to help u find ur perfect match. Give dem (men of God) d name of dt ur gal to check if both of u match for marriage.

Utchgirl: As a xtian, equally consult ur God tru prayer or better still visit REAL men of God to help u find ur perfect match. Give dem (men of God) d name of dt ur gal to check if both of u match for marriage.

I am a christian and i believe in prayers but i think this kind of prayer that tends to be very specific but yet vague is just plain bullcrap. How can you tell someone to leave a guy she is in love with and go marry a stranger she has never met before? without giving her reasons to leave the guys she loves.

Matildachinyere: In d first place, why should she give her mom a list of names, wen u are d only one she's bin dating for 3yrs? If truly, the mom went for prayers she shouldn't have gone wit any name and God in heaven would av revealed d person dat she was meant to marry without d presence of options. Honestly it is all a lie, It's just her own method of dumping u for another guy *And i must say ur Babe is very gullible *.Let her go abeg *although It's not easy sha *

slap1: OP, I have to blame you PARTIALLY. You failed to 'configure' your girl properly. Before I date any girl, I'll instil some strong, sound ideals into her.

What do you guys even talk about? Even my close girlfriends won't believe this religious crap (I'm not bragging, but I have a way of getting people to listen when I talk). Call your girl and let her see reasons with you. Give her examples of lives and marriages that have been destroyed by these baseless men of God. Let her know that the devil she knows is better than the angel she doesn't know. Goodluck.

agohmamuda: Bro leme be straight with you. I know its not gonna be easy doe. Once doubt comes into any relationship, hmmmmm. Just prepare for d worse (breakup). I trust u won't want a situation were she's say "OK its you I want" then she goes sneaking at ur back seeing d other guy. Bro, move on. There's notin like pity, consideration or force when it comes to love. Take heed.

Mazi_Omenuko: Like when exactly did God turn to match-maker? This is sorcery and not Christianity! Your gf's mum (although, with good intentions for her daughter) went to seers to check what the future holds for her. Same way king samuel went to the witch of Endor who had familiar spirits. This is not a christian practice.

Having said that, there's nothing much you can do now. It has passed a stage of physical efforts and had entered spirituality. Its obvious your girl believes this 'wicked' prophesy and will certainly act it out; with little help from her mum. She created the room for her own manipulations when she compiled list of her suitors to send to her mum. How could she say she just enjoyed their attention when she was actually considering them as suitors and potential life partners?

Stop blaming yourself. You did nothing wrong. Relationship is not always a bed of roses so stop blaming yourself for hushing her once in a while. I do quarrel with my girl once in a while and we make up and get stronger.


She has already commited her future into the hands of seers; so your battle isn't physical.

I wish I have remedies for you;....okk, I have....its called plan B....start compiling your own list now...

joromi: This is so sad....
Does this girl love you at all?

Why should she have a list of people for consideration, when she's supposedly dating just you...

I will advise you personally seek God in prayer concerning the way forward...

pickle_juice:


Thanks man i really appreciate you taking the time to type that. I wish i could make my own list but its just too hard to move on when we didn't have a real reason to break up. I had a bunch of female friends that I use to talk to before she moved to my city but i cut all communications with them when she came to be with me. And the painful part is that while i stopped talking to other girls and facing my studies, she was busy entertaining guys chats. And now she could possibly move on and marry this guy and what happens to me? I am left hanging with no nobody to call my own.

This is going to ruin christmas for me for sure, because she leaves for Nigeria in 2 days and I just hope she doesn't make stupid decisions while back home.

The messed up part is that, as this guy saw her weakness, he has decided to put more pressure telling her that she has to agree this christmas.

lynpetra: @op,I advice you forget that gurl.The worst u can ever do is marry a lady that have no mind of her own,a lady that needs and get answers from spiritual bodies.So many broken homes u see today is as a result of MOG match making and interfering in people's relationships.You better run,as you might not know where your pictures has been taken to....(ladies do that nowadays).Listen very carefully,do not go into marriage with a lady who make her decisions based on what her spiritual 'daddy" thinks.DO NOT go into a relationship with a lady whose decisions are based solely on what the mother wants.No need to cry,it's really not worth it.

Nuzo':
This life na turn by turn.

From Yankee boys to European guys...then to SA boys.....to China guys. Now, the torch bearers and flag hoisters are Malay boys! Choi!

Forget the stories of her being to weak to stand for herself. Trust me, it's her choice. She carefully planned this whole drama.

On the other hand, I understand her concerns a little bit. Seems you guys are still students and in the same age bracket coupled with the fact that Igbo girls hardly wish to marry outside their ethnic group.

Furthermore, being that there are very few Nigerian men (especially male students) available for serious relationship in the States, she may have been overwhelmed by your fidelity and so decided to pitch tent with you until she's ready to leave Yankee.

Now listen carefully. Most of the times, the best is still in the future....especially if you are a student and still very young. You will not understand what I'm trying to say now until when that future shows up.

"What was I Thinking" would be the questions you will be asking in 5 years time.

Good luck!

Mc oldsoja:

Bros as much as I know it would be difficult, you have to cut your losses and move on.
She has allowed wrong seeds to be sown in her heart. Maybe like the other guy, you should give her an ultimatum to snap out of this foolish childishness (that's if she's not actually a child). "O foolish girl, who has bewitched you?"
Bros, you got to know when to run, know when to hold, know when to walk away.
I rest my case.

Mazi_Omenuko: The worst collabo that ruins a relationship; pastor and parents!

Its easy to ask you to ignore her but I just dug a little bit deeper and realized you really love this girl so it won't be easy to let go as we all are asking of you.

My guess is; its the same girl you popped her cherry a few months back, isn't it? I remember you feeling on top of the world then....lol...how time flies. You decided you were gonna marry her right after the cherry popping; and I believe you were serious about it. I feel your pain; watching her slip off your hands with no real reason...that's pathetic!

I will ask you to fight for your girl. Don't let any powers of darkness come between you too. She could be walking into a lifetime of suffering and you alone could rescue her. I just did a little investigation (you're into investigations so you'll know what I mean) and I've found out that you've laid your riches around this girl. Where a man's riches is, that's where his heart is. Don't give up too easily! Fight for her, and for yourself!

Get a ring, show her the ring and promise to put it on her finger if she goes back to Nigeria and comes back to you the same.

The kingdom of God suffereth violence; the violent taketh it by force!

dBard:

Q.E.D

Dude, keep an open mind but know that you've probably lost her n f good I must say cos a girl that can't follow her heart but rather chooses t dance t religious tunes n odas opinions isn't stable enuff f a family.
Cut your losses..
Difficult. .yes but consider..
1) she was stil keeping a window of opportunity open while u were dating (ur fault tho)
2) she had A LIST of potential suitors. .wat does that tell u ?
3) she is so quick t throwaway 3 yrs on hearsay, on someone she barely knows..

Abeg..go, cry..mend ur broken heart n live ur life best as u can.
God will get u someone special n stable

Shits annoying..

1one: I'm sorry about the fix you've found yourself....I can only imagine the turbulence your mind is sieving through right now-okay,that was my Sunday goody goody line.

Your girlfriend is just a stooopid human being and I'm not sorry to say,who in this present age would be gettting married because they want to please their parents or because some group of yet to be validated seers said something.....There are familiar spirits everywhere,and as such I don't really buy the legitimacy of their so called prophecy. Even samuel the great prophet,ordained by God wanted to anoint one of David's elder brothers.Infact he had tilted the jar of oil but it didnt just flow. So my guy be wary of so called seers.


It still brings me to the fact that your girlfriend is stoopid,its like she sees marriage as a joke that's why she can be this indecisive,because if she viewed marriage as an instituition where one's purpose and destiny is either marred or made I don't think she would be this fickle minded.As christains we have the Holy spirit who is the spirit of truth.The spirit of truth bears witness with our own spirit whenever decisions of this nature are to be made,but from the way it is,she's either not a christain or perharps has not fully maximized the efficacy of the spirit of truth.

Truth is,you've lost her already,it would not be easy but just release her from your mind,besides as a man you don't need a woman who can't stand her ground and put her choice forward with you because when you get married there would be other tough hurdles to cross.

So please let her go and believe God for your own wife
Cheers.