Many women interpret a man's unaffectionate nature as a sign that the love isn't there. In some cases it may be true, but in many cases they deal with affection. As a man who deal with it, I can vouch that. Some men fear they won't get the right reaction back when they show it, some men believe it's a sign of weakness, some men fear it can open a door for a woman to walk on them. All kind of fear lies behind the reason why a man is unaffectionate. If your man is unaffectionate and you love him and believe deep down he loves you. Work with him, compliment him, show him you notice the times he tries to be affectionate. Don't make comments like "why don't you do this more often, that's all I ask" etc. Don't guilt him into being affectionate, it won't work. Work with him, if he loves you there will be improvement overtime, don't rush it though. If you don't love him enough to stay till he improves, leave. Understand that love takes some work, believing that you're going to find a perfect guy who showers you with unconditional love without having any flaws is foolish. We all have weaknesses, being unaffectionate is some men's weakness. Just like you as a woman have insecurities, men do as well.

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