e concern u oh!

U THINK SO U NO READ THE TOPIC WELL BEFORE U OPEN AM TO VIEW,
SHIT HEAD

Bebe the earlier the better if u wan commot pls do now b4 u grow white hair in a never positive relationship.

my dear run and dont look back.

deaola thanks , but i wish it were that easy for me, its so complicated now, and my GOd i have no one close to me now to confide in and sometimes i feel like im gonna burst, he makes my friends feel uncomfortable whenever he's around and they prefer to minimise their contact with me so as not to cause me any problems, i lost my best friend from secondary school days because of him, i want to make it right with her but not until i figure out how to rid myself of this (prison guard ) before i kill myself out of frustration, ( i can never do that anyway, cant ear the pain of hurting myself, and my family too) nah he aint worth it i know, i wish i could just walk away right this moment but iv put in a lot into this and i have to take my time to get out so i dnt lose too much, than i already have, i.e Time,

if you want to remain single for the rest of your life, then fair fuc.ks!

librangyps:

deaola thanks , but i wish it were that easy for me, its so complicated now, and my GOd i have no one close to me now to confide in and sometimes i feel like im going to burst, he makes my friends feel uncomfortable whenever he's around and they prefer to minimise their contact with me so as not to cause me any problems, i lost my best friend from secondary school days because of him, i want to make it right with her but not until i figure out how to rid myself of this (prison guard ) before i kill myself out of frustration, ( i can never do that anyway, can't ear the pain of hurting myself, and my family too) nah he aint worth it i know, i wish i could just walk away right this moment but iv put in a lot into this and i have to take my time to get out so i dnt lose too much, than i already have, i.e Time,

@poster
I quite agree with Deola. If you are feeling like this right now, I believe there's no need to stay one minute longer in the relationship. The longer you delay, the more complicated things become. Its true you've put in a lot, but nothing is worth becoming a hospital-case for, believe me.
If he's this horrible now, what will he become when u're finally married? By then the bonds will be more difficult to break. It may be very painful now, but its the best thing you can do for yourself.

Peace.

@ coolruler,
it sure is, thnks,

@poster of topic
Dont make such a rash decision why not just walk out of this current relationship take out time to breathe and look out for someone better

its allowed
u can even go join the Nunnery

h

what ever rocks ur boat mate

There is no crime in being single for the rest of ur life, however, if you doing this all cos of one man, then, you are wasting ur time, cos the man will marry and wont even remember u do exist, for every bad guy you meet, there are better ones out there, so dont lose hope, just hang in there, walk out of ur current relationship if it makes u feel imprisoned, and u will find someone better.
good luck

quit. you dont need to tell us.

thanks for all the hints, i wil walk out of this relationship, and yes im still very much young, with lots of adventures ahead of me,
i shouldnt be tied down too soon anyway, i guess its always that way with the guy who disvirgins you, thinks he owns me like some property,
it wnt be easy to walk away from all this, but thats what i will do, lots of dicks to sample out there anyway, just kidding

once again , i thank u all,

@poster
whats the ctual problem with the guy and for how long have u been dating now?

3 YEARS NOW, AND THE PROBLEM WITH HIM IS THAT HE IS NOT OUTGOING EVEN WITH GUYS, HE IS NOT SOCIAL, I KNOW NOT EVERYONE IS BUT HE IS TRYING TO IMPOSE THESE CHARACTERS IN ME, BUT THATS NOT WHAT IM MADE OF AT ALL, IM BONNY, HAPPY, AND FUN GIRL, BUT HE IS TRYING TO TURN ME INTO THIS, DODDLING WAIF, HE IS OBSESSIVE AND I MEAN EXTREMELY OBSESSIVE AND POSSESIVE OF ME, AT FIRST I WAS FLATTERED HE LOVED ME SO MUCH, BUT THEN IT BECAME SUFFOCATING AND I FELT LIKE I NEEDED TO BREATH, ON COUNTLESS OCCAIONS I TRIED TALKING WITH HIM, NOT NAGGING OR QUARELLING BUT TRYING TO MAKE HIM UNDERSTAND IM NOT ENJOYING MYSELF IN THIS RELATIONSHIP, BUT INSTEAD OF HIM TO LISTEN AND TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IM FEELING, HE IS ALWAYS ON THE DEFENSIVE,

AND WHEN I TRY TO TELL HIM I NEEDED SOME SPACE, THAT HE WAS CROWDING ME TOO MUCH , HE WOULD SAY I WANT TO BE LIKE OTHER GIRLS THAT ARE FREE AND LOOSE ON THE STREETS, REALLY SICKENING,

HE GETS IN THE WAY OF EVERYTHING I DO, AND I MEAN EVERYTHING,

U HAVE TO BE IN MY SHOES TO REALLY KNOW, NOT THAT I WISH THIS ON ANYONE,

I USED TO BE THE ONE MY GIRLFRIENDS COME TO FOR ADVICE ON THEIR RELATIONSHIPS, I WAS ALWAYS THE STRONG MINDED ONE, ALWAYS THE INDEPENDENT WOMAN THINKING STRAIGHT, HOW I GOT HERE NOW BAFFLES ME AND MY FRIENDS ALSO,

if u like go 2 convent

@ idu-paul,
too late for that,

I was waiting to have the reasons for this post before i comment and now i got it.Those reasons are common these days with our so-called society babes,but i don't see it enough a reason to throw away 3 years u have invested in a relationship.I also feel three years is enough time to know your partner very well, so you should have known all these while dating,that he is kind of the conservative type.What i get from your post is you feel you are still young to be tied down, more so, you probably want to have some fun but please see how u can do it without breaking the poor guy's gentle heart.I hope time doesn't fly.

@ poster,
it is very much allowed to remain single ok?

good 4 u

librangyps:

3 YEARS NOW, AND THE PROBLEM WITH HIM IS THAT HE IS NOT OUTGOING EVEN WITH GUYS, HE IS NOT SOCIAL, I KNOW NOT EVERYONE IS BUT HE IS TRYING TO IMPOSE THESE CHARACTERS IN ME, BUT THATS NOT WHAT IM MADE OF AT ALL, IM BONNY, HAPPY, AND FUN GIRL, BUT HE IS TRYING TO TURN ME INTO THIS, DODDLING WAIF, HE IS OBSESSIVE AND I MEAN EXTREMELY OBSESSIVE AND POSSESIVE OF ME, AT FIRST I WAS FLATTERED HE LOVED ME SO MUCH, BUT THEN IT BECAME SUFFOCATING AND I FELT LIKE I NEEDED TO BREATH, ON COUNTLESS OCCAIONS I TRIED TALKING WITH HIM, NOT NAGGING OR QUARELLING BUT TRYING TO MAKE HIM UNDERSTAND IM NOT ENJOYING MYSELF IN THIS RELATIONSHIP, BUT INSTEAD OF HIM TO LISTEN AND TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IM FEELING, HE IS ALWAYS ON THE DEFENSIVE,

AND WHEN I TRY TO TELL HIM I NEEDED SOME SPACE, THAT HE WAS CROWDING ME TOO MUCH , HE WOULD SAY I WANT TO BE LIKE OTHER GIRLS THAT ARE FREE AND LOOSE ON THE STREETS, REALLY SICKENING,

HE GETS IN THE WAY OF EVERYTHING I DO, AND I MEAN EVERYTHING,

You HAVE TO BE IN MY SHOES TO REALLY KNOW, NOT THAT I WISH THIS ON ANYONE,

I USED TO BE THE ONE MY GIRLFRIENDS COME TO FOR ADVICE ON THEIR RELATIONSHIPS, I WAS ALWAYS THE STRONG MINDED ONE, ALWAYS THE INDEPENDENT WOMAN THINKING STRAIGHT, HOW I GOT HERE NOW BAFFLES ME AND MY FRIENDS ALSO,

I am quite impressed at your sincerity and honesty.

But the truth be told, you are the problem. This is a prevalent case nowadays. Women get tired of the relationship easily because the guy over loves them and shows a lot of concern thus termed and dubbed over protective. Especially if he is the first.

Then what do women want? You are too social its bad. You are a womaniser its a bad thing. You are faithful a problem too. You dont call often, they say you do not care. You start to call often and they say you are suspecting them or you dont trust them anymore.

Poster you cant eat your cake and have it. I will advice you walk out of the relationship because it would never work. But believe me good men like your present guy are hard to come by. You want to gyrate and rock the world abi? then why allow the relationship last this long? I guess you just discovered your personality and you believe it is time to flaunt it. Get adventurous, be compliant with the social world. hmmmmm

You have suceeded in using this guy. I totally disagree with him believing he owns you to himself but we need to compromise here and there to make things work. You can socialise him to a moderate level. Be open to him if your intentions are right. But i guess you do not love him anymore, that is if you really did before.

Men this is an eye opener. Many of us believe that we have the sole rights to a gal because we disvirgined her or her first love. Kindly note that all of that is history now. Only a meagre percentage of relationships that start that way truly have love existing till marriage. Those kind of gals are more hardened and unrepentant than the so called bad gals because they believe they have not had a fair share of the gyrating world. Thus playing around and using you the guy as a support to fall back to. And they are hard to catch.

Many touching cases.

My advise to men is to allow any gal that exhibits these traits to have her way. No need holding her back because you will wreck more havoc on yourself. I know it is hard to digest but its the truth. The days of my love, my darling, my all in all, Olowo ori mi and the likes are over. She don mature . Do not say you paid for her school fees and feed her family. To her all that is trash. Anything can happen and they have been happening.

And to the poster and related cases kindly thread with caution. All these things dey tire person oooo. No too spoil ground. someday you will re-crave for a man to show an iota of love or care.

librangyps:

@ idu-paul,
too late for that,

popped ur cherry already
was he the one that did it?
and caused u to start feeling this way?
just curious

disvirgined ko, disvirgined ni


@poster

your eyes don dey open now so you wan sample another dick. Sometimes it can be boring when you allow one dick into that hole all the time. Carry dey go, nobody will stop you, women will always be women and you are all good at heaping blame on good men. We didn't hear your boyfriend's part so i won't take you as being honest.


no shaking sweetie, no harm intended.

I beg dont do that oo, Just get the guy that suits ur style.

Most girls just dont know what they want so they get who wants them.
Relax and discover who you are, then you ll know the guy that deserves to be urs.
Good luck, been single good 4 a while from my school but not 4ever i beg

i have been unable to reply cos i have been in the hospital, cos my fiance found this post and i actually did turn into a hospital case, he hit my face with my laptop and shattered the screen and my face was worse off, bled from my nose pretty badly and had stitches on my lower lip,

so u guys should keep judging me, i bet u can tolerate a man treating ur sis that way tho,
anyways we are still together, im giving him anither chance to prove he can be better,,,,
as my friends would say, maybe im waiting for him to kill me

think twice or even 3ce. the grass is not always greener on the other side. suffocating relationships are bad now he adds violence to it. that is what i cant understand about a society almost everyone dont talk in a civilised manner. i would have said run fast but you said you are already giving a second chance. you have forgoten your school days friend again and all the others he prevents you from seeing

i havent forgotten, he has realised i need my space and these days he's kinda more understanding and i really do hope it lasts that way, i guess my last hospital case really shook him and embarrased him too, cos we were on a trip to Abuja when it happened , all in all i guess he's realised he has been unfair to me and i really dnt want to leave,
i do love him and hope desperately this change is for real,




thanks for wise words JJYOU

librangyps:

i have been unable to reply because i have been in the hospital, because my fiance found this post and i actually did turn into a hospital case, he hit my face with my laptop and shattered the screen and my face was worse off, bled from my nose pretty badly and had stitches on my lower lip,

so u guys should keep judging me, i bet u can tolerate a man treating ur sis that way tho,
anyways we are still together, I'm giving him anither chance to prove he can be better,,,,
as my friends would say, maybe I'm waiting for him to kill me

you must be joking, right?

@ OP

What d fu*ck r u waiting for? Until u r laid out n ur coffin?

If u r miserable as u say u r, then what d hell r u still doin in d relationship? ur constant whining on here doesnt help u in anyway and quite frankly is getting boring. . .  he hit u and u say u love him . ,   i don't get females like u sometimes. . .  get the hell out or quit boring us to death!