Phew! its tough but i eventually confessed to my boyfriend that i was once married within two and a half years, when i was like 22years old. But now am 28yrs old,single and have been divorced without kids since 3years ago,  I was scared to tell him initially- fear of loosing him but now am no longer scared. You know why? Cos i feel, if i could  lost the most important love in my life ,MY MUM through untimely death a month ago and am still trying to survive the pain? how much more my boyfriend? It sound harsh but its the way i feel.
  Nothing else matters to me anymore, other than God,my buisness and perhaps my boyfriend if he can handle the truth of my being married and divorced! I know some guys can't handle it , while some don't care as long as there is no contact between me and my ex-husband.
Right now, any decision he takes about us, is ok by me. I want to face anew phase of my life without lies and deceit. And that is my new year resolution from now on and am ready to face it.

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i wish you well sweetheart

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Thanks Guys, its a relief.

All d best! u did d right thing,

You did well by tellin him.

That was the right thing to do, hope he sees hw lucky he is to hav an honest gal, there aint many left!

What's Up Poster? So how did your new guy take the truth when you told him. Did you lie in the first place that you never married before or you just didn't get into the issue? Some guys will call it quits and some will cope especially those who have been divorced before. If is for me, I may give you 24hrs. to pack your shit.

mmmmmmmmmmm . . . , . . . . .

Lies and Deceit make life so complicated. . .

9ices, i like ur new resolution.
keep it up.

Could change the way things are but a mature man will place u ahead of your past. You did right, and i hope he sees that too. . . i wish u all the best.

So what make you think in the first place that telling your boyfriend that you were once married and he will not love you again? If so, to hell with him and take your love and go away from his life!

The only thing that will consign me in this matter if I were him is, why did you have to lie to me in the first place? It is very important that you tell your serious boyfriend a thing like this sooner. Because he might found out one day and you know what will happen when he later found out himself right? Except you were married in USA and you are now in Nigeria and no one in Nigeria ever knew about it, then you might be able to hide it for a while and you yourself will also be the one to say it one day too by mistake.

Only silly girls hide things like this from their serious lovers. My beloved has to let me know few important things about her live just the same way she will know about me. If he decide and say because of that he will not marry you, let him go to hell with his love. Your real lover will come and stay if God destine you both to be.

Hey lady.
That was brave and in good time.good,very good.
You did your relationship a lot of good and he is going to trust you more.
Good one.

Good for you! You did a good thing.
Sorry about your loss.

many naija gals wouldn't be as bold as you are.good luck to you relationship;all da best!

SOJ:

many naija gals wouldn't be as bold as you are.good luck to you relationship;all da best!

Yes, Naija girls again. Those b!tches!

*rolls eyes*

Thanks Guys, but sad enough , he stopped calling, he doesnt answer my calls or text anymore , i have a deep feeling he wants out. Well, i dont regret saying it but it hurts that he couldnt accept my past and move on, why do most guys love lies and deceits?

dont mind them

but seriously if he is truly for u,he will come back,love they say covers every darkness and pastlife of a person
if he is urs he will come back,not minding all dat uve told him

i wish u well

Thanks @rampant, but i love him so much i need all the luck in this world to make him love me like he use to, how i wish i were perfect, i wouldnt have made that stupid /foolish/dumb mistake of marrying the wrong guy,

victorian:

Thanks @rampant,  but i love him so much i need all the luck in this world to make him love me like he use to,  how i wish i were perfect, i wouldnt have made that stupid /foolish/dumb mistake of marrying the wrong guy, 

nobody is perfect,we all make mistakes,but d good thing about mistakes is dat d wise learn from them

u cant force a man to be inlove wt u,just d way u cant force urself to fall inlove wt a man

if he truly loves u ,he will help heal the wounds of ur past,if he doesnt love u,he wont pay heed to u

but i advise u,do not force him to fall inlove wt u,cos d last mistake u made years back in ur life,will be little compared to the one u will bring upon urself d second time

am not forcing him to love him , he does love me,  its just that he's silence is making me worried,  or maybe i should give him sometime to be alone and reminisce on what we have.

victorian:

am not forcing him to love him , he does love me,  its just that he's silence is making me worried,  or maybe i should give him sometime to be alone and reminisce on what we have,  and may God help me , i wont make same mistake twice! hell, no!

im not saying he does not

but how do u know dat he loves u?

cos of how he treats me, so loving,caring and attentive. Although , we argue sometims but his actions shows he cares until when i dropped the bombshell of being married and divorced years back. then he became very quiet , after asking series of questions of how it all happened and why did i agree to marry at such young age, which i explained.

victorian im not doubting the mans love for u

but u can never know what is in a mans heart,do u know dat people pretend?

. . . . . . . . u go gurl. . . . . .

victorian:

Thanks Guys, but sad enough , he stopped calling, he doesnt answer my calls or text anymore , i have a deep feeling he wants out. Well, i don't regret saying it but it hurts that he couldnt accept my past and move on, why do most guys love lies and deceits?

Awww, I am sorry o.
I think you should have half expected that as well. He has the right to make the decision to stay away and gather his thoughts. I just hope he can look past it and move on.
Sorry.

He called saying he was coming to my office this morning. He came and gave me a huge hug with our usual hot kiss saying he wont let me go; no matter what happened in my past, cause its in the past and we are the present and possibly the future. hmmm,so sweet, am so happy, thank God.

datz good, being truthful is alwayz good and your partner get to appreciate it.

TRUTHFULNESS to me is NUMBER 1 in any relationship

@Ezinwannem, yeah you are right been truthful is the best in relationships and am happy my sweet guy appreciates it.
But to pussyfull , or whatever you call yourself, hey ! helloooooooooo not every babe is like you, who has such colourful past especially not me.