TV01:

Men hey? Why the upset?

Just because everytime he calls his sons name he is reminded of the man that first shined, polished and buffed his wife's congo, the one who popped her cherry. The one who pillaged and plundered her virgin territory. Who plucked it like a guitar, flipped it up, turned it over, positioned it and turned it around. The striker who worked his way into her box and scored. Repeatedly! Header, back-heel, nutmeg and volley. The tap-in, long range thunderbolt, half-volley and penalty strike.

A permanent reminder of another player - who may have been better. Someone he'll suspect he's "substitute too" and not a "replacement for".

And he can't actually do anything to prove otherwise - this guy is immortalised and a legend - as his wife will always have this romanticised ideal of loffaboy in her head.

Such treachery - that's why he's refusing to play! Name change, transfer or substitution .


TV

I like your mastery of words here dude. All those explanation of "flipping it up and turning it around" are not necessary to make your point yet you showed a good command of words.

@Poster
The one thing I also thought of after reading about the problem is for them to simply change the child's name if the husband can't stand his son answering the name of his wife's ex. An ex of mine called me up two months ago asking me to remind him of my middle name and telling me that he is naming his newly born daughter after me. I told him "your wife is not gonna like it" and he was like "My wife does not know your name". I hope this kind of problem does not rear its head one day for them.

This one nawa oo, they don't do things like that

This woman sabi find trouble sha.

The name should be changed, if not the man will never get over it.
And she should please get over the dead lover.

crackhaus: The hypocrisy by a lot of females on this thread is utterly suffocating. Damn

Simple solution @OP, Let the husband insist on making use of the child's other (middle)name as the primary name on all his documents henceforth...this is what I would do if I were to be in this situation.

Everyone has at least two names, so I would most surely turn the child's middle name into a first name and relegate the ex's name to become the middle initial, everyone stays happy...and should the wife find this change upsetting, be clear and sure to remind her that it's just a name.

Bros, me sef tire for the hypocrisy being displayed here. Should issues arise, you'll hear/read comments like 'He's an immature hothead who isn't ripe to father a home!', 'divorce him!!!' 'What kind of a man is he?! Christ!!!', bla bla bla!!!!

'It is just a name!'

He's insecure
He's not a 'real' man

pickabeau1: He's insecure
He's not a 'real' man

How could I have missed this? Then you'll see lectures of how a real man is from A....

The man should simply hire an artist to construct/paint a massive photo of his ex on the living room wall, in memory of the sweet relationship

It's just a harmless photo!

Emotional cheat.

Who knows if the dead ex is even "sexually" visiting her in the dream sef

I fear some women o..

honeric01: Emotional cheat.

Who knows if the dead ex is even "sexually" visiting her in the dream sef

I fear some women o..

Godforbid!

Acidosis: The man should simply hire an artist to construct/paint a massive photo of his ex on the living room wall, in memory of the sweet relationship

It's just a harmless photo!

Huh going to the extreme just cos of a name?

They should better change that child's name ASAP. Which kin YEYE love. Except if the child is for the late boyfriend.

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EfemenaXY:
Nope, concern and fight do not mean the same thing in my dictionary. The tone of your post however implies that you'll bring down hail and brimstone on your spouse's head, if she dares name your child after a deceased ex's name.

The tone of my message suggest nothing close to all youve been insinuating! Apparently not everyone who can construct an error free sentence knows how to comprehend! Nothing in my response implies violence, kindly look up the meaning of grouse and educate me.

EfemenaXY:
~ Your child sharing the same as that of a dead ex becomes suspect of what? A crime? If yes, what's the crime?
~ What "role" are fond memories of a dead ex playing? And in what sort of thing? Is it a crime to have fond memories of a person she dated before meeting you? So what are those fond memories a guilty suspect of? That she's cheating on you? Sleeping with the deceased ex?

You ask if it is a crime. I never said it is, I only mentioned it would bring about cause for concern. You also would like to know if its a crime to have memories of an ex, pls go back to my post where I mentioned, I don't have a problem with that but I do have a problem with her naming my first son after her ex.

Since you can't quote me without interjections completely unrelated to my post, I would like to say adios.

3cycle:
Huh going to the extreme just cos of a name?

over-reacting just cos of a portrait?

3cycle:
Godforbid!

God forbids wetin? as if this doesn't happen..

There is every possibility

luvablesam:

I know its harsh but some comments here are just appalling!

That's why you act like you don't see 'em

merieam16: Tell d guy 2 b matured its just a name

it is not just a name, it goes beyond that

kika23:
That's why you act like you don't see 'em

Some people tru their unhealthy comments corrupt people Knowingly. Its truly annoying though av learnt to ignore

Very-very-very bad.
Coming from a family woman
If @all u wanto honour any1 by naming ur 1st son after him, it should be ur husband, not an ex, let alone a late ex.

When it's not that the ex was responsible for the pregnancy...

If am the guy, thankGod the boy hasn't written Common Entrance or WAEC bc na that day we go change the name. Damn... what was she thinking?

honeric01: Emotional cheat.

Who knows if the dead ex is even "sexually" visiting her in the dream sef

I fear some women o..

...incubus....

Reminds me of dru hill - sleeping in my bed

When the son sleeps on the mums chest, her ex is literally sleeping in her bed


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Ixip0K2r10

pickabeau1:

...incubus....

Reminds me of dru hill - sleeping in my bed

When the son sleeps on the mums chest, her ex is literally sleeping in her bed


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Ixip0K2r10

My "ex" died in a car accident we were in. He died, and I was left with a scratch and a bleeding heart (figurative). My s/o knows his name etc. If I tried something like that, he would so know.

To those saying it's just a name, that's not necessarily true. At least not in most cases, we often name children for those we love. Still, it's been done. What's there to do now, but move on? I think changing the name now would be overkill, especially if the child is old enough to know his name. It's not that serious.

I wondering why she told him all of the sudden? Some things are better left unsaid.

EnlightenedSoul: My "ex" died in a car accident we were in. He died, and I was left with a scratch and a bleeding heart (figurative). My s/o knows his name etc. If I tried something like that, he would so know.

To those saying it's just a name, that's not necessarily true. At least not in most cases, we often name children for those we love. Still, it's been done. What's there to do now, but move on? I think changing the name now would be overkill, especially if the child is old enough to know his name. It's not that serious.

I wondering why she told him all of the sudden? Some things are better left unsaid.

Some things are better left un-done.

Acidosis:

Some things are better left un-done.

Lol it's not that serious IMO

EnlightenedSoul:

Lol it's not that serious IMO

hehe,

freakcin: .

The tone of my message suggest nothing close to all youve been insinuating! Apparently not everyone who can construct an error free sentence knows how to comprehend! Nothing in my response implies violence, kindly look up the meaning of grouse and educate me.

You ask if it is a crime. I never said it is, I only mentioned it would bring about cause for concern. You also would like to know if its a crime to have memories of an ex, pls go back to my post where I mentioned, I don't have a problem with that but I do have a problem with her naming my first son after her ex.

Since you can't quote me without interjections completely unrelated to my post, I would like to say adios.

Re: the bolded, I will not.

Adios too.

Kachisbarbie: Very-very-very bad.
Coming from a family woman
If @all u wanto honour any1 by naming ur 1st son after him, it should be ur husband, not an ex, let alone a late ex.

When it's not that the ex was responsible for the pregnancy...

If am the guy, thankGod the boy hasn't written Common Entrance or WAEC bc na that day we go change the name. Damn... what was she thinking?

Sup.. Didn't c the mail o. Kindly resend again: olanrewaju_ameen@yahoo.ca

Some forget to wear their thinking caps when going into marriage. I do not know right now if that woman is more stupid than insensitive.



If I was the husband, I would change the name of that child with immediate effect!

Tufiakwa!

TV01:

Men hey? Why the upset?

Just because everytime he calls his sons name he is reminded of the man that first shined, polished and buffed his wife's congo, the one who popped her cherry. The one who pillaged and plundered her virgin territory. Who plucked it like a guitar, flipped it up, turned it over, positioned it and turned it around. The striker who worked his way into her box and scored. Repeatedly! Header, back-heel, nutmeg and volley. The tap-in, long range thunderbolt, half-volley and penalty strike.

A permanent reminder of another player - who may have been better. Someone he'll suspect he's "substitute too" and not a "replacement for".

And he can't actually do anything to prove otherwise - this guy is immortalised and a legend - as his wife will always have this romanticised ideal of loffaboy in her head.

Such treachery - that's why he's refusing to play! Name change, transfer or substitution .


TV

Classic. This is the post of the year.

The husband should not change the name. If the child is anything more than 5 years old, you don't want the child asking too many questions. Changing the name is irrelevant at this point in my opinion but I might be wrong.

But seriously, that woman has a lot of explanations to make. How can you do that and expect your husband to be ok with it. Don't some of these women know that men have feelings too. Its like some women just don't get it that men have feelings. They do hurtful things to their husbands and when he reacts, they even call him immature. Things that they can never take.

Good thing is that even most of the women here have also condemned her so this case is clear. The wife should just apologize and come up with a good story.

merieam16: Tell d guy 2 b matured its just a name

R u well?

She's never going to forget that ex dead or not,every time she calls the child,she'll remember him.

shooze: I find it strange that people expect the husband to just accept it. If tables were turned I would be really hurt. I can't imagine my husband naming my child after an ex dead or not. I would take it to mean that a part of him still yearns for what would have been and he is not totally happy in the marriage

I find it very disrespectful

The only one reasoning with brain..