nairakobo:

Look at ur simple curly attachment, ur faint lip gloss, seemingly padded br*, low-waist jeans, lol, and u're here quoting scriptures that Jesus has liberated us from, na wa ooooo. My elder sister chose DLF and yet she's remains stunning. The OP isn't against her upgraded devotion, rather he wants her to remain tidy and work on her natural beauty which she had seemlingly abandoned alongside with d 'former' beauty. I'm sure if the wife can maintain wats in ur profile picture, he won't be complaining.
@op, pls help her find d balance, save ur marriage, study the bible more, love her more and pray together always. God bless u bruv.

#Classic response..


#BlessThisPost.

ammyluv2002: I understand your point....I sugguest you find a way to still love her like that cause if that's the way she has chosen to worship her God, it won't be fair for you to start cheating on her. I know guys have areas that gets them attracted to ladies but you don't really have a choice here rather you should support her and makke her feel loved.

Btw, thatz why is always good to fall in love with the someone from the inside and not because of the physical apperance cause you may get married to a queen today and by tomorrow her beauty is gone. We should be able to still love those we claim we love even if the person turns out to be a skeleton tomorrow, just take a clue from a mother's love to her child or even God's love to His children. Love should be unconditional. @OP, pls don't get me wrong o...I'm not making reference to you, just saying generally

Onyinyechi1008: Then that means that u re gonna marry a woman that doesn't ve a mind of her own. A woman who you will expect to obey you just like a tamed dog do (no offence). A wife been submissive to the husband doesn't mean that she has to be a lap dog.

lrguru: women wear high heels to boost confidence or to be sexy. Women who wear high heel with the sole purpose to obtain sexual attention are being tempted by
celebrities in the media. BUT, they are only being tempted because of lust that is already inside of them that makes them want to walk and be sexy anyway. Trying to be sexy is lust. All lust is sin. Therefore, trying to be sexy is a sin. Are you wondering, how do you attract a man (your hubby) if you’re not going to be walking or trying to be sexy? Your solution is changing how you think to our Book of truth which cannot lie.
The Bible says, “And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothing. For women who claim to be devoted to God should
make themselves attractive by living righteously. Dressing in modest apparel is a state of mind. It’s the mind-set that we will not walk or dress in anything that will draw the wrong kind of attention. As you look at the list of items spoken of, naturally this also includes the shoes we wear and how we
walk. More so, we are not to do or put anything on
trying to deliberately draw sexually alluring or conceited (vain) attention. We can still dress as nice as we want, have a confident walk and be covered appropriately.If your still getting men acknowledgin you as sexy; know this. The bible says if a man looks upon a woman and lusts in his heart then he has already committed adultery..
“But you trusted in and relied on your own
beauty and were unfaithful to God and played the
harlot [in idolatry] because of your renown, and
you poured out your fornications upon anyone
who passed by [as you worshiped the idols of
every nation which prevailed over you] and your
beauty was his.” Ezekiel 16:15

xynerise:
My question still stands

nairakobo:

Look at ur simple curly attachment, ur faint lip gloss, seemingly padded br*, low-waist jeans, lol, and u're here quoting scriptures that Jesus has liberated us from, na wa ooooo. My elder sister chose DLF and yet she's remains stunning. The OP isn't against her upgraded devotion, rather he wants her to remain tidy and work on her natural beauty which she had seemlingly abandoned alongside with d 'former' beauty. I'm sure if the wife can maintain wats in ur profile picture, he won't be complaining.
@op, pls help her find d balance, save ur marriage, study the bible more, love her more and pray together always. God bless u bruv.

Blockus:

Now you understand the fuckery I have to deal with on a regular.


The Bible says 'Wives be submissive to your husband'.. Yet this niggas wife is submissive to her Pastor and not her husband yet these niggas aint saying nothing about that.

4thsense:

[b]Oga, please provide a solution to this guy or stop questioning him like you are his father. Are you not a man?

No man, I don’t care how spiritual or his quality of integrity can stand a marital relationship with dead sexual attraction, and don’t tell me the only advice is for him to pray for God to help him endure.

Apart from the fact that our generation is driven by empty fantasies like soap operas and fake reality shows, the family, church and other platform of training and nurture for the future parents are fast losing their values for of building successful homes and this is killing the society. That is why a wife abdicates the responsibility of protecting the core of her success and fulfillment, which is a successful home in the name of religion and I say this as a very matured Christian- this is wrong.

OP, one of the good advices you can get is for you to find equally spiritual but matured adult women who are sound and civilized in thinking to help out your wife. She would most probably be willing to such people because they would show her that the bible stands contrary to that behavior. I can suggest a you refer her to a Christian women's event that has been saving marriages and producing virtuous women lately that holds today and tomorrow. Standard Alliance Building, Lekki Phase1, 6pm for both days. Direction: Enter Lekki 1 from the 2nd gate (next round about right after Lekki1 main gate round about), then enter the immediate dual road to your left; Providence street. Drive straight down, Standard Alliance building is just beside the Ford Briscoe building. Share your wife's experience with us here afterwards, hope you succeed.

Good luck.[/b]

Janetozi: deuteronomy 29 vs 5- "and i have led u forty yrs in the wilderness: ur clothes are no waxed old upon u, & thy shoe is not waxen old upon ur for" that shows that God approve of clothes and shoe but did u hear him talk about make up, eye glass and the rest? Genesis 35 vs 2 "then Jacob said unto his household, & to all that were with him, put away the strange gods that are among u, and be clean, and change ur garments: vs 4 and they gave unto Jacob all the strange gods which were in their hand, and all their earrings which were in their ears; and Jacob hi them under the oak which was by shechem" this goes further to show that God approve of garments and not earrings and the rest. Jeremiah 4 vs 3m "and when thou art spoiled wilt thou do? Though thou clothes thy self with crimson, though thou deckest thee with ornaments of gold, though thou rentest thy face with painti, in vain shalt thou make thyself fair............

**** u need a true man of God to brainwise u with the scripture**** u are wallowing in ignorance.

ammyluv2002: I understand your point....I sugguest you find a way to still love her like that cause if that's the way she has chosen to worship her God, it won't be fair for you to start cheating on her. I know guys have areas that gets them attracted to ladies but you don't really have a choice here rather you should support her and makke her feel loved.

Btw, thatz why is always good to fall in love with the someone from the inside and not because of the physical apperance cause you may get married to a queen today and by tomorrow her beauty is gone. We should be able to still love those we claim we love even if the person turns out to be a skeleton tomorrow, just take a clue from a mother's love to her child or even God's love to His children. Love should be unconditional. @OP, pls don't get me wrong o...I'm not making reference to you, just saying generally

MadCow1:



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xynerise:
And if she doesn't make-up you will have no choice than to cheat on her?

flipflop: Sir, I'm sure you did not marry her just for beauty alone. Your wife has acted on faith, you criticizing and demanding for her to change may destroy her faith. Give her your support as her husband and friend. If you feel she looks unkempt, it just because you are still looking for that woman she used to be. You suggesting cheating on her is absolutely absurd and terribly wicked. Your wife is your wife, stop loving her for the outside "beauty" and start focusing on the inward beauty that does not change or fade. *#shrugs shoulder

Blockus:


OP!!

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

One day, take her by surprise, looosen your belt and whip her like a child that she is. And when you are done, give her an ultimatum; Return to factory default setting or move out.

Dont let any pastor become the head of your family. If your biitch isnt acting right, whip her or cut the biitch off.

And its okay if you cheat now, God would understand. If Virgin Mary looked like that, she would not had been God's babymama.

Blockus:


OP!!

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

One day, take her by surprise, looosen your belt and whip her like a child that she is. And when you are done, give her an ultimatum; Return to factory default setting or move out.

Dont let any pastor become the head of your family. If your biitch isnt acting right, whip her or cut the biitch off.

And its okay if you cheat now, God would understand. If Virgin Mary looked like that, she would not had been God's babymama.

obayaya:

I don't think that's true.

The OP is going through a hard time adapting to his wife's sudden changes. And at such times, temptations abound. So far, he's been able to overcome the temptation.

He's only seeking advice on how to adapt to the changes as fast as possible and save his marriage.

The bolded is a rather harsh conclusion.

OP!!! Honestly I don't know what to tell you. I'm not married and I know very little about women and relationships. But I think you really need to remind yourself why you married your wife. The reasons you fell in love with her. I'm sure it's more than just her looks. look beyond that.

Goodluck

Wislet: look at that quotation yourself and note the main point there... "But you trusted and relied on your own beauty.......". You trusted your own beauty means you were vain about your physical appearance...you flaunted it...you thought you were above everyone else because you were beautiful...you bragged about it...you saw it as your 'achievement' in life...you were proud because of it.
That is completely away from the topic of discuss. It is completely different from a woman who dresses just to look good (as one should).
So, a woman should stop looking decent and beautiful because she doesn't want a man to look at her lustfully? If she wore provocative clothing, that is a different matter altogether.
Mr, pls. Don't preach what Christ didn't teach. Don't quote the Bible and then interpret it as your senses tell you, and then say "that's what God said". Please don't.
If you lack understanding, ask The Holy spirit to teach you and help you understand some things instead of following your religious leader blindly. He/she is not God. Every church these days interpret the Bible according to what they think. If God should open your eyes and teach you Himself, you will realize that a lot of errors are in some of these 'teachings' and 'truths' we believe today.

snowpe: l appreciate all the advice given,it makes me strong and opens my eyes more to understand something s which I didn't.by God's grace I will never cheat on her.

nkpommpko: so he should live with a mad religious brain washed fanatic? Becuase of this marriage thing. Look in a marriage its moderation, if she wants to be a warrior for christ or allah or buddha she should hit the streets and stay there!

MadCow1:



[b]Ezekiel 16:8-15King James Version (KJV)

8 Now when I passed by thee, and looked upon thee, behold, thy time was the time of love; and I spread my skirt over thee, and covered thy unclothedness: yea, I sware unto thee, and entered into a covenant with thee, saith the Lord God, and thou becamest mine.

9 Then washed I thee with water; yea, I throughly washed away thy blood from thee, and I anointed thee with oil.

10 I clothed thee also with broidered work, and shod thee with badgers' skin, and I girded thee about with fine linen, and I covered thee with silk.

11 I decked thee also with ornaments, and I put bracelets upon thy hands, and a chain on thy neck.

12 And I put a jewel on thy forehead, and earrings in thine ears, and a beautiful crown upon thine head.

13 Thus wast thou decked with gold and silver; and thy raiment was of fine linen, and silk, and broidered work; thou didst eat fine flour, and honey, and oil: and thou wast exceeding beautiful, and thou didst prosper into a kingdom.

14 And thy renown went forth among the heathen for thy beauty: for it was perfect through my comeliness, which I had put upon thee, saith the Lord God.

[/b]

lrguru: u don't seem to get it, the way we dress and walk should not be to attract the other person lustfully, n like I said, wearing high heel do make u feel sexy, and being sexy is a sin cos it makes the other gender look at you lustfully, and I qouted matthew 5:18. I'm not compellin you to do as I say, n we are all entitled to our on opinion. The world is really been brainwashed and made to think that bad things are good, I won't talk further ma'am for the Bible made it clear that we should choose Ye this days who we would follow, if you think heels are good for u, fine

snowpe: I have been married for 4years now,recently my wife listened to a preaching on the issue of jewelries,trousers and makeup.suddenly she changed and since then she have been making her self unattractive in the name of church activities.sincerely she is making me to loose interest on her,I have spoken to her about it and she refuses to change.what should I do?l am seriously trying not to cheat on her.please I need advice on what to do to save this marriage.
please moderator move this to front page for advice

Mariojane: I support u to an extent cos d op did nt mention d church she is converted to. Some churches can convince u to leave ur marriage nd without a second thought u will leave cos you believe anytin ur pastor say is d truth. Some women will leave their homes as early as 7am without cooking for their husbands all in d name of "pastor said we hv to clean d church" nd return 8pm. Op u need to hv a serious talk with ur wife not cos of her dresscode but for her not to b brainwash by a pastor nd fellow women in d church. Always remind her that u re d husband in case pastor ask her to do sometin without ur permission.d same tin is applicable to guys, some guys will even call their pastor to tell him they want to give their wives money. Just talk to her I believe she will listen cos of d luv u share