BY itsdelta

The reason SOME women fight over men is simple – lack.

To many women, a single man can represent a roof over their head, food in their belly, clothes on their back and most importantly – a pride in their bearing.

And quite frankly, I don’t know of many people who wouldn’t fight to protect an “investment” that guarantees them most of life’s basic necessities.

I know that I would fight anyone who tried to take my shelter away, grab my food from me and snatch the sweet out of my mouth.

I would fight anyone who made the mistake of trying to leave me nude by pulling the clothes off my back or even worse, expose me to public ridicule by making me an object of pity.

I would fight any one.

The problem though is not that we want to fight for these things or indeed that we desire to have and keep them.

The problem is that not many of us (women) exert ourselves to pursuing these things for our benefit. Why? Because we have been raised in a society where having a man equates to having all of the above – shelter, food, clothing and “respectability”.

So women fight other women because they fear to remain homeless, hungry, naked and ‘ashamed’. Sometimes wedding rings are the only things that stand between a woman and poverty.

I know many women who fight to have shelter, to have food, to have clothing by working damn hard to earn those things and whose sense of purpose gives them all the dignity they require – these are the empowered women; clawing their way to the top; understanding that they can succeed on their own.

I know many women; and I am one of them, who don’t summarize other human beings (read men) into shelter, food, clothes and status.
I find it irksome when women who have the potential to accomplish whatever they want in life opt to take a “short cut” by just getting a man to provide all the things they need and because they have chosen this dependency they make themselves vulnerable to abuse from their benefactor (read man).

Not only that, they find themselves obsessed with chasing off other women who will have had the same idea as they did, which is, “Let me find a man to take care of me.”

It seems clever, especially to the young 24 year old involved with a married older man. She gets what she wants faster and easier than her age-mates who may make the sensible choice of just working hard and slowly attaining the things they wish to have - but at what cost?

I don’t pretend to know it all but, what I am certain of is that, there is nothing for free in this life – one way or the other – people pay for what they have; through sweat or tears. The choice is yours. One way or the other - life will demand that you foot the bill.

Many women prefer to pay through tears; they prefer life’s billing system to charge them through tears of pain, suffering, abuse, rejection and misery as long as they get to drive around in flashy cars they don’t own, live in houses on whose title deeds their names don’t appear; eat food their money didn’t pay for and wear clothes they didn’t lose a cent to buy.

But men are raised differently; they are raised to expect life’s billing system to charge them in the currency called sweat; they sweat to work, to achieve because they have been told that they have to expect to “keep” someone else, to provide a shelter, food, clothing and ‘protection’ to a woman – they can even marry her so that in return she’ll wash, cook, clean and have babies.

Seems like a reasonable arrangement, right?

Well I don’t think so, I think it is unfair to expect another adult who happens to be male to carry the weight of responsibility for another adult who happens to be female, by giving him the sole obligation to sweat all life-long, while the role of the woman could just be to enjoy the fruits of his labor. Some women are raised to believe they can sell themselves to the highest bidder! It seems to be such a parasitic arrangement to me.

One way or the other, we’re gonna pay – women need to start deciding whether they want to keep settling life’s bills through tears because, as long as the culture of looking for a man to “take care” of you remains, violence against women will remain a vicious cycle.

This level of one-sided dependence is unhealthy, parasitic and creates a fertile environment for women to be abused and to resort to violence when they feel their relationships are being threatened by other women.

So women fight over men because it is matter of survival for them; it is a matter of lack, of defending a relationship that guarantees the basics they desperately need – shelter, food, clothing (and because of society’s skewed patriarchal thinking) some semblance of human dignity.

I know of some men who abuse women and tell them “you’re nothing without me” – the sad reality is; many women truly HAVE nothing unless a man grants it to them.

Parting shot: Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery; none but ourselves can free our minds (Marcus Garvey)

*yawns*...summary pls

There is the fight for love(it can be for a man/woman) .you fight to overcome family issues,relative interference nd so on.

To fight your fellow woman over a man(who isn't what fighting for) is just classless nd shows low self esteem.

Fighting to be empowered is the best kind of fight nd sadly it is only the men who have decided to fight these way. Altho I know so many women who are driven by wealth/money/positions in the society/financial stability and so on.....yeh absurd for a lady but it feels damn good having things the right way without being slutty about it.

Why fight when world population is 7,654,567,678

lokito: Why fight when world population is 7,654,567,678

Who knows? But we do...even over the unfaithful ones and the bad one ones.

zeb04: There is the fight for love(it can be for a man/woman) .you fight to overcome family issues,relative interference nd so on.

To fight your fellow woman over a man(who isn't what fighting for) is just classless nd shows low self esteem.

Fighting to be empowered is the best kind of fight nd sadly it is only the men who have decided to fight these way. Altho I know so many women who are driven by wealth/money/positions in the society/financial stability and so on.....yeh absurd for a lady but it feels damn good having things the right way without being slutty about it.

"Worth" is the right word. Tell me you won't fight to keep Dangote if he happens to be your husband and another woman is tress passing..

You called it classless, but majority of ladies, should I say 90% live off men.. It is a belief that their ultimate trophy is getting my choice man to take good care of me. If she is married, no problem but making it your life target, even when you are still single is bad. Positioning to date every man who says hello to you once he is in a JEEP.

I dey come make I read am finish

Because they dont know billions all over the world. Their world revolves around that one guy

ya its called female competition for the alpha male. its a psychological concept. It's also a fact that the person who is fighting understands that the person they are fighting for are either 'rare' or is not worth losing and they've invested too much into.
Anyways, men dont fight over women nowadays cuz alot of women are easily replaceable given the feminist movement we dont hold them in as high regard as we used to. www.nairaland.com/attachments/1533110_spoiler_pngd5f69a2126285f5cf95f5567e4cf9201

Abeg this epistle dey long to read

zeb04: There is the fight for love(it can be for a man/woman) .you fight to overcome family issues,relative interference nd so on.

To fight your fellow woman over a man(who isn't what fighting for) is just classless nd shows low self esteem.

Fighting to be empowered is the best kind of fight nd sadly it is only the men who have decided to fight these way. Altho I know so many women who are driven by wealth/money/positions in the society/financial stability and so on.....yeh absurd for a lady but it feels damn good having things the right way without being slutty about it.

The bolded are absolutely true. Fighting to be empowered is sure worth it a thousand times.

Lordabas: ya its called female competition for the alpha male. its a psychological concept. It's also a fact that the person who is fighting understands that the person they are fighting for are either 'rare' or is not worth losing and they've invested too much into.
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The women fighting are confused, by association with the man their self esteem has dropped. They forget a man should make you more not less.

Lordabas: [color=#006600]
Anyways, men dont fight over women nowadays cuz alot of women are easily replaceable given the feminist movement we dont hold them in as high regard as we used to. www.nairaland.com/attachments/1533110_spoiler_pngd5f69a2126285f5cf95f5567e4cf9201

Speak for yourself. Many times a man who won't fight for the woman he needs is the kind of man who lets life happen to him its women that fight and win him. Real men appreciate their women and hold them in high regard.