How soon should a single mum reveal her status in a relationship that wunt end up dissapointing the man.
Is it at the very start of the relationship or towards the time the man is seriously in love and wants to take the relationship to the next level?

Your honest opinions please!

Is that you on your DP? Chai, Your guy try o!!

ephee: How soon should a single mum reveal her status in a relationship that wunt end up dissapointing the man.
Is it at the very start of the relationship or towards the time the man is seriously in love and wants to take the relationship to the next level?

Your honest opinions please!

Please pay no attention to insults,welcome to Nairaland.You can see they are here already......

I suggest you let him know from the onset of the relationship.Honesty is an integral part of a good relationship,why wait until the guy is in love with you?I don't think it will change anything,rather will make him despise you for not being forward and let him know what is getting into.

If you are proud and love your child,there is no need to hide their existence to anyone,especially someone you intend to share your life with.

At the start of the relationship please, in fact on the very first date.
I expect the conversation on a first date to be about things that are an important part of their lives, thus a single mum must not fail to talk about her kid(s).

At the start. Why hide it?

You don't need to go into all details. Just a one liner would do. Let him be the one to ask for the full details.

Words like..."oh, my boy likes this particular ice cream a lot" when you eat out at a place or something that would give the hint of you having a kid before. That should put him on the spotlight to ask more questions and lift the pressure off you. All you need do from then on is to answer his questions. From his questions and body language you should be able to find out many things about him and if he would be thrilled to continue things in the face of the new facts.

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Prowizy2:
Is that you on your DP? Chai, Your guy try o!!

Hw do u mean? Can u be more explicit

Tell him from the start.Let him make the decision to go ahead or not.

Tell him from the start.

ephee: How soon should a single mum reveal her status in a relationship that wunt end up dissapointing the man.
Is it at the very start of the relationship or towards the time the man is seriously in love and wants to take the relationship to the next level?

Your honest opinions please!

you don't have to start telling every tom, dïck & emeka about your status. to the men you don't want in your life, keep mum.

to the ones you think you like, tell them when they are doing the wooing. he can decide then if he likes your status or not.

ephee: How soon should a single mum reveal her status in a relationship that wunt end up dissapointing the man.
Is it at the very start of the relationship or towards the time the man is seriously in love and wants to take the relationship to the next level?

Your honest opinions please!

From the get go

sheniqua:

From the get go

Tanx dear.tout as much

coogar:

you don't have to start telling every tom, dïck & emeka about your status. to the men you don't want in your life, keep mum.

to the ones you think you like, tell them when they are doing the wooing. he can decide then if he likes your status or not.

Tanx a lot.I luv ur opinion

ephee: How soon should a single mum reveal her status in a relationship that wunt end up dissapointing the man.
Is it at the very start of the relationship or towards the time the man is seriously in love and wants to take the relationship to the next level?

Your honest opinions please!

Take it from me @ephee, the sooner the better, like as in the first 5 minutes even. You must never leave this vital info out! And I wouldn't wait until too long, as in, when you guys feel like the relationship can be something very serious, I would have him meet the kids. Their reaction should be telling on how he can match with them!

If a man really wants you, a million kids won't stop him but keeping such info till later might prompt misgivings on the part of the guy.. . . suffice it to say, let him know ASAP!

ephee:
How soon should a single mum reveal her status in a relationship that wunt end up dissapointing the man.
Is it at the very start of the relationship or towards the time the man is seriously in love and wants to take the relationship to the next level?

Your honest opinions please!

at the start of the relationship will be better,a man who really loves you will continue to.