krall: Advise is that you find new boyfriend that don't have sister.

OlamiB:
I didn't say MONTHS, I said close to one month and thay was due to ASUU strike, I guess he like the place due to the fun and everything else

Etruth: @ OP, do u trust ur man? Such 'trust' issues and 'suspicious' movements are bound to happen when the foundation of the relationship is not right. Whether or not he is actually visiting his sister now, such issues will eventually come up later in ur relationship/marriage. Help ur future by building ur future on virtues e.g chastity, faithfulness, holiness, self-control. Not on concuspiscence, emotions, fleshly gratification, n fantasies. BTW: have u put to bed now? Hop u dint abort d baby? LAST BULLET: your present circumstances, is just the baggage that comes with 'YOUR KIND' of relationship. #All the best#

heatmeup: try to get close to this his sister

OlamiB:
I will, very soon.

BukkyDan: Nlanders won't kee me with laff o, see comments!

@OP, I don't wanna imagine things o...but just one action will clear your doubts.

Simply tell him you wanna go with him to his sister's birthday, start making preparations sef! Be like..."what kinda gift should WE get for her?" "what kinda clothes should we put on? Should we put on same outfits?" "Oh...I just can't wait to party with your sis, what are the things your sister likes?"
e.t.c

dearie...his reaction will give you the answers you need. Just make sure you take note of his facial expressions, his body language, his voice(is it faint with surprise or normal)...just everything.

Goodluck

OlamiB:
He sincerely doesn't mind me following him to the place

OlamiB:
I dnt know their kind of relationship in that family, maybe because she is the only girl? One of his brother has been with her for close to 3months. I am convinced she is their sister, she bears their surname.

lrguru: OP, there's nothin wrong if he goes to his sisters place in calabar and stays for a month, cos my female cousins do come over to my place and stay longer during the semester break and I see nothin wrong there. They just love coming over cos of the lively environment n how nicely I treat them. Ur BF might just love travellin to Calabar, n the only place he likes stayin is his sisters house. And BTW u said he only stayed there close to a month, n it was courtesy of the ASUU strike. If my GF is like u, thinkin I have somethin to do with my sister, I would have booted her out of my life for conceiving such thoughts. U really need help, n pls grow up

lrguru: OP, there's nothin wrong if he goes to his sisters place in calabar and stays for a month, cos my female cousins do come over to my place and stay longer during the semester break and I see nothin wrong there. They just love coming over cos of the lively environment n how nicely I treat them. Ur BF might just love travellin to Calabar, n the only place he likes stayin is his sisters house. And BTW u said he only stayed there close to a month, n it was courtesy of the ASUU strike. If my GF is like u, thinkin I have somethin to do with my sister, I would have booted her out of my life for conceiving such thoughts. U really need help, n pls grow up

lrguru: OP, there's nothin wrong if he goes to his sisters place in calabar and stays for a month, cos my female cousins do come over to my place and stay longer during the semester break and I see nothin wrong there. They just love coming over cos of the lively environment n how nicely I treat them. Ur BF might just love travellin to Calabar, n the only place he likes stayin is his sisters house. And BTW u said he only stayed there close to a month, n it was courtesy of the ASUU strike. If my GF is like u, thinkin I have somethin to do with my sister, I would have booted her out of my life for conceiving such thoughts. U really need help, n pls grow up

nikkypearl: @op..do u know I look like my boyfriend?

Bunsky: OlamiB,have u put to Bed?

OlamiB:
Soon. Tnk u

OlamiB: Dunno where or how to start, but I feel sad nd unhappy anytime my boyfriend is with his sister, she is the only girl and she is based in calabar, he travles there once in a while to visit her and each time he spends close to one month which is annoying to me, I dnt know why but it get me really angry tho I dnt show it.
He doesn't always have my time anytime he is with his sister, its either she takes him to swim or they both go for dinner party, she is the type that harbor many ladies so my BF will be practically the only guy in the room with the girls! It drives me nut!
I for once thought she is actually his gf until I saw her late last year during her last visit and to say the truth, she looks pretty well like their last born and she is also the first born too. Is this jealousy normal? Cos I feel the same thing each time he uses her pics as his DP, I wonder why he won't use mine but his sister's own not until I realize that my younger brother has also been using my own pics has his DP for a long time now, does this mean that guys love their sisters very much?
Her birthday is in a week's time and he is already plannig on how to be there for the party, I have been sad since because he will go there to be among girls, I want him only for myself, maybe am feeling insecure. He as been busy with his final year project so no time for me lately cos we dnt school in same place. My sweetheart is a handsome guy, an upcoming music artist that will become popular in less than 2years, I wonder if this is how I will feel by the time he starts going for shows and everything. Pls help

McWhillion:
Better be wise and wake up, take useful advice and be smart. I went through some of your threads and I have to say you're dealing with the wrong guy, my opinion still stands that your boyfriend is not having only you in his life.

You're one of those girls that want to change a man because you claim you're in love. I don't claim to know too much, but i know a bad guy when I hear you talk about him. I also know you're a good and somehow innocent girl. He is a sharp guy obviously and is manipulating you because you're not as sharp. You're the case of sharp guy jam innocent girl.

Obviously you've gone through a lot to keep him. He is the elusive type that doesn't want to make commitments. He is also a sweet talker and thus you're easily convinced by his talks. I guess he's your first bf or the first to make a lasting impression on you.

My advice, leave him sharpally before it's too late.Don't hate the truth because it's bitter.
Don't stay in a relationship because you "think" everything will be well.

If you want to know how committed he is to you, ask him to find a day that both of you will visit your parent. His reaction will say it all.

You can hate me for been too direct in my talks but I'm only saying what I perceive to be the truth.
You either take it or leave it.
Enjoy.

OlamiB:
We both know each other's parents and we visit each other's house at will, its only his closeness with his sister that is bothering me, moreso his sister allows many girls to live with her.

femmefatale: she neva said dre was anythn btw them, I think 1 of her fears is, her bf might get entangled wit one of his sister's friends or sth.

Dygeasy: This the OP's BF.