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. by LaurelP(op): 4:58pm On Jul 08, 2014*

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Re: . by Mutuwa(m): 5:01pm On Jul 08, 2014

Oya women...na tru?

*sits on a mango tree waiting*

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Re: . by HisSexcellency(m): 5:09pm On Jul 08, 2014

LaurelP: I came across dis comment by a lady in a forum and decided to share it here. Sometimes, people who are beautiful are often lonely.

⁠“Wow! It's so great to have finally found a place where beautiful people can talk about the problems we encounter in our daily lives.

I didn't know I was beautiful, I mean as a kid I was terribly shy and no beauty, even in junior high I was an ugly duckling at least that is how I felt. I was a late bloomer and looking back now I can see I was becoming beautiful but I didn't know it, I was so insecure & my peers made me feel as though I was still that ugly duck. In my 20's I knew I was attractive but still felt so insecure and thought there was something wrong with me, the few friends I had where those from high school and men rarely approached me. It wasn't until my 30's that I became more confident, not just about my looks but with who I am as a person. Now I am in my 40's, I look 10 to 15 years younger than my age, I'm beautiful...not just on the outside but on the inside as well, which we all know is more important. Everyday I am told I am beautiful whether its from a co-worker or total stranger and the compliments don't come from just men. Women tell me just as often that I am beautiful. I've had women come up to me in bars and say "I'm not gay or anything, but you are really beautiful." Woman tell me I'm beautiful in front of there husbands or boyfriends! Sometimes I look in the mirror and I just don't see it. I know I'm not ugly but I don't see what they are seeing. And the part about always being suspicious of a mans intentions is true. It takes me a long time to trust someone as I have put my heart and feelings out there for friends and lovers only to have it stomped on. Im just glad I have a place to go now where other people understand me and don't joke about it and say "Oh poor you. What a rough life you have." Still I go to bed alone...and sometimes cry myself to sleep because of the lonelyness.”

crap!!! You shouldnt generalize your plight. Your shy and thats the root cause of loneliness

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Re: . by Smartsyn(m): 5:12pm On Jul 08, 2014

I 100% agree with you on this.

Some of this fine girls can be lonely.

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Re: . by jakiedudu(m): 5:13pm On Jul 08, 2014

*Observing things afar with binnaculars, sitting on the fence*

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Re: . by fijiano202(m): 5:15pm On Jul 08, 2014

Its kinda true,my ex best friend once told me she was lonely,i never really understood what she meant until years later..then i know guys were always around her,asking her out and going on diff dates sometimes we do double date with some of her periodic bf but i never understood she was not happy.she was fuccking beautiful and had a kind soul i wish she was a bit taller i would have dump my ex for her..after 3-4yrs we met at a friends wedding and then she told me again that she was tired of been lonely..that was when i understood that if ur not happy whether in a relationship or no,u gonna feel really lonely,she said she was just dating some of the guys just not to feel alone and isolated..

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Re: . by LaurelP(op): 5:24pm On Jul 08, 2014

HisSexcellency: crap!!! You shouldnt generalize your plight. Your shy and thats the root cause of loneliness

Read d post again

Re: . by Sholah96(m): 5:25pm On Jul 08, 2014

Maybe dat's in time past. Cos nowadays, ladies knw quickly if they are beautiful due to large approach 4rm guys and flattery words, compliments or watever

Re: . by Nobody: 5:30pm On Jul 08, 2014

HisSexcellency: crap!!! You shouldnt generalize your plight. Your shy and thats the root cause of loneliness

Are you sure you read the OP?

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Re: . by LaurelP(op): 5:36pm On Jul 08, 2014

striktlymi: Are you sure you read the OP?

I wonder o

Re: . by Udeme288(m): 7:18pm On Jul 08, 2014

Very true,I have a super cute friend. But in our circle of friends,she is always the most depressed.

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Re: . by zube01(m): 9:08pm On Jul 08, 2014

I tell u from experience been shy is very bad! Makes u think u are no good when compared to the opposite peers! Op abeg which site u copy am from I get stories to share!

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Re: . by LaurelP(op): 10:13pm On Jul 08, 2014

zube01: I tell u from experience been shy is very bad! Makes u think u are no good when compared to the opposite peers! Op abeg which site u copy am from I get stories to share!

I don even forget d site name
Make I check

Re: . by missdebs(f): 10:37pm On Jul 08, 2014

Stop beefin us

Re: . by LaurelP(op): 10:51pm On Jul 08, 2014

missdebs: Stop beefin us

Kaii, see sexy eyes

Re: . by MisterLongman(m): 12:38am On Jul 09, 2014

missdebs: Stop beefin us

Are you Lonely

Re: . by MisterLongman(m): 12:38am On Jul 09, 2014

missdebs: Stop beefin us

Re: . by Ryabcool(m): 1:09am On Jul 09, 2014

missdebs: Stop beefin us

You are not beautiful. Whoever has been telling you are beautiful is only trying to get in between your legs. The highest rank you can be given is ALMOST pretty.

Anyway, i'm not surprised. Its usually the average/ugly ones with shape that make the most noise and have the most attitude.

@OP, i agree with you. Luckily I've dated TRULY beautiful girls and most of them usually had low self esteems and were emotionally needy. They have very soft hearts that can easily be broken. And when they love, they love to a fault. Nobody else matters to them except that loved one.

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Re: . by Nkem88(f): 7:32am On Jul 09, 2014

It's pretty true and understandable, to me anyway. I've never been one to categorize myself as a beauty or attractive, but others do. It has its ups and downs just like everything else in life.

Being seen as attractive causes a disturbance at work. On a number of occasions, I've had to be moved or shuffled around because of persistent or disturbing men. Women also egg them on at times. Just a month or two ago, I had to be escorted by my male supervisor from the back door of our workplace to my car because of how problematic it became. It's certainly one of the things that keeps me indoors or not going to parties or clubs. Guys see your face first and I'm one of those who would rather have my personality make an impact on someone than looks which will undeniably fade.

It takes me a while to open up to people as well, which is probably why I don't keep many friends. I have to trust someone to open up to anyone these days and call him or her a friend. I can count the number of friends I have with one hand. Men and women. One thing they all have in common is that they love and respect all of me and not just what's outside, as I do them.

Like the poster, I fell for the wrong people in the past as well, but I made sure to learn from those experiences and never let it happen again. Thankfully, the person I'm with now understands and respects every part of me and who I am.

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Re: . by vizier007(m): 7:47am On Jul 09, 2014

striktlymi: Are you sure you read the OP?

he probably wants to be the first to comment... Lol

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Re: . by Nobody: 8:26am On Jul 09, 2014

HisSexcellency: crap!!! You shouldnt generalize your plight. Your shy and thats the root cause of loneliness

he is right! Most really beautiful women are single and lonely.........desperate for that great guy and not the wussies who would kill to buy her a drink.

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Re: . by zube01(m): 8:37am On Jul 09, 2014

LaurelP: I don even forget d site name
Make I check

abeg do !

Re: . by sisiafrika(f): 9:11am On Jul 09, 2014

Ryabcool: You are not beautiful. Whoever has been telling you are beautiful is only trying to get in between your legs. The highest rank you can be given is ALMOST pretty.

Anyway, i'm not surprised. Its usually the average/ugly ones with shape that make the most noise and have the most attitude.

@OP, i agree with you. Luckily I've dated TRULY beautiful girls and most of them usually had low self esteems and were emotionally needy. They have very soft hearts that can easily be broken. And when they love, they love to a fault. Nobody else matters to them except that loved one.

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Re: . by Nobody: 9:30am On Jul 09, 2014

HisSexcellency: crap!!! You shouldnt generalize your plight. Your shy and thats the root cause of loneliness

Seconded, she either doesn't have a job, doesn't go out or doesn't mix up with people.

From her story, her complex even kept her away from marriage.

NEXT !

Re: . by nikkypearl(f): 11:34am On Jul 09, 2014

Ryabcool: You are not beautiful. Whoever has been telling you are beautiful is only trying to get in between your legs. The highest rank you can be given is ALMOST pretty.

Anyway, i'm not surprised. Its usually the average/ugly ones with shape that make the most noise and have the most attitude.

@OP, i agree with you. Luckily I've dated TRULY beautiful girls and most of them usually had low self esteems and were emotionally needy. They have very soft hearts that can easily be broken. And when they love, they love to a fault. Nobody else matters to them except that loved one.

That 's so mean!

Re: . by LaurelP(op): 12:06pm On Jul 09, 2014

[quote author=]It's pretty true and understandable, to me anyway. I've never been one to categorize myself as a beauty or attractive, but others do. It has its ups and downs just like everything else in life.

Being seen as attractive causes a disturbance at work. On a number of occasions, I've had to be moved or shuffled around because of persistent or disturbing men. Women also egg them on at times. Just a month or two ago, I had to be escorted by my male supervisor from the back door of our workplace to my car because of how problematic it became. It's certainly one of the things that keeps me indoors or not going to parties or clubs. Guys see your face first and I'm one of those who would rather have my personality make an impact on someone than looks which will undeniably fade.

It takes me a while to open up to people as well, which is probably why I don't keep many friends. I have to trust someone to open up to anyone these days and call him or her a friend. I can count the number of friends I have with one hand. Men and women. One thing they all have in common is that they love and respect all of me and not just what's outside, as I do them.

Like the poster, I fell for the wrong people in the past as well, but I made sure to learn from those experiences and never let it happen again. Thankfully, the person I'm with now understands and respects every part of me and who I am.[/quote]Nice one

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Re: . by fruityjojo(f): 12:23pm On Jul 09, 2014

Ryabcool: You are not beautiful. Whoever has been telling you are beautiful is only trying to get in between your legs. The highest rank you can be given is ALMOST pretty.

Anyway, i'm not surprised. Its usually the average/ugly ones with shape that make the most noise and have the most attitude.

@OP, i agree with you. Luckily I've dated TRULY beautiful girls and most of them usually had low self esteems and were emotionally needy. They have very soft hearts that can easily be broken. And when they love, they love to a fault. Nobody else matters to them except that loved one.

Chai! Na wa oh.
She has a pointed nose,red lips, sexy eyes, curvy figure & a very lovely, smooth complexion. What else does it take 4 a girl to be beautiful physically!?

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Re: . by solomonbrown64: 12:28pm On Jul 09, 2014

Ryabcool: You are not beautiful. Whoever has been telling you are beautiful is only trying to get in between your legs. The highest rank you can be given is ALMOST pretty.

Anyway, i'm not surprised. Its usually the average/ugly ones with shape that make the most noise and have the most attitude.

@OP, i agree with you. Luckily I've dated TRULY beautiful girls and most of them usually had low self esteems and were emotionally needy. They have very soft hearts that can easily be broken. And when they love, they love to a fault. Nobody else matters to them except that loved one.

.....Chai!, dis is pure prejudice..,....Ogini na

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Re: . by Ryabcool(m): 1:25pm On Jul 09, 2014

nikkypearl: That 's so mean!

didn't mean to be. I'm a very blunt person. Its one of my many good/bad sides; depending on how you look at it.

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Re: . by Ryabcool(m): 1:26pm On Jul 09, 2014

solomonbrown64: .....Chai!, dis is pure prejudice..,....Ogini na

Prejudice? No! Frank? Yes.

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