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Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Nobody: 2:43pm On Apr 14, 2015
No one is perfect and we all make mistakes at one time or the other. And as the adage says "To sin is human,but to forgive is divine"

But I have noticed that it is always difficult for ladies that have issues out of wedlock to get a man that will love and marry them. After all,having a child isn't a disease.

Why is this so?

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Fairgodwin(m): 2:44pm On Apr 14, 2015
I am really interested in this topic. Because I have often wonder why as well.
It isn't so much of a big deal for guys who already have kid(s) to get hook up and or be married but so much of a big deal for the ladies. Why is it so? Why is the society so unfair to women?
And in some cases, it wasn't a fault of these ladies as some of them might have been victims of rape which ultimately resulted in the pregnancies, and of course, abortion was never an option (for them). Yet we fail to see reasons and embrace them as well as give them a second chance just the way we do the guys.
Like the poster below just said, maybe they truly don't want extra liability. But what about the lady who would have to take care or start looking after the guy's child from his ex? Isn't that some form of "extra liability" on the part of the guy as well?
And even in some, if not most cases, the lady wouldn't bring the child into their 'new home' so as not to put "extra liability" on the guy, yet most guys would still not want such (single mothers) women.
So what do we call this? Hypocrisy or simply Insensitivity?

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Nursy(f): 2:47pm On Apr 14, 2015
Cos the men don't want extra liability undecided

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by KillerBeauty(f): 3:00pm On Apr 14, 2015
Getting married as a single mother is challenging because.....
















I seriously don't know what to say
Sorry op cheesy cheesy

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 3:13pm On Apr 14, 2015
Duh!!!
Who says its hard to get suitors?
cheesy cheesy
They keep rolling in in triple folds
U attract what u want biko
I know lots of single mums that men are pleading to marry them
Even singles never get that kain attention
Bikonu speak for yourself alone
Its no freaking challenge
Accept me with my baggage or take a long walk
No time to waste
*whistling*
And wiggle comes to mind

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by elomepee: 3:15pm On Apr 14, 2015
Selfishness and Greed. Its the blood that flow in the men.

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by jaybee3(m): 3:19pm On Apr 14, 2015
It's not an issue and the challenge with regards to availability certainly isn't restricted to single mothers

The fact of the matter is, available single men are fast becoming an extremely rare commodity.

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 3:25pm On Apr 14, 2015
jaybee3:


The fact of the matter is, available single men are fast becoming an extremely rare commodity.



*rolls eyes*
undecided undecided

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by jaybee3(m): 3:26pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:


*rolls eyes*
undecided undecided

Na lie?

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 3:28pm On Apr 14, 2015
jaybee3:


Na lie?

Yes

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by jaybee3(m): 3:30pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:


Yes
So single guys plenty?

We are not talking about NYSC dudes and Jambites shey you know

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 3:32pm On Apr 14, 2015
jaybee3:

So single guys plenty?

We are not talking about NYSC dudes and Jambites shey you know

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by jaybee3(m): 3:36pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:
.

Lobatan

The world is certainly your oyster with that mind-set of yours

It's all about:
accepting status quo,
not feeling sorry for oneself,
being happy and comfortable in own skin

then see how the above conditions will transform you into an attractive young woman that most men would want to associate with.

It's really as simple as that

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 3:38pm On Apr 14, 2015
jaybee3:


Lobatan

The world is certainly your oyster with that mind-set of yours

It's all about:
accepting status quo,
not feeling sorry for oneself,
being happy and comfortable in own skin

then see how the above conditions will transform you into an attractive young woman that most men would want to associate with.

It's really as simple as that

undecided undecided
cheesy cheesy

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by jaybee3(m): 3:39pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:


undecided undecided

Talk jor

No dey answer me with smileys
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 3:40pm On Apr 14, 2015
jaybee3:


Talk jor

No dey answer me with smileys

Are u scoping me?
angry
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by jaybee3(m): 3:41pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:


Are u scoping me?
angry
Just say YES and see me dance skelewu
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 3:48pm On Apr 14, 2015
jaybee3:

Just say YES and see me dance skelewu

I want u dance snake in the monkeys shadow

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by pickabeau1: 3:49pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt

is that the kind of men that are looking for single mums up and down
Basically they are taking other peoples men
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by jaybee3(m): 3:52pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:


I want u dance snake in the monkeys shadow
Bo ya lo mo wipe sharp shooter ni mi

I go always find my way to my fav destination

oya na

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 3:54pm On Apr 14, 2015
pickabeau1:
Dyt

is that the kind of men that are looking for single mums up and down
Basically they are taking other peoples men

All I am saying is no man is single
They have women they just lie
We accept the lies n still love them tongue
All that matters is just be the main n highest shareholder
Lobatan
grin grin
Don't worry, I dont intend coming close to u
U hear tongue

*and I haven't met a man that's got issues with single mums, like I said, u attract ur likes*

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 3:55pm On Apr 14, 2015
jaybee3:

Bo ya lo mo wipe sharp shooter ni mi

I go always find my way to my fav destination

oya na

Clown
I miss you too
kiss kiss
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by jaybee3(m): 4:02pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:


Clown
I miss you too
kiss kiss

kiss kiss kiss
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by pickabeau1: 4:05pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:


All I am saying is no man is single
They have women they just lie
We accept the lies n still love them tongue
All that matters is just be the main n highest shareholder
Lobatan


I get this part and it is debatable
it is an opinion




grin grin
Don't worry, I dont intend coming close to u
U hear tongue

*and I haven't met a man that's got issues with single mums, like I said, u attract ur likes*

I was more interested in your statement that I know lots of single mums that men are pleading to marry them
whats the proportion of the lucky single women to the population

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 4:19pm On Apr 14, 2015
pickabeau1:





I was more interested in your statement that I know lots of single mums that men are pleading to marry them
whats the proportion of the lucky single women to the population

Like I said
You attract ur likes
Being a single mum don't mean they can't be the the best things to happen to a man
Abi the only thing that qualifies a man to marry a woman is if she's never had a child?

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by pickabeau1: 4:21pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:


Like I said
You attract ur likes
Being a single mum don't mean they can't be the the best things to happen to a man
Abi the only thing that qualifies a man to marry a woman is if she's never had a child?

No.. that is not the only thing

That was not my question

You said you know lots of cases where having a child is not an issue
explain further


The OP says it is a challenge
You say it is not

Clarify

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by cKaiser: 4:22pm On Apr 14, 2015
Most men wont want the drama involved with Single mothers

Some of them are still emotionally involved with their ex baby daddy

Some carry the baggage of what their baby daddy did to them into their new relationship

There is always the fear that the child/children from the previous marriage after spending a lot on them would never see you as their father and would still look for their own biological father

Moreover single girls are in excess demand, why would one need to go for an after 1?

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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 4:36pm On Apr 14, 2015
pickabeau1:


No.. that is not the only thing


That's the clarification sir
grin grin
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by pickabeau1: 4:37pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:


That's the clarification sir
grin grin

okido ma grin
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 4:39pm On Apr 14, 2015
pickabeau1:


okido ma grin

See as u just free
Chai
Pawa of a woman
cheesy cheesy
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by pickabeau1: 4:42pm On Apr 14, 2015
Dyt:


See as u just free
Chai
Pawa of a woman
cheesy cheesy

wetin I go do na
I agree with you perfectly that there are more enlightened relationships between guys and single moms the issues are still there and need to be well managed
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Dyt(f): 4:45pm On Apr 14, 2015
pickabeau1:


wetin I go do na
I agree with you perfectly that there are more enlightened relationships between guys and single moms the issues are still there and need to be well managed


Oya wiggle for me
cheesy cheesy
cheesy cheesy cheesy

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