It is not easy to be faithful, but it pays.

Yes it pays.

Yes it pays

Sure does

100% Sure it pays

Really? How does it pay??

by not being a slut that sleep around

Howabout when u've decided to be faithful and ur partner (wifey) takes it for granted simply because she feels u can't mess. presently am in that mess right now. wifey picking quarrels, not taking to you not to talk of sex for reason at all. I know some pple will say '' you both need to talk it out'' but she is not even ready to discuss anything meaningfulness. w
will post more details as time goes on, but am in a difficult situation right now, cos a girl I give a lift seems to have a thing for me. just some few wks of knowing her but she feels my wifery is lucky to have me.
from experience I will say, don't Judge an unfaithful man until u hear his story.

its easy to be faithful ooo

nachezki:

Howabout when u've decided to be faithful and your partner (wifey) takes it for granted simply because she feels u can't mess. presently am in that mess right now. wifey picking quarrels, not taking to you not to talk of sex for reason at all. I know some people will say '' you both need to talk it out'' but she is not even ready to discuss anything meaningfulness. w
will post more details as time goes on, but am in a difficult situation right now, because a girl I give a lift seems to have a thing for me. just some few wks of knowing her but she feels my wifery is lucky to have me.
from experience I will say, don't Judge an unfaithful man until u hear his story.

but you judge an unfaithful woman even without hearing her story??

tope2000:

by not being a slut that sleep around

Just because you are unfaithful to your partner doesn’t mean you are sleeping around and vice versa.

To be honest to God, it is not easy for either the man or the woman.

The only thing making me to remain faithful is the fear of God and love for her.
I can only speak for myself and I cannot speak for her.
A man can never control a woman, because only she can control herself.

A man trying to control a woman is wasting his time.

nachezki:

Howabout when u've decided to be faithful and your partner (wifey) takes it for granted simply because she feels u can't mess. presently am in that mess right now. wifey picking quarrels, not taking to you not to talk of sex for reason at all. I know some people will say '' you both need to talk it out'' but she is not even ready to discuss anything meaningfulness. w
will post more details as time goes on, but am in a difficult situation right now, because a girl I give a lift seems to have a thing for me. just some few wks of knowing her but she feels my wifery is lucky to have me.
from experience I will say, don't Judge an unfaithful man until u hear his story.

You need God to help you with her at such a time like this.
Does she still love you?

A woman who truly loves you  will surely respect you.

I know the negative behaviour of your wife is making you to look for comfort outside your matrimonial home. But the one tempting you could be worse eventually.
Personally I hate homebreakers. Ignore the bitch/witch who is trying to seduce you and lure you away from your wife.
Try to ignore the rude behaviour of your wife and highlight the best things about her.

A man can never know the true character of a woman until you marry her.

I have seen many women changing after marriage.
My younger sister and elder sister are no exceptions.

Many Nigerian women hold the men to ransom once they get married.
They know you are bound by the oath of marriage, for better or worse.

My mother was married a virgin and she remained faithful to my father till death.
Even when war separated her from him, she remained faithful and even after my father's death, she remained faithful.
She was my role model and I still use her as the epitome of a faithful woman, faithful wife and faithful mother.
She was truly a God fearing woman.
The true Nigerian woman.

Nigerian women were more faithful in the past.
These days, I am praying for those who are still faithful.
The world is more carefree today.

@ Tope2000,
so love the way you put that statement, abeg tell them. their cheating ways have reasons, but in a girls case,she's condemned as a HO!!!!!

Medically, it is not good for your health to be unfaithful.


It is more complicated for women than men to be unfaithful.
Unfaithful women are always worse off eventually.
The hypocritical society does not forgive them.

ann marien:

@ Tope2000,
so love the way you put that statement, abeg tell them. their cheating ways have reasons, but in a girls case,she's condemned as a HO!!!!!

its so annoying because we live in a male domineering world they think they can do whatever

Orikinla:

Medically, it is not good for your health to be unfaithful.


It is more complicated for women than men to be unfaithful.
Unfaithful women are always worse off eventually.
The hypocritical society does not forgive them.

Blah Blah Blah, more rubbish in my ears.

tope2000:

its so annoying because we live in a male domineering world they think they can do whatever

Same when a guy has a big ego he is just "being a man" but when a woman shows a little pride, she is a feminist. Tufiakwa.

nachezki:

Howabout when u've decided to be faithful and your partner (wifey) takes it for granted simply because she feels u can't mess. presently am in that mess right now. wifey picking quarrels, not taking to you not to talk of sex for reason at all. I know some people will say '' you both need to talk it out'' but she is not even ready to discuss anything meaningfulness. w
will post more details as time goes on, but am in a difficult situation right now, because a girl I give a lift seems to have a thing for me. just some few wks of knowing her but she feels my wifery is lucky to have me.
from experience I will say, don't Judge an unfaithful man until u hear his story.

what daft story? is that the best excuse you can give? If she doesnt wanna talk to you, talk to her friend or even her relatives. It's most likely you have offended her and those people would surely know about it. I think it's better for a woman to discuss such with her dude if she's annoyed but some rather give the silent, something you SHOULD have noticed before you even married her. Making up excuses to go after some trekking ho says alot about you.
Why are guys so predictable? Of course the ho is gonna say that crap. She wants you to think she's better than your wife DUH. It's so easy to play you people. Very soon she'll "accidently" find your office and bring you food and that will be the end cos you lot are just a b unch of alajenus.

@topic
Ori, nice to hear your confession, however this is a person thing. IT is very easy being faithful. Those who have issues with being faithful need to seek the face of God.

onyinye2:

Blah Blah Blah, more rubbish in my ears.
Same when a guy has a big ego he is just "being a man" but when a woman shows a little pride, she is a feminist. Tufiakwa.

WHY ARE YOU SO ANGRY?

YOU KNOW THAT OFFLINE, YOU WOULD BE SEIZED AND TAKEN INTO MY CUSTODY IN THE NIGER DELTA AND AFTER SOME OF THE BOYS HAVE DISCIPLINED YOU, YOU WOULD BE TOO NUMB TO BE IRRITATED.

Rofl hahhahhaahha

I never knew Orinkla could get angry

Orikinla:

WHY ARE YOU SO ANGRY?

YOU KNOW THAT OFFLINE, YOU WOULD BE SEIZED AND TAKEN INTO MY CUSTODY IN THE NIGER DELTA AND AFTER SOME OF THE BOYS HAVE DISCIPLINED YOU, YOU WOULD BE TOO NUMB TO BE IRRITATED.

Oh im so scared
The big bad osuofia just threatened me
Stop throwing empty threats.
They are worthless, entertaining, but worthless
Niger Delta ke?
That makes you a big shot.
You and your propaganda of "The Formula of Women",
It is quite annoying because it is nothing but generalizing
Watch it with the all caps,
You might find yourself drinking DIM EYES

onyinye2:

Orikinla link=topic=159381.msg2646367#msg2646367 date=1218556455:

Medically, it is not good for your health to be unfaithful.


It is more complicated for women than men to be unfaithful.
Unfaithful women are always worse off eventually.
The hypocritical society does not forgive them.

Blah Blah Blah, more rubbish in my ears.

I think you may have missed the part I put in italics. Onyinye. Orikinla, isn't speaking rubbish. It seems that he's actually agreeing with you in a way. At least that's the way it seems to me. Granted, he could have said that "It is more complicated for unfaithful women than unfaithful men", but what he said still makes sense. Or maybe I'm reading wrong. . . *shrug*

natchezski abeg be quiet. So you think that by being faithful to your wife you are doing her a favor. Did both of you not say the same vows. So she should cheat when you do not meet her expectations? Oh I am sorry. You must be meeting all her expectations as such she has no reason to do anything that might upset you. So now you are using it as an excuse to carry some classless girl in your car and you no even fear to discuss your wife with her.

That alone says something about your character. She is everything that your wife is not abi. She does not nag you, she is obviously ready to jump into bed with you and that is what you need right now. Gosh. I don't even know were to start.

i feel so sorry 4 you. before i reply, would love to hear your wife's side of the story. obviously u have some fault 2. picking up a girl wont solve the problem. you'll only end up getting hurt. try and see a marriage counsellor with your madam and see what may come out of it. ive been there 2 so i sort of feel what you are going through. you still love your wife, that is why you posted this.
may God be with you.

onyinye2:

Oh im so scared
The big bad osuofia just threatened me
Stop throwing empty threats.
They are worthless, entertaining, but worthless
Niger Delta ke?
That makes you a big shot.
You and your propaganda of "The Formula of Women",
It is quite annoying because it is nothing but generalizing
Watch it with the all caps,
You might find yourself drinking DIM EYES

Even a dummy would have known that I was joking.

"The Formula of Women"?
Please, where can I get a copy?
Is there any formula for women?

WOMEN NO GET FORMULA OH, BUT DEM GET WETIN MEN NEED TO WIND AND UNWIND.

If not for the fear of God and STDS and HIV/AIDS, I would have loved to be a gigolo.
It is a great measure of a man to be faithful. expecially for me, because personally I believe One Man, One Woman is very selfish.

If not for my Chrstianity, I would be happier with free love and love as many women as I want.

It is the grace of God that is helping me so far.   

Ask my woman if you can decode her identity on Nairaland, I love sex more than Eba.
I believe God knows she is the kind I need, lest I go looking for more from Lagos to Abuja.
The fact is there are many pretty and sexy women in Nigeria and to resist them is not easy.
It is not my fault, I did not create them, and I am only being a man. So, I have to be more than a Man to be faithful and it pays as I said.
The more women you have, the more headaches you have.

Women get plenty Wahala!
Especially when dem begin weep.
Na wah!
Even speaking grammar will not help.

Please, I need my peace of mind, that is why I avoid trouble makers online and offline.

CodeRED:

@topic
Ori, nice to hear your confession, however this is a person thing. IT is very easy being faithful. Those who have issues with being faithful need to seek the face of God.

I am naturally a flirt and my mother had to keep me under her wings to discipline me, since my father had another woman.'
I am Igbo, but the fact that my sisters married none Igbo made me think my father's past life caused it.

My elder sister is my father's daughter from an Ibibio woman and my younger sister is now married to an Ibibiono man and my elder sister is married to a Rivers man and I suspect that my father must have had a Rivers woman.
I am not with an Ibibiono babe.
You know they say what goes around comes around.
I do not want her to have a love child for me and then I will end up married to an Igbo woman.
I do not want what happened to my father to happen to me.
I want God to help me to remain faithful to my woman for as long as she is faithful to me.
The day she waka, me sef I dey waka.
Finis.
Life goes on.

I do not lose sleep over women, because I can always get another one at Yaba or Oshodi market.
Women pleanty for Lagos.

While i agree in totality that it pays to be faithful, the menfolk find it difficult while it's easier for women.

Infact some pple believe men are 'genetically' made to stray,though the veracity is in doubt, i see tissues of truth in it, because men love adventures and experiment with anything they can lay their hands on.
Little wonder why you see men who have 'goddesses' as wives still stealing into their hosemaids beds at any opportuned time or going to clubhouses or motels to have a go at scruffy and smelly urchins in the street. Now b4 you start telling me abt women who itch for their drivers 'crotch' too, i think if we take a fair statistics, guys will be found to be more on the loose end.

In all, it takes the grace of God to be faithful, just be focused, think of the effect of the news on your partner should the bean be spilled and try to discipline yourself.

On the other hand infidelity could be caused by your partner, some women push their husbands outside to seek fun elsewhere with their incessant nags and troubles. However it's no justification for infidelity.

onyinye2:

Blah Blah Blah, more rubbish in my ears.
Same when a guy has a big ego he is just "being a man" but when a woman shows a little pride, she is a feminist. Tufiakwa.

Why do most times sound so irritated? Na wa o? This kin attitude nor dey lead go anywhere o!

As much as i agree it pays, it can also be annoying or hurting when it isn't reciprocated.

ThoniaSlim:

As much as i agree it pays, it can also be annoying or hurting when it isn't reciprocated.

Abi o.