You wish he would take on an equal share of household or family responsibilities.


When it comes to breaking down who does what chores, the best method is having a calm, practical conversation to divvy up the duties, making a list of everything that needs to get done and then you and your partner can pick and choose which of those responsibilities you'll take on. That's because most people—men and women—just assume that their partners should do these chores on their own. It often leads to resentment, because each partner tends to remember the last time they loaded the dishwasher, but not the other way around. Sure, delegating isn't sexy, but without setting a plan it's possible that one partner will forget (or maybe they really somehow don't notice that the garbage is overflowing). Addressing it head-on leaves little room for chore-fueled animosity.


You want him to do that spooning sex move you love way more often.


Good news: Most men want their significant others to be happy and satisfied in bed.


Bad news: Men, like women, are pretty sensitive to critiques. The key to making sure he’s not offended by your suggestion is your tone. When asking him to do new things or more of what you really like during s*x, be specific about what you want, but say it in a way that is playful or sexy like a whisper. Open up the conversation by asking what his top three favorite sexual moments that you've shared are. Once he's divulged, it won't seem like your requests are coming out of the blue.

You wish she would plan more dates instead of waiting for you to come up with something to do.


Instead of asking point blank, "Why don't you ever plan anything?" suggest taking turns planning dates for each other. You picked the beer tasting event last weekend, so it's her turn to take the reins this time. Once they've organized something, really emphasize how much you appreciated it and how much fun you had. This could often be a case of low self-esteem, and positive reinforcement can help your partner see that they really picked an awesome date, that you loved it, and that they should do it more often.

You wish he would compliment you more.
You got a 10k blowout and he didn't even notice. What gives? It could be that it doesn't occur to him that you want to be complimented. We know, crazy, but think about it: Men don't generally throw around unsolicited "I love your shirts!" as much as women do. The solution? The next time he compliments you, grab his hands and looking him in the eyes while you say, "Do you know how much that turns me on and makes me feel even more attracted to you when you compliment me like that?" Boom, it's on.



You want more alone time.
Everyone needs some time to recharge on her own. So if you feel like you could use some breathing room, tell him that you need a certain amount of time to regroup by yourself. It's important to give it a time frame—like spending the weekend at the beach solo or taking the afternoon to binge on Iroko TV in your room—so that it doesn’t feel like you're asking for space indefinitely. It's also a good idea to express this in a casual way (you know, before you're at your breaking point) so it doesn't sound like you’re annoyed or shutting him out entirely.

You want him to put a ring on it.
First off, if you want to marry your partner, you always have the option of popping the question in his direction. But if you'd rather him do the asking, there’s no harm in bringing up the topic. Before you start inquiring about whether he can see himself marrying you, find out what he thinks about marriage in general. When you have a conversation about marriage in general, it shows that you respect that your partner might not be ready for it or might not want to be married at all. Once you've had that initial conversation, the more specific ones will be so much easier. "It's like ripping off a Band-Aid, and it’s the best way to find out if you're on the same page. After you’ve assessed his feelings about getting hitched, let him know that marriage is important to you and that you’d like to talk about whether he sees himself with you in the long run.

You want him to put you first more often.
It's probably not a good idea to start by saying he always needs to pick you over his buddies or his mom. That said, if you feel like you’re constantly getting blown off for the other people in his life, it's perfectly acceptable to ask where you fall on his list of priorities.Telling him that you sometimes feel less important than some of his family and friends and ask if that was his intention. Make sure you give him a chance to clarify whether he really means to put you on the backburner. Chances are he's having trouble juggling his commitments, and he may think you're content with the way it’s been unless you bring it up.

You want more affection.
The best way to see how she feels about being more hands-on (whether it's in public or at home) is to see how she reacts to your flirtatious moves. If she pulls away, let her know that you noticed that she seems uncomfortable showing affection at times and ask why. Perhaps they had a bad experience in the past with PDA or maybe their family raised them not to show much affection. Whatever the issue, let her know that you're a really affectionate person and you’d like her to be a little more open if she's willing to give it a shot. If she's not, don’t push it, that naturally makes people want to rebel or resist against it. They may come around in time, but if not, you may have to decide if this is a deal breaker for you.