Hi people, a friend met a guy who swept her off her feet, she fell in love and d guy got her pregnant in d second month of their dating, the guy insisted that she keeps d baby that he ll rush d marriage arrangements before d pregnancy gets obvious. They did introduction right away only for d guy to confess he had no penny and is still living with his parents. She gave him money to rent an apartment and moved in with him to hide away. To cut d story short, d guy maltreated her and misbehaved while she was pregnant so she decided to leave him after child birth. Now she has given birth to a pretty girl, and she now glows, looking so beautiful than even how she was before pregnancy. The guy suddenly starts being nice to her and showing her so much love and telling her how beautiful she is and even tries touching her, begging her to stay and that he ll marry her. She has decided to move on but people re advising her to marry d guy. Please, what should she do?

She should wait for another round of torture and the cycle goes thus;
From love of appearance===>another pregnancy===>torture

It is u i knw,marry him joooooo

Summersland: It is u i knw,marry him joooooo

it is not me, this is happening to a very dear friend

Odilafta: She should wait for another round of torture and the cycle goes thus;
From love of appearance===>another pregnancy===>torture

u r so right but people r saying its not nice to give birth for different men and she should also consider d baby

Odilafta: She should wait for another round of torture and the cycle goes thus;
From love of appearance===>another pregnancy===>torture

Are you saying that people don't change/repent?

Tallesty1: Are you saying that people don't change/repent?

People do

Just because they have a child together does not mean they must marry. He has shown himself as irresponsible. Men who love their women treat them kindly especially when they are preggie. They don't treat them like rag dolls then come back when she is shining.

IMO she should move on,keep shining and attract a better man to marry.

Tallesty1: Are you saying that people don't change/repent?

You took the words out from me.

Op everyone deserves a second chance but how we go about it matters.
1. She should get to know him better.
2. He should marry her properly before she moves in with him, not just introduction
3. Consider her child.

Last Bullet
What was she thinking, 2months in a relationship and she became pregnant. She seriously need to work on herself

He doesn't have a job. He is still with parents. You didn't find out and got pregnant.

When falling in love, use your head.

Tannie:

You took the words out from me.

Op everyone deserves a second chance but how we go about it matters.
1. She should get to know him better.
2. He should marry her properly before she moves in with him, not just introduction
3. Consider her child.

Last Bullet
What was she thinking, 2months in a relationship and she became pregnant. She seriously need to work on herself

It works for some people but its a big risk.

I hate to hear men maltreating their women.

andromida: Just because they have a child together does not mean they must marry. He has shown himself as irresponsible. Men who love their women treat them kindly especially when they are preggie. They don't treat them like rag dolls then come back when she is shining.

IMO she should move on,keep shining and attract a better man to marry.

Don't you think she's to blame too? Just 2month into a relationship, the next thing is pregnancy. A guy she does not even know that much. That does not show that she's responsible. People treat us the way we want to be treated.

She should just be carefully, is every much possible d guy hasn't change oh n still very much possible he has but first thing first, let him get a job n move out of his parents house, that done then marriage can come she shouldn't b in a hurry to marry him biko

Tannie:

Don't you think she's to blame too? Just 2month into a relationship, the next thing is pregnancy. A guy she does not even know that much. That does not show that she's responsible. People treat us the way we want to be treated.

leave story. People make mistakes. U r not a saint either

ngoziliz: leave story. People make mistakes. U r not a saint either

I'm not saying I am, I'm only reacting to the comment I quoted. Read the previous comments, you will see my comment.

Tannie:

Don't you think she's to blame too? Just 2month into a relationship, the next thing is pregnancy. A guy she does not even know that much. That does not show that she's responsible. People treat us the way we want to be treated.

They both made mistakes. She is lucky she is not married to him yet,not tied down and lamenting about her wicked husband.

I hope she has learnt and will choose better next time.

This man is not ready. He only wants her when she is shiny, it would seem he cannot handle the challenges that come with a real marriage not playing mama and baba.

He may grow up and he may remain immature. I wouldn't want to be stuck in a marriage with a man who cannot handle challenging times.

Hmmm...
I don't have any advice to give.

fruityjojo: Hmmm...
I don't have any advice to give.

Dumbheads can't give advice, and u know the worst thing about them is that they can't keep shut!
@OP ur friend needs to get to know the guy better before jumping into that marriage.

GovWahala:
Dumbheads can't give advice, and u know the worst thing about them is that they can't keep shut!
@OP ur friend needs to get to know the guy better before jumping into that marriage.

Silence is the best answer for a fool who bear's Govwahala!

She does need to move on; No woman should stick around an abusive relationship/ marriage, just for the sake of the kids.

fruityjojo:
Silence is the best answer for a fool who bear's Govwahala!

E pain her reach bone marrow.

GovWahala: E pain her reach bone marrow.

Lol how childish of you!

fruityjojo:
Lol how childish of you!

how Brainless of u to quote a supposed fool that needs silence.

GovWahala:
how Brainless of u to quote a supposed fool that needs silence.

Oh now I get it. Your one of those agbaya nitwit who would lyk to get popular on nairaland by quoting peeps just to spew dechets! Don't waste your time, Am too elegant to reach to the gutters to badiner with ur kind!

andromida: Just because they have a child together does not mean they must marry. He has shown himself as irresponsible. Men who love their women treat them kindly especially when they are preggie. They don't treat them like rag dolls then come back when she is shining.

IMO she should move on,keep shining and attract a better man to marry.

keep shinin? My dear, dnt be too confident abt her shinin status, bcoz there r many SINGLE TEAR RUBBER, young n sexy ladies in town who neva see husband oh. Our dear friend here is no longer tear rubber oh. Hmmmm and u knw d story. @op, tell ur friend to sit her guy down n talk. They shud find a way to resolve their differences. No perfect marriage on earth.

She should move out of the house!!!(Yes, I'm screaming) no more sex for now!!!(Still screaming btw)

That said, yes people change n bla bla bla but! I've heard of such men and the cycle will continue once she gets pregnant again.

The fact that she has a kid 4 him doesn't mean she must get married to him. Yes I knw this is 9ja n society will look down on her but would she rather be stuck in an unhappy marriage? I guess what to do next depends on the answer to this question. If. Yes then ride on.

But if she is going to give him a second chance then she should hold out on the sex thing n ask the guy to perform the marriage rights. Why? Because she'll never know if he's really serious about marrying her. But then again, the dude no even get money. Sheesh... She's really in a fix.

Can a leopard change its skin?

Adaeze003: She should move out of the house!!!(Yes, I'm screaming) no more sex for now!!!(Still screaming btw)

That said, yes people change n bla bla bla but! I've heard of such men and the cycle will continue once she gets pregnant again.

The fact that she has a kid 4 him doesn't mean she must get married to him. Yes I knw this is 9ja n society will look down on her but would she rather be stuck in an unhappy marriage? I guess what to do next depends on the answer to this question. If. Yes then ride on.

But if she is going to give him a second chance then she should hold out on the sex thing n ask the guy to perform the marriage rights. Why? Because she'll never know if he's really serious about marrying her. But then again, the dude no even get money. Sheesh... She's really in a fix.

very big fix o

Jenams: keep shinin? My dear, dnt be too confident abt her shinin status, bcoz there r many SINGLE TEAR RUBBER, young n sexy ladies in town who neva see husband oh. Our dear friend here is no longer tear rubber oh. Hmmmm and u knw d story. @op, tell ur friend to sit her guy down n talk. They shud find a way to resolve their differences. No perfect marriage on earth.

There are equally many plus one who are married and getting good suitors everyday. She should not live in fear of the unknown and stick with a man that is not useful to himself or her own self.

This is a good time to rebuild her life and be good to herself. He should go and do same, build his life.

Right now what she should be discussing with him is how they will both care for that child and they must not be married to do that.

Lessons learnt no need hanging around to fix the past.

fruityjojo:
Oh now I get it. Your one of those agbaya nitwit who would lyk to get popular on nairaland by quoting peeps just to spew dechets! Don't waste your time, Am too elegant to reach to the gutters to badiner with ur kind!

All in all I gave u sleepless night with wahala.
So Fu-ck off!