zayhal:

It's not too much of a sacrifice if a mother decides to stay at home to take care of her kids, especially if the husband's pay is sufficient for their living, and if its not, then the woman should take up a job that won't be so demanding as to make her be away from home most of the day. The kids are usually the worst for it.
For children who are left with househelps and those taken to daycares, the stories are barely different.
No one can take care of your kids the way you would. Why bring them down when you know u're going to hand them over to others to care for them?
I love my babies too much to leave them to househelps or daycares. And what about other problems encountered with these people? Househelp palaver, if she's not stealing, she'll be too dirty, or stupid, or lazy, or whatever, so many complaints! I've never had one, but neighbours will always come to tell you their sad stories of how bad the househelp is.
And the daycares, can't even imagine my kid there. Babies are vulnerable to diseases and it's easy for them to bring home all sorts from the way they're kept with other kids.
I went with a friend to pick her daughter at d daycare one day and I didn't know when tears started dropping from my eyes at the sight I saw, kids stepping on one another, others crying at d top of their voices.
For me, no daycare, no househelp.

chiogo:

When they say househelps, It's usually a young kid about the age of the employer's kids.

If the 'househelp' who is the same kid as ur kid can do it, why can't ur kid??

Like I said, househelps= modern day slavery. Nanny is more like it because they're elderly so no case of child-abuse.

and when the kids become teenagers, no more of that.

They should be able to take care of themselves.

HR.hotness:

leaving my babies with total strangers is a no no for me, thats why we hav family. . . it worked for my mum so it has to do for me.

Baby Jinx:

A good Naija Housewife has no need for daycare because she will be at home taking care of her children.

Outstrip:

Ruby Pearl is there no other day care in your town that your nieces and nephews have to go to one that they do not change diapers or feed children. Have you said anything about it to them.

gamechange:

Also it is worth noting here that for those who take on  children of school age as domestics, please , please please, give them a chance at education or vocation.

Tell me who’s responsible for what we teach our children
Is it the internet ? Or the stars on television Why o why o

ajiri avae:

first let me address the statement that house help is modern slavery. there are house keepers everywhere in the world. in nigeria we now have agencies that provide both day and live in help.there is dignity in labour so lets stop sounding like its a curse to take care of people as house keepers. besides don't we costantly complain about unemployment.all we should be concerned about is that under aged children are protected from child labour.
second, all this talk about other people watching kids while parents work is getting annoying. why do we go through the trouble of educating ourselves if we are going to be berated for trying to make something of ourselves. the important thing is to make sure that parents spend quality time with their kids when they are around. make sure the kids have unlimited access to you and talk to them about everything. a stay at home mother who is not close to her children is just as bad as a woman who is never around.
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Totally agree . If you can afford to have a steward , why the heck not , my thots are don't exploit the person (pay a fair wage and dont give them demeaning work i.e anything you wont do yourself ) and dont hire a child .

Child care experts actuall say that day care can be beneficial to a child at a certain age , it helps the child to socialise and build up their immunity as they are exposed to germs from other children (take this advise at your own risk) . But off course it should not be a substitute for proper parenting or spending bonding time with you young child.