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My Ex Won't Talk To Me by Tiemo(m): 12:36am On Dec 30, 2013
My Ex Won't Talk To Me
I understand that you miss your ex that’s why you want to talk to him or her, hoping that will help your feeling happy once more. The My Ex Won't Talk To Meso-called No Contact rule isn’t going to work exactly as people think it would, unless of course you aim to move on out the relationship forever.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xOQG4JFdQmk

When we breakup with an ex lover, you have to understand that ex factor that exists between the both lovers. The ex factor that makes you both feel like Romeo and Juliet. The ex factor that makes you feel that you can’t stay a day without seeing, touching, or hearing his or her lovely voice. You enjoyed talking to each other. But after breakup you notice that you miss your ex again, as though the ex factor is returning. And don’t think that your ex isn’t missing you. It’s just that there’s something he or she is scared of or something else he or she desires which they aren’t seeing in you right now.

You will be shocked after you watch this video to the end to see it's possible to get your ex back into your life:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J7-au6XphLs
For the complete guide visit this blog: www.BreakupCare.com

One mistake you may already be making is trying every means to get your ex to agree into getting back into a relationship he or she isn’t surely ready to welcome, at least not hastily. The first thing I expect you to do is to find out what caused the breakup. Possibly, it’s the same reason why he or she does not want you back up till now. I don’t think any man or woman would desire to continue a relationship where the mistakes and errors still linger.

Now, don’t panic yet. The blueprint is to organize a strategy by steps. A strategy that will not only get your ex back but, help you become a better person by changing your former you. By that, I mean to change your attitude, whatever it is that makes your ex not happy with you.

Demonstrate Humility

Your change starts here, I mean change of your attitude. If the breakup was instigated by a conflict, most probably you always viewed things and spoke from your own perspective. It’s time to view things from your ex’s point of view. It’s time to agree with your ex. This is where you begin to agree with your ex concerning everything he or she previously said about you. Doubtless, it’s time to send your ex a message conveying the understanding that you agree to see things from his or her own point of view. Let your ex know that you trust in his or her wisdom, that you trust them, that you belief in their future, that you belief he or she is going to have a great future. They your ex what you value in their personality.

Time to Agree

Agreement is the first quality of humility. When you agree with someone, you’re not arguing with that person. Let the other person have his or her way first. Agree now, then discuss or negotiate later. It’s a patient way of avoiding conflict but settling the issue at hand at a later and favorable time.

Draw him or her into getting involved in your life again

By getting him or her involved in your life, I don’t mean you should date him or her yet. This strategic step aims at getting him or her into communicating with you again. You can start out by reminding him or her of a pleasant moment you two shared together.

Contacting Him or Her Again - A Text Message To Send

Hi Jane/John, I just grabbed some sushi at that amazing restaurant on Wallstreet. Made me think of how you were Nice & how you made me happy. Tell me, how have you been?

That text message above works especially when your ex hasn’t communicated with you for a while.

If he replies, you have to send him or her another message that will set up a reason to resume and establish communication again. A message like this:

Text message 1

Tell your ex “You want to discuss something serious with him or her, & he or she is the only one you can discuss with”.

If your ex asks you what it is, just tell him/her it's not a thing you can discuss on phone but, you need his or her opinion, or help.

Text message; Alternative 2

You might also tell Him you want to share some “good news” with him or her,—and then leave him/her in suspense, about what the news is.

When you are ready to send these text messages you have to be ready to continue conversation with your ex. Getting your ex to talk to you isn’t the problem. How to get him or her into a new, lasting and better relationship again is what you truly need. In this article I have written ideas from me on what to do about reconciling with your ex, but you can use better Psychological and Expert Tips from Relationship Experts to get your ex boyfriend back – you can find them on this link: http://www.BreakupCare.com

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Re: My Ex Won't Talk To Me by NextGuest: 2:03am On Jul 02, 2014
It is always what you say that decides the fate of your relationship. While saying the wrong things will end your relationship, saying the right words can help you salvage it. Here is what you should avoid saying and what you need to say to your boyfriend to get him back.
Wait it out before you do anything
The thing is if you say anything too soon then it's most likely to backfire badly. Before you make a move and attempt to say anything to your boyfriend you must make sure that you have let a bit of time pass. Make sure that your boyfriend doesn't hate you and is willing to at least hear you out.

Admit your mistake
The first thing that you must do is to admit your mistake. The fact that you are taking ownership of your actions and are willing to go beyond and even take ownership of what was beyond your control is something that won't go unnoticed. This is bound to make your boyfriend feel a lot better.

Apologize
Just admitting your mistake isn't enough. You have to follow it up with an apology. Tell your boyfriend that you are very sorry for what you have done. Tell your ex boyfriend that you really feel bad for hurting him and it was never intentional. Don't validate what you did or try to justify your actions unless he asks you to. Just make the apology heartfelt.

Say you were lucky
Make your ex boyfriend feel a little better by telling him that you feel that you were really lucky to have him in your life. All you need to tell him is how enriched your life felt because of him and how much you have grown as an individual because of his presence.

Keep the spite and negativity out
When you are talking to him he might say some things that you feel are unfair. It's in your best interests to just swallow your pride and hear him out. Trashing out negative things about him now is only going to make things worse.

Hear him out
Listen to what he is saying. Sometimes listening is as important as saying things. When you give him a patient hearing you get to understand his side of the story and figure out your next move.

Wish him well
Once your conversation is over, all you need to do is wish him well like you mean it. Tell him that all you want is for him to be happy even if it means that you have to be sad. He will see your good side and will soon be back with you.

Give Close Attention Here-

Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your ex boyfriend begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will make your ex boyfriend crawl back to you within a few days guaranteed.

Re: My Ex Won't Talk To Me by tiemod: 8:22pm On Jul 06, 2014
Miss My Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend - I Want Him Or Her Back After Breakup. When you break up the only thing that you want to do is to talk to your ex. But you know that you shouldn't be calling him/her especially since he/she doesn't really want you around at the moment. So here are some of the things that you can do to keep your ex off your mind and keep yourself away from dialing his/her number.

Get busy
The best thing that you can do for yourself is to get busy. The idea of moping around the house listening to sad love songs might be extremely tempting but you are much less likely to call your ex when you have a day that is packed with activities back to back. Miss My Ex Boyfriend

Delete his/her number
If you still feel that you might just call him in a moment of weakness then the wisest thing to do is to first delete his number from your phone book. When you have to physically dial his number chances are that the craving will pass by the time you have fed in all the digits. Miss My Ex Girlfriend

Tell your friend to help you
This will be a good time to ask for help from a friend. Have a close friend on your speed dial. That should be the number that you will be calling every time you get the slightest urge to call your ex. Tell your friend to be firm with you harboring on dictatorial if needed, to keep you from calling your ex. Miss My Ex Boyfriend

Think of the negative reactions
Every time you pick up the phone to call your ex think of the negative reaction that you will have to face. It is very unlikely that your ex will be willing to talk to you so your phone will either ring out or will be disconnected. Miss My Ex Girlfriend

Try not to be alone
Another thing that you can try is never to be alone when you feel you might call him. If you are surrounded by people all the time then the chances of you picking up and calling your ex are very less. Hand over your phone to someone for safekeeping at night. This will ensure that you don't call your ex in desperation. Miss My Ex Boyfriend

Think about closure
Keep talking to yourself about closure. Tell yourself that to be able to put this break up behind you and to get the respect of your ex you will have to stop yourself from calling him/her. Miss My Ex Girlfriend

Think about the humiliation
Lastly, think of all the humiliation that you will have to face if you call your ex and he/she makes fun of you and calls you pathetic and desperate.

Pay Close Attention Here-

Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your ex begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will make your ex crawl back to you within a few days guaranteed. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out. Miss My Ex Boyfriend
Re: My Ex Won't Talk To Me by joanrivers(f): 1:31pm On Jul 16, 2014
About my ex boyfriend; I can see that you’ve been dealing with some pretty crazy relationship experiences, and unfortunately I think I have another one for your scrutiny.
my ex (Johnny) and I met about six months ago online and immediately hit it off and messaged back and forth every day. because of our equal honesty and compatible personalities, we both started developing feelings for each other. during this time, we were both in troubled relationships, my boyfriend was cheating on me incessantly (no matter the second and third chance) and his girlfriend was not around very much, and was awfully jealous. I finally got away from my ex, and soon after Johnny broke it off with his girlfriend. he told me it was because of his feelings for me, partly. of course, our relationship was on a track towards serious relationship, and I couldn’t have been happier.

sadly, I had made a huge mistake.

my previous boyfriend and I had a very serious and deep relationship, and when he came crawling back to me, even though I was trying to move on with Johnny, I ruined everything when I decided to leave Johnny for him. this broke aarons heart, and at first he responded with anger. it didn’t take long for my boyfriend to cheat on me again, and Johnny was there for me as a friend. It was then that I realized I had made a huge mistake. I begged and begged Johnny for a second chance and after a while he succumbed.
our relationship went back to how it was before, but I ruined it yet again.

I felt that our relationship was boring, and he didn’t seem to be showing much emotion or effort, and so like an idiot, I started playing games. I became very stoic and blank, and he finally asked what was going on. well, not really asked. it was more like a statement. “so are we not going to try anymore?” is what he said. pride filled my mind, and I wanted him to fight for me. can you believe my nerve? after I had pleaded for a second chance, and now I wanted HIM to fight for ME? of course, he saw how screwed up that was and I decided to leave, because I obviously hadn’t put my foot far enough down my throat.

the problem is, now I want him back. desperately. I’ve learned from my mistakes, apologized and tried to fix them. but he will not budge. he said he can’t take us seriously because he thinks that I will just leave again.
plus there's some other girl he met, and he doesn’t want to ruin it before it begins.

at this point, you’re probably wondering what on earth my question is. I just want to know what I can do to fix what I’ve done and get him back. right now I’m doing the No-Contact rule, I told him I needed time to get over him.
but I’m afraid if I stick with that rule and don’t do anything else he will move on with that girl he met.

thanks for your time and your insightful articles
Re: My Ex Won't Talk To Me by Rossieb: 8:12pm On Jul 20, 2014
Hello Tiemo, my ex is dating another girl he seems he loves her i guess. but she broke up with him today, my close friend talked to him so that perhaps we can get back together into a relationship but he told my friend a lot of things Which hurts a lot my ex boyfriend said that he no longer loves me and he doesn’t want me in his life and he hates the day he met me, and all what we had wasn't real, but in the same time he was dating that girl something took place it was when our soccer national team went to the second term we all went to celebrate in the streets so in that time i lost my little brother in the crowd so i started freaking out and crying so my ex boyfriend followed me and helped me to find him and we did after that we walked alone in an empty street and it was 1am and then he kissed me and said that he loves me and never wants to see me cry again, no we never talked and i really miss him i want him back i just need some help please
Re: My Ex Won't Talk To Me by Tiemo(m): 11:48pm On Jul 23, 2014
1. Your ex boyfriend needs some space and time to remove all the negative associations from the breakup and start missing you. People have a common misconception that if you don’t contact your ex, they will forget about you. But in reality, if you don’t contact your ex boyfriend, you will give them time to miss you more and they will be wondering all the time why you are not contacting them. Remember all the mistakes in Part #1 of this guide. Every one of them made your ex think of you as a needy person. By not contacting them, you immediately become not needy in their mind.

2. You also need some space and time. You need to get a hold of yourself and gain some perspective. The fact is, you are a mess after the breakup. And you need to calm down and analyze your relationship thoroughly to realize whether or not being with your ex boyfriend is in your best interest. It could be that you are just missing your ex boyfriend. You need to learn to enjoy your life without your ex boyfriend. You need to prove to yourself that you can be happy without your ex boyfriend. You will eventually realize that you DON’T NEED YOUR EX to be happy. Maybe you’ll still WANT them, but there is a big difference between needing something and wanting something.

3. You must become an attractive happy person during this time. You need to take a step back and reevaluate your life. You should make a lot of positive changes in your life. When you meet your ex boyfriend after the no contact period, you want them to be attracted to you. And the best way to do it is to start enjoying life and being an overall happy person. Don’t take this point lightly. This could be the difference between getting your ex boyfriend back or losing them forever.

Contacting Your Ex Boyfriend aka Re-attraction

Remember when your ex boyfriend left you? They thought of you as a needy, clingy and desperate person with little to no self-respect. After not being in contact with you for a while, they must be wondering what the heck happened to you. They will slowly start to forget that image of yours (the needy desperate one) and start remembering the things they liked about you. They will start remembering the things that they found attractive in you.

And that’s when you contact them, you talk to them and then meet them. Just as they lay eyes on you, BOOM. That’s the new and improved you. YOUR version 2.0. They can’t help but wonder what brought so much positive change in you.

For that to happen, you need two things.

1. You should actually bring a positive change in your life and become a confident, happy and attractive person.
2. You should contact your ex and meet them somewhere.

If you have been following this guide till now, then you know how to go about the first point. So, let’s get straight to the second point.
Re: My Ex Won't Talk To Me by mabelbrilliant: 11:23pm On Aug 03, 2014
Hi Tiemo, I really need your advice on how to get my ex boyfriend back. I love my ex so much and am sure he also love me when he told me he cant live without me, we share everything together even our account details and password. We had a fight and lost communication, a month later i saw him with another lady of on street kissing and i felt a pain go through my heart. Brad please come to my rescue, am in pains.
Re: My Ex Won't Talk To Me by Tiemo(m): 12:09am On Aug 08, 2014
I taught about the no contact rule

1. I get the feeling there is another factor you aren't getting from him. Just act all breezy and happy like you said but don’t text him until NC is over.

2. Once no-contact is over gchat isn't my favorite but you can make it work.
Re: My Ex Won't Talk To Me by evastefanni: 11:51pm On Aug 13, 2014
Hello, you are my last hope I pray you have the solution to my problem. I dated this guy for 2 years, been trying to cope with his lapses because i love him so much but he doesn't take me serious, i don't know if its because am black and his white but i pray its not the case. since he came into my life things has been working great with me, i find joy in him, his my heart but keeps playing with my feeling making me cry every time. He keeps breaking up with me every time and i keep accepting him back. I don't want to loose him, please how do i get him to miss me, so he will take me serious and adore me.
Re: My Ex Won't Talk To Me by Tiemo(m): 12:25pm On Aug 14, 2014
You may have come on too strong. Try leading up to "ask your ex boyfriend out for a date" via text.
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