Which one do girls or women prefer, THE SO CALLED "NICE GUY" OR THE HARD GUY?


There are a lot of misconceptions and erroneous or ambiguous connotations on what makes a nice guy or a hard guy.

[size=14pt]Desrochers (1995) claims that many "sensitive" men do not believe that women want "nice guys" due to their personal experiences.[5] According to McDaniel (2005), popular culture and dating advice "suggest that women claim they want a 'nice guy' because they believe that that is what is expected of them when, in reality, they want the so-called 'challenge' that comes with dating a not-so-nice guy." Urbaniak & Kilmann (2003) write that "Although women often portray themselves as wanting to date kind, sensitive, and emotionally expressive men, the nice guy stereotype contends that, when actually presented with a choice between such a 'nice guy' and an unkind, insensitive, emotionally-closed, 'macho man' or 'jerk,' they invariably reject the nice guy in favor of his "so-called" macho competitor."[/size]~

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nice_guy

Read:

[size=14pt]What's wrong with being a nice guy? Plenty, according to a local therapist[/size]

What of the hard woman in contrast to the nice woman?

Do men prefer hard women or nice women?

Personally, I do not think there is really a NICE GUY OR NICE WOMAN, there is only THE GOOD MAN OR THE GOOD WOMAN.

What most people call "Bobo Nice" in Nigeria does not exist again,


[size=14pt]She's always right- This is what those nice guys think about the women they're with. No female prefers a "Yes man". They all prefer guys who have strong beliefs and opinions and who know how to stand up tall and rise to the occasion.

~ http://ezinearticles.com/?Are-You-A-Nice-Guy?---Learn-Why-Women-Dislike-Nice-Guys&id=665670[/size]

Blah Blah Blah

Keep on spreading your propaganda of "The Formula of Women"

This is just another thread that generalizes women

Why not start seeing women as individual

Tufiakwa.

Ori, this generalization thingy is becoming a thorn in my flesh.  Yea. sometimes, based on experience with a certain genre, one may want to think that they are all alike, however, we must be openminded when making statements of this magnitude.

To answer your question, I like my guys both nice and hard. Mind you many "little boys" in big men clothes somehow think being a "hard" guy means being abusive( in all forms). Here is where education comes in. Being hard does NOT at all entails those issues. 

A nice guy can be hard and vice versa. My other half posses both qualities. He is hard, yet very nice.

the answer to this is simple, -DIEFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS!!!. kapish

this guy are you really that jobless abeg no the crowd nairaland thread with rubbish hard and nice guy my balls!

jaquan:

this guy are you really that jobless abeg no the crowd nairaland thread with rubbish hard and nice guy my balls!

Jaquan, be nice , That's why it's called a forum, where a vagrant can be KING,

jaquan:

this guy are you really that jobless abeg no the crowd nairaland thread with rubbish hard and nice guy my balls!

PLEASE, OFFER ME A JOB!

CodeRED:

Jaquan, be nice , That's why it's called a forum, where a vagrant can be KING,

Well said.

[size=24pt]Enlighten the people, generally, and tyranny and oppressions of body and mind will vanish like spirits at the dawn of day.
~ Thomas Jefferson
3rd president of US (1743 - 1826) [/size]


If ignorant respondents know trheir history, they will be wiser in their replies to general topics.

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If I spend 12 hours on Nairaland, it is better and safer than most Nigerians who rubbish and tarnish the name of Nigeria online and offline.

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[size=18pt]The legacy of knowledge is the greatest heritage.
~ Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima[/size]

I think I'll like a Hard guy with a nice guy alter-ego.
Hard on the outside, nice with me on the inside. Treating me with all the care, respect and love that can possibly be found within any man.

i like nice men who know their worth

who are self assured and confident

who know who they are and what they want

who understand that being nice and well mannered doesnt mean they are weak

A stable man is more on my prefer list.
Hard, Nice, w/e, as long as he's mature and knows what responsibility is and how to carry it out.

Orikinla:

The legacy of knowledge is the greatest heritage.
~ Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima

Exactly.

HR.hotness:

i like nice men who know their worth

who are self assured and confident

who know who they are and what they want

who understand that being nice and well mannered doesnt mean they are weak

Letz face it. . . . . . .U love Jew Men.
The yes ma'am men. . . . .

Hannibal:

Letz face it. . . . . . .You love Jew Men.
The yes ma'am men. . . . .

They do have their uses

HR.hotness:

They do have their uses

Of course, they are slave niggaz!!

Hannibal:

Of course, they are slave niggaz!!

everyman wants to be al slave deep down inside . . they just dont knw how to say it

HR.hotness:

everyman wants to be al slave deep down inside . . they just don't knw how to say it

Nah. . . . . .Don't generalise.
I like calling the shotz. . . . If the whistle is not in me mouth, it ain't going down.

HR.hotness:

everyman wants to be al slave deep down inside . . they just don't knw how to say it

this is the number 1 delusion affecting women.

debosky:

this is the number 1 delusion affecting women.

C'mon Debo

we both knw u want to be my love slave

HR.hotness:

everyman wants to be al slave deep down inside . .  they just don't knw how to say it  

TRUE TALK!!!
They love waiting on us
Hand and foot
Just don't want to admit
So they won't be seen as
SOFT.

HR.hotness:

C'mon Debo

we both knw u want to be my love slave

you THINK i want to be your love slave.

sex yes, but love slave? well i'm not that crazy about role playing.

I see onyinye also has the same delusion

debosky:

you THINK i want to be your love slave.

sex yes, but love slave? well i'm not that crazy about role playing.

Thats not what u said last night and all d other nights i had u cuffed to my bed frame

@Topic

In between. A abalancy in life is always very important