There are right ways and wrong ways of asking a girl out on a date.

The wrong way of doing this involves taking her and moving without gaining her opinion on the matter. I made the mistake of asking a girl out to a faculty dinner in University by telling her, “We’re going to the Faculty Dinner together.” I thought I was being commanding and confident. But it came off like I was the parent trying to tell her what to do, and she heavily resisted me, resulting in what I thought was going to be a sure “yes” turning into an adamant “no”.

Many guys encounter this on dates as well. They are taught to be dominant and confident, thus they pick the date and time without getting so much as any effort out of her. This makes her feel like she is being forced to do it, effectively making it so she does not buy in.

The proper way to ask a girl out on a date is by getting her opinion on the matter. You can even give her the faux impression that her input matters, but the point of it all is to make sure that she feels like a part of the process. My favorite way of doing this is to give the girl in question a couple of options when deciding to go on a date. I’ll propose to her, “Which sounds better to you – pick up some Sharwama and watch a movie, or go out for Chicken and Chips at the eatery on Main?” The latter is next to your house, and the movie-watching of the former will take place in your house, but it feels a lot friendlier than telling her she’s coming over to yours (and makes you a lot more likely to get a yes).