population did not need to be employed by someone else cos every one farmed to feed himself and family and did not need a degree to do that.
Now it's different, money is the fuel that runs the engine of our existence. Education, medicals, food, shelter, going to work, etc etc. When the government does not provide the basics it's all man for himself.
This is why men are quick to ask for $ex and women are quick to give it. Each one knows what the other wants. Even young boys now offer to satisfy old women for cash.

pickabeau1: delishpot a long post but i cant get the thrust of your argument

Are you saying that money is the cause of sexism

I like your point on the importance of a caring husband

Phema: Its amazing how one word (feminism) keeps some men awake at night and causes them chronic indigestion, while "real men" are busy with their lives without a care in the world about some word and having the best of marriages.

The irony of life. . . Hehehehehehe

*continues sipping my hot tea*

delishpot:

WWell not money per Se. But property, wealth, income. Be it sheep, cattle, army, war heads, weapons, etcland etc. Who ever has it has power over who ever doesn't have.
So it's same all aspect of life. From gender, to cultures, to slavery.

I was not fixed on the topic as a whole. I was just giving my view as it pertains how I believe the society should work. Esp marriage and also giving what is messing our society these days.
No mind me. Just read and nodd at the part you like and ignore my off topic parts.

Just delishpot's lamentation. This Nsobu Uwa Don confuse me. I am tired seeing how this sweet world is becoming evil and full of deaths, disease and pain. I Don tire.

SAMBARRY: speak for yourself please, thank you

Chillisauce:

Don't mind them. You no even see the user name. It should tell you something.Fear any username with names like, pretty, se xy, chick etc. Most of them are males, the others are dumb fellows who has nothing in their head but where their next mtn 400 naira will come from.

At toppic, I dont even know what the poster is saying. The end sef na waya

pickabeau1: Thats good


You made a lot of points i accept though some are not totally factual now

I see girls learning karate now and they seem to enjoy it
More ladies are taking self defense classes

I agree with you on the fact that he who pays the piper dictates the tune.. especially on racial issues


The world is what it is...a lot of vices.. immorality, indiscriminate abortions, embezzlement and misappropriation of public funds, terrorist deaths... theres a very interesting thread on campus prostitution..

May God keep us

Note : this is not limited to Nigeria only... globally there are issues...

carefreewannabe:

delishpot:

You are right. Women and men do things that back in the day they would not have been encouraged to do, from heading countries and corporations, to applying makeup and even outright gender change. And of course I know it's a global issue that's why I said it's sad when I see all the evils happening in the sweet world.
Nna mehn make Jesus do come sef make we rest. 2000years Don do humanity to make a decision and choose which path to tread.

Amen to your prayer jare. I watched some stuff on YouTube last night and it still getting at me. Chief I too sensitive OOo.

Chillisauce:


how are you?

carefreewannabe:

I am fine. I hope you are good too dear?

I have just been pondering about the "etc" in your post and I came up with many more examples but I will keep them to myself for now

pickabeau1: What did you see on Youtube

I believe that its a matter of time

Fathers train their daughters to be the best these days

delishpot:

Watching videos about end time stuff. Saw corpses of kids. From Gaza to Rwanda and all those bombs and starvation. Not any particular one Sha. All in all the world is lacking kind and sympathetic people slowly. Was reading about a video that a gypsy couple were trapped in flood. People were recording it with cell phones and laughing and giggling while the two struggled for their lives. One guy jumped in to help but couldn't do it alone he had to give up and save himself. The rest were just filming till the two drowned and then they said ah, they are gone. Where are they? Hian, have we gone so low that we no more have instinct to save lives? I heard in India people hardly stop to help those in dire need. I am happy naija has not reached that stage Sha. But slowly we may get there. On one forum where they showed 8 people crucified by Moslem extremists one guy actually said cool! His reason? People die everyday so it's no big deal. That is how evil our hearts are becoming. No sympathy, no feelings.
They are quick to spit on the corpse of a dead baby talk less of an adult that offends them.

Chillisauce:

Pls don't keep it to yourself . Your name is carefree so I expect you to lay it bare.

carefreewannabe:

You are wicked.

I will lay it bare when the right time comes. Just a hint for now, some of them begin with B / b ....

Chillisauce:

Beeevan, no!
Bellong

That's all I can think of. And both of them are correct fellas.

Pls don't keep me waiting

Say it. Say it.

carefreewannabe:

I love this comment, I would only replace the phrase "real man" by successful man.

carefreewannabe:

You are even more wicked than expected. I wasn't referring to the two you mentioned. Try harder

eighTHREAD: so the mantra is no more real men but successful men? Shifting goal post

carefreewannabe:

What does "no more real men" mean? Have I ever subscribed to this "mantra"?

eighTHREAD: your body language does

carefreewannabe:

You are even more wicked than expected. I wasn't referring to the two you mentioned. Try harder

Olivia111: Our sexual identity is largely shaped by what we
learned in slavery. Christianity and the entire
concept that a woman was created for a man
HEAVILY dictates the perceptions of what an african
relationship is supposed to be about. African
women still hold on to very strict, very limiting,
indeed very detrimental beliefs about what it
means to be a “real” African man and their
expectations thereof.
All too often, Black women want to use their supposed “gay dar” to identify any man who isn’t hyper-masculine. They make
up the most absurd, most childish things, things
that have nothing whatsoever to do with a
person’s sexual preference, to call out men who
aren’t “real men”. Black women hold men to this
ideal and have no tolerance for any deviation of
the sort, quick to emasculate them if they show a
tiny sign of vulnerability. They end up in
relationships with men who are emotionally
immature, men who are “hard”, who are not really
men but boys in the bodies of adult males and
then they cry and moan that there are no real
men and lament about the frustrations of a
relationship with someone totally incapable of
being committed and partnered.
They are the same women who are MOST apt to want the traits
in men who are the most detrimental to a healthy
relationship. They want a man who is hyper
masculine, who will pay all the bills and provide
unlimited access to funds with no strings
attached, who will blow their back out in bed, etc.

Men who identify their manhood by rap songs,
movies, and video games are immature. Men who
are obsessed with money will not share it freely,
and men who are addicted to sex will cheat on
you faster than you can blink an eye.

carefreewannabe:

And they say ALL men are logical beings

eighTHREAD: prove me illogical, that's far better than insinuating.

Chillisauce:

I can't think of any again. I wait on you then when you're ready.

carefreewannabe:

baby, babe, sweetbabe, prettybabe, s.ex.ybabe

Chillisauce:

Beeevan, no!
Bellong

That's all I can think of. And both of them are correct fellas

Chillisauce:

Beeevan, no!
Bellong

That's all I can think of. And both of them are correct fellas.

Pls don't keep me waiting

Say it. Say it.

beeevan:



Chilli pepper anything for the girls? How you dey dear?