Look at this topic https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-18057.32.html.

But only the last few pages were he is swearing he is not a yahoo boy and he is getting married soon.
or is it another person?

Oh it is even in this topic (hahahaha).
Well thats because he has been looking for girl friend all over this forum . even in JOb section.

@ mamaput

I disagree with the bulk of your contribution here

It appears to me that you believe that having more relationship only teaches you what you can take and what you cannot take from a man/woman. Obviously a person with such outlook will never stays in any relationship because no relationship is perfect.

If you have been teaching you girls this philosophy, you may wish to reconsider it cos noting good will come out of it believe me.

Is that not what its all about. For better for worse.?
Do you not want to know what you are taking b4 u swear to God.?
You think i believe in wife submitt shi*t.
If anyone of them wants to marry as a V i wiill not stop them or advisce them aganist. But i will Also never tell them to do it.
What of you you want to tell be you do not have sex?

Sexual chastity should be encouraged if not for anything but for the avoidance of HIV/STDs.

A respected mother like you should not come out to a public forum and tell young girls to go having sex because everybody is having it or that it’s good to check out what you can or cannot take in a relationship.
You are entitled to have your perception of these things but to go peddling it as the right way is wrong; mama did not teach you to check out guys through having sex with them did she?

So quto me please were i said go and have sex.
I allow them i do not send them .
I cannot forbidd them i can only make it difficult for them.
HIV/STDs A marrage is not safe from that. A man can give that to his "brand new wife"
Its a pity that my mum did not teach me.
But you have not answered me have you had sex or not.
If yes how are we sure you will not give it to your new wife.
Or dose std know the difference between man and woman.
Do not worry on what i teach my kids , they are not going to marry into your family.
I do not teach them to fuc*K around .
I never said that go and read what i wrote very well.
All the girls you sleep with , do you think their parents know.
Should i be like them closing my eyes and fooling my self that they are brand new.
Any way two of them are still to young for that.

kajad:

Sexual chastity should be encouraged if not for anything but for the avoidance of HIV/STDs.

A respected mother like you should not come out to a public forum and tell young girls to go having sex because everybody is having it or that it’s good to check out what you can or cannot take in a relationship.
You are entitled to have your perception of these things but to go peddling it as the right way is wrong; mama did not teach you to check out guys through having sex with them did she?

bull s h i t i understand about HIV that has to do with unprotected sex, not sex before marriage some of you Nigerian men make me f u c k i n g sick talking about being a virgin, what for? when all, i mean all of you cheat on ya wife, go to the clubs and see who are there the married one are chatting women more than the single ones, hell the single one can't even get in there, so please if you want to talk about virginity START WITH YOUR SELF .

ARE YOU MARRIED IF SO WERE YOU A VIRGIN BEFORE?

IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED, ARE YOU A VIRGIN.

IF MY DAUGHTER WANTS TO F U C K LET HER F U C K.

i will teach her about respecting her self and society and the need to protect herself against HIV and other STIs, i will not tell her to wait on no dam man what the f u c k for.       

@Mamaput
When you encourage someone to have several relationship inorder to find out what she can take form a man means what?
I m not a moral theorist but if I understand it completely mutual fidelity is encouraged in marriage abi? So if one partner is unfaithful does it make good?
All I m saying is the matured and experienced ones like you should say what is right and not what you think is happening.
Why do you say some of your girls are not old enough why don’t they do whatever they like at any age, why put an age to maturity if one can do whatever he or she wants.

@coco29

I usually like to avoid hysterical contribution like yours where people are called name for there opinion, you can still disagree with me without being nasty.

I expected you to read my contribution and deduce where I was coming from b/4 attacking me, I never expressed an opinion about people being virgins; indeed you can f u ck and your daughter can f u ck whoever she pleases without any bother to me!

Please quote me right if you must.

kajad:

@coco29

I usually like to avoid hysterical contribution like yours where people are called name for there opinion, you can still disagree with me without being nasty.

I expected you to read my contribution and deduce where I was coming from b/4 attacking me, I never expressed an opinion about people being virgins; indeed you can f u ck and your daughter can f u ck whoever she pleases without any bother to me!

Please quote me right if you must.

sweetie relax and i am sorry if you feel that i have insulted you. How ever that is how i feel it is not directed at you. *hug hug hug*

@Kajad is all about the girls huh , i did not see u say anything about urself not having sex or guyz in general. Itz only the girls that should be told

Typical African mans mentality.

mamaput please dont take it personal ok! the truth is both men and women have their own portionof the blame. men are already know to hump on wat ever once u give them the opportunity. but on the contrary i think i would support the guys here not becos am a guy or something but with recent developments i have noticed of recent some girls are something else.
take a ride to ma city for once, i stay in ph if i might say protitution is now a legal trade, with girls of all sizes and ages, infact every major junction now with a beer parlour in quote would have its own breed of girls hanging around. u cant go to club and enjoy ur self cos the girls are already hanging all around the place waiting for u to slip, well u might say that is the club wat about in church these days, i was accousted by one- here is the conversation. - after service- hello hi r u going towards woji- well am going to artillery u canhop in i would drop u at the bus stop- ok thanks- while inthe car . wat do u do ? i told her. then watch this- have any girl told u that u sure ar a fine guy- Jesus i shouted - thanks i know- she continues, wat do u think if i come visit u some time i have been seein u around inchurch, i shouted really- ok why not come this evening i would be free - she hesitated hmm if i come this evening u would have topay for my services but i can just visit u now.
men this is no fiction come down to ph
but the basic truth is simple if the girls dont have customers(men) the bizness would have ended. so in a way the men are also responsible for picking up little girls (teenagers) whom in most cases due to hunger have been sent to use wat they have to survive.

What you say may be true for Nigeria But am not living in Nigeria.
What age are these girls and who sent them? why are they not at home? They have a home do they not.?
The girl you met why was she not in church with her Family.?

The Nigeria i know Girls stay at their parents home till they get married.
Please answer me these questions i will be very happy .

I say to those men that are naive, SHUT THE Bleep UP! Who disvirgined who? Are u not the No 1 culprits? If u can keep your Jonny at rest, the ladies will equally close their legs because they are in better control than men, who will sometimes go all the way raping them! Everybody is guilty of the moral decadence, it's all about CHANGE!

@Jay-O-Jay
N-A-I-V-E! . what for? People like you make me sick when all you can ask is "Who disvirgined who? It will take eternity to answer that. I mean it's like the chicken and the egg, which comes first? While I am not trying to absorb the men from any blames (as a matter of fact, I believe that men have more of the blames than women), i believe that the ability to change things around lies more in the woman than in the man.

@mamaput
I appreciate the fact that you are now beginning to allow good reasoning to prevail. As a mother I am sure you know that there is much to life and marriage than just having a good bang. Lets emphasize those other virtues and see things work out for real. Sex is good, no doubt, but I bet you it wouldn't really have matter if i have never had it. I mean I am as complete as ever if i don't have it and if I do, bingo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

bull s h i t i understand about HIV that has to do with unprotected sex, not sex before marriage some of you Nigerian men make me f u c k i n g sick talking about being a virgin, what for? when all, i mean all of you cheat on ya wife, go to the clubs and see who are there the married one are chatting women more than the single ones, hell the single one can't even get in there, so please if you want to talk about virginity START WITH YOUR SELF .

@coco29
i think a good way to approach this is consider world AIDS statistics. You will realise that it's the innocent younger girls who are either ignorant or too naive to demand for safe sex from their partner that often falls victim. Much of this can be avoided by telling them to close the gates until they are mature enough to take the decision.
Well for the married man palava, i think it's very unfair for you to entirely blame the men when we know that's what the girls actually want. It used to be "Oh you are married, I can't go out with you.God forbid!", but now it has changed to "You are married! But do you still love me, I am sure you are a man and you can handle it". Who is fooling who? If na you be man, you go say u no fit handle am. Haba!

@kajad
you speak my language man!!!!!!!!!!!!

@mamaput
I appreciate the fact that you are now beginning to allow good reasoning to prevail. As a mother I am sure you know that there is much to life and marriage than just having a good bang. Lets emphasize those other virtues and see things work out for real. Sex is good, no doubt, but I bet you it wouldn't really have matter if i have never had it. I mean I am as complete as ever if i don't have it and if I do, bingo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why now? i have been saying the same thing all along,
Yes there is more to life than sex in a marrage and to know someone you have to have lived with someone.

yeah dats right and dats because the world is advancing and is growing rapidly and full of bad things anyway it depends on the individual if u know what u want in life then sex shouldn't be ur priority and i think i'm an example of that

@ topic, so what?

All I'm going to say is, who cares? I don't. Unless those girls were raped, they know what they were doing. And no I am not talking about little girls. I am talking about girls 16 and older. It takes two to tango as they say. If a girl is offering, then the boy should say no. If the boy is pressuring, then the girl should say no. Yes there is child porn, and children being molested but that goes on everywhere, and it seems like it's so hard to shut down. Pedophiles are even sharing their files on the internet, making the crap easier to find for other perverts. They also mask their identities very well which makes it even harder to find these assholes. The point I'm making is, if the girl isn't forced to give her body up, and she does so willingly that is her business not yours. It seems like the starter of this topic is looking for a virgin to deflower himself. Someone definitely has too much free time on their hands to worry about stupid ass topics like this.

I don't know why girls in Africa develop like they do, but over here in America we are putting the blame on the foods we eat. They are filled with preservatives, steroids, and other chemicals. I developed faster than any of the other girls at my school and I was only 11. There was a young girl who as 10, but she looked like she was 21. She was tall, and her body was way overdeveloped. Sometimes it's just nature taking it's place, or here in America it's steroids taking place. Even young boys here look like grown men. It's really scary, and some people even catch a case because these kids don't even look their age and even lie about it. I tell ya. I had older men trying to pick me which is sad. Who knows why kids are developing the way they do, it's just up to the parents to instill in them values so they don't go out selling themselves short.

Don't forget that a lot of times when girls r raped they end up becoming promiscuous. So could it be some of those girls have been raped?

babe1:

Don't forget that a lot of times when girls r raped they end up becoming promiscuous. So could it be some of those girls have been raped?

WHAT!! i was raped and i am not promiscuous where the hell did you get that idea i find it hard to submit to a man i do not think that will ever happen, i hate men to talk down to me i get real aggressive but promiscuous no mate.

Where u raped young? As in 11 and 15 yrs of age? Maybe i should have said sometimes, because they end up thinking its ok to sleep around because they don't know any better. But sorry you were raped.

abi e be like say things don change,before to lose ones virginity before marriage was a taboo,but this days it seems the reverse is true i.e to reach adolesence without losing virginity is a taboo

Well, well, well.
A lot has been said and i concur with jay and kajad.
Both parties are at fault. However, when purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable. There's a lot to life and indeed the married life than sex.
* am happy to see toy's back*

babe1:

Where u raped young? As in 11 and 15 years of age? Maybe i should have said sometimes, because they end up thinking its ok to sleep around because they don't know any better. But sorry you were raped.

i was about 6-7 years old and i know it sound strange to say but in some ways i am glad it happen, i am affected in that i do not value men in the least and i do not give second chances, how ever i am very strong i do not think that there is any thing a man can do to hurt me( after all they have done the ultimate).



and i do not believe women should keep them selves for men, what for men are the most stupid creatures on this earth, some of u have beautiful wives, girlfriends and still u cheat and that women as stupid as she is will forgive only for him to say sorry again

the last time i remember being a virgin i was six years old but that does not represent who i am.

I'm tired of men decrying the virginity of women/girls!

Where is your own virginity?

Or did you want to borrow hers sha?

I guess she should be pure enough for two while you chop & go w/ every girl on the street?

Maybe Nigeria's Teenage Girls only boast about men like you. . .maybe she traded her virginity for you. . .

. . .and you were what?

Nothing?

What's so special about a tiny membrane that stretches across a woman's entrance? What do you say to those who's hymens are so tough they have to be surgically punctured by a doctor. Are they any less woman because they were 'disvirgined' by a tool?

All this hype about virginity is very irrelevant in my opinion. As long as you kjeep a clean mind [unlike me ], I don't think you have any problem.

all i will say is a lot of young girls are coerced into sex, whether by peer pressure or by the boys themselves, or by their warped sensibilities. they don't know any better. im just sad that there are ppl on this thread saying its okay to have sex as long its safe b/c u are old enough

you can have all the safe sex you want and not get preggerz or have an STD, but what about your mind? wow. to me thts like saying its okay for them to do drugs as long as they dont get caught, or become addicted and no immediately observable harm occurs. of course you wont say that because we know the effects of drugs. its because we dont know the effects of sex too soon, too fast or we choose to ignore. the day is coming,

I feel you Gigitte. But somehow I don't think men are worried about women/girls on this level.

I think they just want to be the "first to get there".

i feel you too ms. chinani

that whole first to get there nonsense is so ridic, that is why waiting for marriage is the best soln. anyway i think when we are raising our male kids, we should slap this nonsense out of their heads and not allow their dads or other men to put it back lol.